Literally, we mean "getting drunk" rather than "drinking".
For most people, "drinking a glass of wine" has long meant a happy time for friends to laugh and laugh. We all have all kinds of memories and expectations (sometimes anxiety) based on the age of each of us and the surrounding environment when we first drank.
It may remind us of cold beer, cocktails, gin and tonic water, whisky and beer, a sip of red wine or something like that.
Over and over again, in the early drinking process of most people, the expectation of alcohol can always meet the actual needs of drinking.
If every time is just right, we will naturally think that "drinking a glass of wine" is a pleasant experience, which not only meets our own needs, but also does not exceed the norms of religious customs. At the same time, it satisfies our desires, caters to the etiquette of social occasions, and helps us relax, cheer up and realize our various pursuit goals. For example, a 55-year-old Finn, when someone asks him for a drink, can't help but immediately think of the warmth brought by drinking a glass or two of brandy or vodka in cold weather when he was young.
If she is a young woman, she may immediately think of a gorgeous crystal cup filled with champagne, fragrant clothes, intimate friendship and romantic atmosphere, or a young man with jeans, beard and long hair at a rock concert, taking out a bottle of booze from a bag full of bottled wine, with flashing lights and smoke, and everyone screaming and screaming, which is exciting. A member of AA said: "Have a drink" is almost synonymous with eating pizza and drinking beer.
Another 78-year-old widow said that when she was in a nursing home, she often couldn't help but think of the habit of drinking a glass of sherry before going to bed. Although this kind of drinking is very natural in our minds, it is misleading in our current situation, and this is also the way some of us start drinking.
If this is the process of drinking, it is unlikely that we will deteriorate into a drinking problem in the future. However, if we look at the process of drinking fearlessly, we will find that no matter how hard we try, there has never been such a perfect and magical moment in our last few years or months of drinking.
On the contrary, we have repeatedly found that our actual drinking amount is far greater than this, which always leads to some kind of trouble in the end. Maybe we just feel a little guilