Inferiority and Transcendence 1 I find some ideas put forward in this book very interesting. The author's ideas are different from mine, which broadens my horizons.
At first, I scoffed at the importance of cooperation mentioned by the author. Later, I learned that cooperation here is extensive. My understanding of this is that, for example, if I order a takeaway now, it will at least involve the cooperation of me, the delivery staff, the chef, the programmer and others. Therefore, it can also be said that playing one's part in society is cooperation.
Later, the author mentioned the concepts of inferiority and superiority. I agree that many human goals are essentially the pursuit of superiority. According to my personal experience, when the sense of superiority is insufficient or lacking, I will begin to feel inferior and doubt. It is mentioned in the book that we need to understand the relationship between the methods people adopt (the original text is actually to choose a certain disease, but I don't quite agree) and the goal of superiority. The author then suggested that the method is understandable, and what needs to be changed is the goal. After the goal changes, the habits and attitudes of the mind will also change. He doesn't have to use old habits and attitudes, but an attitude suitable for his new goals will replace them.
The author emphasizes that a person should make contributions and cooperate in society, which makes me feel that I am an extremely incompatible person. Seeing such words makes me feel particularly nonsense. Later, I felt that the author gradually justified himself, but I still felt that there was a conflict with my own ideas, just knowing the author's ideas. He mentioned personal goals and social goals, which will have adverse effects when they are inconsistent; For example, the parties become narrow-minded and go to the anti-social road. I think this is quite right. It is not in line with the mainstream of society, and it will be really difficult to survive. If the goal is not consistent with the public, it will be very tired.
The author also mentioned the influence of early memory on people's later life and gave some examples. Some of them look quite touching, as if they feel something, but they don't know how to express it. One thing I quite agree with the author is that the relationship in the family should be equal. I think few families in China want to do this. Of course, the realization of this point sounds idealistic and really enviable.
It still took a lot of genius to finish reading this book, which caused some contents to be forgotten and it was difficult to understand it as a whole. This is also the reflection of the coal miner's poor reading comprehension ability, which requires us to continue to work hard in the future.
The book "Feeling of Inferiority and Transcendence" mentions that most girls feel inferior to their female identity in adolescence, and they show their sincere admiration for men because of their sincere dissatisfaction with their identity.
They will express their admiration for men in many ways: sometimes they will show their disgust and escape from men; Sometimes, although I like men, I am very shy in front of men and even speechless. They can't face the party with men, and it will be embarrassing to encounter this situation. When I am old, I will verbally express my intention to get married, but I have not put it into action. They don't touch the opposite sex, and they don't make friends with the opposite sex.
Seeing this passage gave me great feelings, because these characteristics were reflected in all stages of my youth, but I never thought about whether I hated my female identity.
I think I am an independent woman in a new era, and I have an independent sense of gender equality since I was a child. But when I really began to reflect on this issue, I found that I showed "disgust with my female identity" on many issues.
For example, when I was young, I felt that girls must get good grades, otherwise it would be a very shameful thing; For example, I used to think that boys must take the initiative when getting along with the opposite sex. Although this idea has long been abandoned by me, when I really get along with the opposite sex, I still hope that they will move forward positively. Emotionally, I still hope that they are enthusiastic and active, and I hope that he likes me first and then likes him. It's still hard for me to admit that I like boys on my own initiative.
But at the same time, I thought it was not good, but I couldn't do it at the same time, so I fell into a very distorted mode. I never explored the real reason behind this idea.
When did my dislike of my female identity begin? Is it true that in family relationships, mothers always rely on their fathers to start? Or did it start with the inability to accept the strength of your father? Or from a TV series? Or did the news say that women were treated unfairly?
I don't know. I never doubted it. I just feel very entangled and have been in this embarrassing situation.
So when I meet the opposite sex, get along with the opposite sex and want to enter a relationship, I will also start to struggle. I hope the other person is enthusiastic but can't express my true thoughts. I dare not like the other person, and I can't even believe that I have been liked.
Such an idea may be more in line with the inferiority of gender identity. Now that we have found this, it is easier to know how to face the original entanglement and later troubles with a better attitude, regain confidence in gender and ourselves, and solve similar situations in a better way. Good, one to explore his own direction.
After reading Inferiority and Transcendence, 3 articles: A Yu; Adler, the founder of individual psychology school, I heard his name from his population more than once, so I read this work on the recommendation of my friend. I can't read this book. I always feel illogical, as if the author speaks wherever he thinks.
Most importantly, the article is irrelevant. I did see Adler's various interpretations of the reasons for inferiority in the book, but I didn't go beyond it. Perhaps my understanding is not strong, I can only say that this book is far from my expectation.
Throughout the book, Adler has been emphasizing the importance of cooperation and dedication to others. It seems that only by doing these two things can we solve the problems caused by inferiority complex. But I don't think he knows much about inferiority.
Because of his poor health, he felt inferior in childhood. Later, through my own efforts, I succeeded in overcoming it and made many achievements in my own field. Of course, people who satirize him are his motivation.
In this regard, I can only say that he has never experienced inferiority. People who really feel inferior will not work hard because of other people's excessive words and deeds. On the contrary, they will agree with this view. Even if these views are not in line with the actual situation, people with inferiority will accept them completely and take them seriously without a bottom line.
Can't people with inferiority cooperate with others? Are you unwilling to give it to others? That's not true. The more people feel inferior, the more they try to integrate into society and their own groups. They are eager to be one of them, but the results are often unsatisfactory.
Why? Because people around you don't have so much patience and tolerance. Many times, people who feel inferior are not lacking in ability. For example, a person with low self-esteem has the ability of 10 in some way, and how will they feel after reading it. Because of his inferiority complex, he often only shows 2, which is a manifestation of incompetence in the eyes of others and cannot be recognized and trusted. In addition, he will not hesitate to' believe' the objective evaluation of others, and this cycle will eventually become an infinite cycle.
It is undeniable that anyone related to neurosis is related to unpleasant childhood experiences. Since the development of psychology, most of them still stay in the analysis of the causes of the results, and few people will do preventive work. For those who are eager to get rid of the pain of the past, what they are eager for is not why I am sick, but how I should treat myself. After all, neurosis is very different from physical diseases, and various medical means can only be used as an aid. The real joint lies in the patient's own awakening.
If you want to solve the problem of inferiority complex, I suggest not reading this book for the time being. You can read seligman's book on positive psychology, at least you can see hope.
After reading Inferiority and Transcendence, I wanted to read this book a long time ago, but it was too professional to turn it over. However, during the National Day holiday, the day school opened a stress reading class for this book, which is really difficult for people like me who can't finish reading tasks on weekends and holidays. Lao Mao said, try it? After some ideological struggle, I paid the 30 yuan deposit and started a new round of reading trip.
Inferiority and Transcendence is a masterpiece of individual psychology. Altay, the author, together with Freud and Jung, became the three giants of psychology. I took the course of Freud's dream interpretation in college, thinking that it would give people the feeling of dream interpretation after learning it. But at that time, I heard a lot of fog, and I couldn't understand what I was saying. I only remember that the teacher suffered from leg disease and sat in a wheelchair to teach this course.
Later, I gradually learned about several schools of psychological credits, thinking that I had a chance to know more about them. So I heard Inferiority and Transcendence when I was listening to books, and I hoarded this book when I was engaged in activities.
In recent years, there are always some opinions that blame the improper behavior of adults on a certain problem in childhood, which makes people feel that these problems are irreversible. Altay also agrees with some viewpoints, but he agrees that we can achieve self-transcendence by analyzing the causes of inferiority and training.
In the first chapter, it tells us that the true meaning of life lies in dedication and cooperation. Only by living with an open mind can we cooperate with others to the greatest extent and realize our self-worth. The second chapter tells us that in order to help and educate people, we must interpret his environment and his thoughts and practice of choosing life in this environment. Although this book was written about 100 years ago, the viewpoint of win-win cooperation and serving the society is still useful today.
I am very happy to read this book at this time. At the beginning of school, the child's class teacher gave the parents a book list, which contained "Inferiority and Transcendence". The two chapters I read today made me feel the importance of family relationship, parent-child relationship and family education in early life.
Just this year, because one thing reminded me of my youth, I began to consider two seemingly opposite concepts: superiority and inferiority. There are many forms of inferiority, and people with inferiority will also show it in various forms, including fear, nervousness, and a little arrogance and indifference. Only those who realize the deep reasons of their inferiority can face up to their inferiority and a series of problems caused by it.
And the early memories will accompany us all our lives. From all kinds of cases in the book, remind me what kind of attitude and mood I should use as a mother to treat all kinds of problems in the process of children's growth and all kinds of emotional reactions they show. As the closest person, my methods may affect their lives. Educate yourself and grow together!
After reading Inferiority and Transcendence, in fact, everyone will feel inferior, because everyone is dissatisfied with himself. Some people succeed and some people fail because, after feeling inferior, you will try to change the status quo, improve your satisfaction or refuse to try any change in order to avoid frustration.
Inferiority and Transcendence is the representative work of Adler, a pioneer of individual psychology. The author of this book tells us that to understand a person, we must start with his past, and a person's lifestyle is consistent with his knowledge and understanding of past experiences. Inferiority is not terrible. The key lies in how to understand your inferiority, overcome difficulties and surpass yourself. The author analyzes the changes of individual psychology and outlook on life from everyone's different childhood experiences and growth environment.
This book is mainly divided into two parts to describe, to understand inferiority and transcend inferiority, and to find the ultimate meaning of life. "Each of us has a different sense of inferiority, because we all want to make ourselves better and live a better life." The pursuit of superiority is the commonality of human beings. The author combines theory with examples to deeply analyze inferiority and its transcendence.
In fact, everyone will have different degrees of inferiority, at all stages of life. We all have our own shortcomings and weaknesses, and when we compare with the advantages of others, we will naturally feel inferior. But inferiority itself is not good or bad, and the influence of inferiority on people is also determined according to personal cognition. For an optimistic person, inferiority will make him realize his shortcomings, thus encouraging him to overcome his shortcomings and tap his potential. For negative people, it will cause an ideological blow and make them lose hope for individuals and families, which is not conducive to development.
Another important point in the book is dedication. Adler told us that the meaning of life lies in the satisfaction of dedication and teamwork with others. Only when people are integrated into the collective and society can they feel the meaning of life and realize their self-worth.
The book "Inferiority and Transcendence" allows us to re-examine ourselves and guide us to better grasp ourselves, transcend inferiority and establish self-confidence on the road of life. This book analyzes the feeling of inferiority in detail and puts forward different ideas and viewpoints from the past. Inferiority and transcendence influence and transform each other, which constitutes an understanding of the meaning of life.
After reading Inferiority and Transcendence, Adler alfred adler is a famous psychologist. In his book Inferiority and Transcendence, he mentioned that each of us has a certain degree of inferiority complex. If all mankind thinks that we are particularly excellent, there will be no invention and creation, and there will be no human progress.
A good life is a complete sweater. No matter how much you love, you can't weave yourself in, otherwise it will be an extra thread that will be mercilessly cut off. The key is what is the way to surpass? If you use the wrong method, the result will be very bad.
There is a kind of person who has been hurt and felt inferior when he was a child, so he especially wants to get ahead. So when he grows up, he will try his best to make money, and do whatever it takes to make money, even hurting his relationship with the people around him. Therefore, there are many unhappy rich people or high-ranking officials in society who live a miserable life.
In the popular TV series, we saw that when Zhao was arrested, his family was full of money. He believes that as long as he has money, he can make up for his inferiority.
There is also a kind of person who feels inferior after being bullied. In order to make others afraid of him, he will bully others and even commit violent crimes. Psychologist Adler said: All violent criminals are cowards. In the absence of effective solutions, violence is the simplest and easiest way to overcome inferiority complex.
There is also a kind of person who thinks that he can't do well, so he always suffers from various "diseases", such as agoraphobia, schizophrenia and split personality. For example, there is a young man who still wets the bed in his twenties, and there is no problem in the physical examination, but he just can't overcome it, because he thinks he hasn't grown up yet, so he uses this method to escape the feeling of inferiority.
Therefore, using the wrong method to resist inferiority will lead to various problems and even mental illness. Adler said that the only correct way is to link one's own value with the social value, solve problems for the society, cooperate and care for others, and realize the growth of one's own value. Let yourself feel useful to society, improve your value in society and reduce your inferiority, so that you can live a stable and happy life.
Adler pointed out a way of life for young people. Whether we are office workers, entrepreneurs or freelancers, we should always feel connected with society. Only in this way can we live more valuable and happier. Otherwise, no matter how much money you earn, how quickly you get promoted and how big your house is, you will always feel empty and lonely inside.
After reading Inferiority and Transcendence, 7 Well, I already feel inferior, and I will always feel inferior, just like a habit. I don't know where to go without him.
I knew that I felt inferior for a long time, but I really began to understand my situation by reading Alfred's Inferiority and Transcendence. How can I put it? Many psychology students don't want to find out what the whole human psychological state is, and they don't want to get entangled in the experimental contents of sensory perception and memory, but want to solve their own problems.
According to this book, one factor of people's inferiority is their physical defects. I think I know. When I was a child, I was competitive and thought I should have what others had, but everyone else was tall and I didn't. The problem of height has bothered me for a long time, so that I think it is particularly funny in college that the whole simulation team is 1.92 meters tall and shares a dormitory with me. You don't understand this psychological process. I run just to run as fast as they do in class. The reason is that inferiority comes from comparison. There is no harm without comparison, and the standard of comparison comes from the understanding of society. So there is inferiority in society. Although the article is about individual psychology, how can we escape social pollution?
Society, the evil demon king, produces too much bad water. For example, in poverty, one year during the Spring Festival, the family could not afford to buy coal for heating. At that time, I was helpless to the extreme, and I felt inferior to my bones. I worked hard just to change. Therefore, inferiority is also the source of motivation for people to surpass. Some people will say that your efforts because of inferiority are to catch up, not to surpass. What I want to say is that what we want to surpass is our once unbearable self. Everyone's development needs primitive accumulation. Some people have money, some people have knowledge, and some people have some unexpected resources. For children without umbrellas, they can only run like hell.
Yes, if you don't run forward, there is no retreat. Sometimes, the easiest way not to feel inferior is not to compare. Some people choose to avoid everyone, turn a deaf ear to study, close their social circle and seek temporary peace. But it's like a drug addiction, eating you up again and again. Some people solve it from the fundamental psychology of people, and they are beyond nature. What others call birth! Sometimes I choose Ah Q's spiritual victory method to coax my heart and calm him down. Sometimes I face the reality-although I am short, my burden is heavy. What is honed is a state of mind. The most terrible thing at this time is not how deep it is, but whether it has bottomed out. Everyone knows if it's great. Fortunately, in this state of mind, I saw the root of my inner inferiority, and I began to learn to solve it.
After reading Inferiority and Transcendence, most of my friends said that psychology is a highly theoretical subject. After reading Inferiority and Transcendence by Austrian psychologist alfred adler, I found the other side of psychology, which is also an applied subject.
In Inferiority and Transcendence, Adler describes the image of inferiority, its influence on personal behavior, and how individuals can overcome inferiority and turn it into the pursuit of superior status in order to achieve brilliant achievements.
Adler said that when a person is faced with a problem that he can't cope with, he says he can't solve it at all. At this time, inferiority complex appeared. Inferiority is an emotion that everyone will appear when they grow up.
The author of this book mentioned the influence of childhood on people. If childhood is often neglected by parents, they will be introverted and feel inferior when they grow up. To avoid this situation, parents must make changes, give their children enough love and care, and encourage them to enhance their self-confidence.
On the contrary, if children spoil them too much, they will rely on their parents and be self-centered. Of course, let alone cooperate with others. Without parents, when they find that they are not the center of everyone, they will not accept it, feel inferior and will not associate with others again. They will have no sense of cooperation in their future life and work, and it is difficult to make great achievements.
Adler believes that everyone has a congenital physical or psychological defect, which determines that everyone has an inferiority complex in the subconscious. The best way to eliminate inferiority is to establish a sense of superiority, which comes from inferiority. By establishing a sense of superiority, you can cultivate your ability to transcend inferiority.
In life, each of us has different degrees of inferiority complex, because we all want to make ourselves better and live a better life. In an ideal situation, we can transform the environment and improve ourselves through this inferiority mentality, so as to gain a sense of security and establish a sense of superiority. But sometimes, in order to get rid of inferiority, we choose the wrong way and the wrong goal, and finally inferiority will turn into various psychological obstacles and mental diseases.
Psychology books not only teach people to know themselves constantly, but also encourage people to improve themselves.
Inferiority and transcendence are a kind of competition between self and self, a real dialogue with self, a process of learning from self, and another life closely related to self.
After reading Inferiority and Transcendence, I always feel that I am an inferior person. Although I will be generous in front of others, it is actually to cover up my inferiority.
I used to think that excellent people would not feel inferior, but then I gradually found some people around me who I thought were much better than me. They all feel inferior at times. After all, there are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people. Maybe only a frog in the well won't feel inferior.
Adler also said in Inferiority and Transcendence that each of us has a sense of inferiority to varying degrees, because we all want to make ourselves better and live a better life.
So inferiority complex is useless, on the contrary, it can promote our progress.
But not the more the better. If you feel too inferior, you will lose confidence in life and dare not do anything. In this case, it is difficult to make progress. But it may also lead to inferiority complex, thus gaining a sense of superiority in the wrong way.
What is inferiority complex?
Adler said: "If a person feels powerless when facing a difficult problem, the resulting emotion is called inferiority complex."
I once had a colleague who always liked to brag about what he had in front of us, such as where he traveled, what good things he bought, which high-end restaurant he went to eat, and so on. We didn't really envy her after listening, but felt that she was very sad. We gained a sense of superiority and existence by showing off. This is because this sense of superiority is empty and cannot reduce her inferiority complex.
Adler said: "Because inferiority makes a person feel anxious, he will seek superiority to compensate his emotions, but the purpose of doing so is not to solve the problem, but to hide the real problem." Therefore, his activities are limited, and he will focus on how to avoid failure instead of trying to solve the problem. Difficulties brought him only hesitation, hesitation and retreat. "
Therefore, it is still necessary to have a clear understanding of yourself and know what shortcomings you have, but don't feel inferior because of this, but try to improve. For example, the recently popular video number has gathered a group of outstanding people from all over the world and all walks of life. It really feels like they've been crushed. They are really excellent and share a lot of things that I haven't even heard before. The gap is too big. However, if you stop because of this, then this life is doomed to be mediocre. So I adjust my mentality and strive to improve in my own field, not blindly comparing with others, but comparing with myself yesterday, as long as I keep improving.
Finally, I quote from Mr. Jiang Yang: "No matter what life path you take, there are always people looking up to you and others looking down on you. You look up and feel inferior, and you bow your head and be complacent. Only by looking directly can you see your true self. "
Feeling after Reading Inferiority and Transcendence 10 Inferiority and Transcendence is a work about individual psychology by Austrian writer alfred adler. The author analyzes the individual psychological characteristics of human survival, growth, life, work and social interaction from twelve aspects, such as the meaning of life, body and mind, inferiority and superiority, and puts forward scientific solutions to the above problems. After reading this book, I benefited a lot, not only from a deeper understanding of my life, but also from a new understanding of my work.
The article "The Influence of School" in Inferiority and Transcendence tells us: "Teachers should become psychologists and learn to understand students' overall personality and the inertia of their various manifestations, so as to better enter students and help them." "Being a psychologist" sounds tall at first glance. In fact, all the teaching work we do is related to people's psychology. Because students come from different families and are influenced by different education, they have formed different personalities and behaviors. In the process of class, homework, games, work and getting along with others, their psychology is different and their behavior is naturally different. This has brought challenges to the development of teacher work. Therefore, if teachers want to carry out their work smoothly and improve their work efficiency, they must make their education and teaching conform to the psychological development of students. Therefore, teachers must have a very clear and objective understanding of their students' situation and "prescribe the right medicine" according to their characteristics.
The article "The Influence of School" also lists several typical problem students for us, among which the analysis of "lazy" students makes me have a deeper understanding of the psychology of several students in this class who have not finished their homework for a long time. The book says, "lazy children never feel defeated because they have never faced a real test." He always tries to avoid the immediate problems and refuses to compare with others easily. " When they fail, they will laugh at themselves: I am just lazy, not incompetent. When he makes a little progress and the teacher encourages him, he will feel that he has won the attention and love of the teacher with no effort. Why risk losing his attention? Looking back, my education of "special comrades" in this class is completely in line with the author's analysis. It seems that my so-called severe criticism, warm companionship and patient explanation can solve temporary problems, but they have not touched their laziness. What to do in the future is really a question of "a long way to go, Xiu Yuan".
Feeling inferior and surpassing after reading 1 1 There are thousands of things in the world, and we will experience many things, and these things are more important to us, so what meaning do they give us in life?
I have just finished reading the related contents in Inferiority and Transcendence: the meaning given to us by life. The author of this book is alfred adler. In his article, he pointed out that if a person wants to live in a simple environment without meaning, then he must be very unfortunate: he will lose the basis of communication with people around him, and his behavior will have no influence on himself or others, so there will be no meaning. We always feel the reality with the meaning we give it. What we feel is not the reality itself, but the meaning it gives us, or our feelings are our own interpretation of reality.
It is also pointed out that generally speaking, human beings interpret the meaning of life through their own behaviors, and almost everyone only expresses this question and its answer through their own behaviors. If we observe a person's behavior, regardless of his words, we will find that his posture, attitude, movements, expressions, manners, aspirations, habits, characteristics and so on all reflect his personal understanding of the "meaning of life". The meaning of life varies from person to person, which is why life has countless meanings. All the meanings of life change between these two extremes. Different people give different meanings to life, but to different degrees: some are wonderful, some are terrible, some are more wrong, and some are less wrong. A better meaning of life has some characteristics of the same life. The poor meaning of life lacks these characteristics.
We must bear in mind that "truth" refers to the truth of people, the truth of people's goals and plans. In addition, there is no other so-called "truth". If there are other "truths", it has nothing to do with us. We can't know this "truth", so this "truth" is meaningless.
The life of each of us, from birth, is meaningless in itself. And if we want to make our life meaningful, then this kind of "meaning" needs each of us to give it to ourselves the day after tomorrow. Some people like ordinary life, but live a contented life. This kind of stability is what they give themselves. Some people like colorful life and adventure. This expectation and uncertainty about life is the meaning they give to life. In the journey of life, everyone's choice of life path is different, but as long as you think clearly about what kind of life you want to live and what kind of lifestyle you like, then life is complete.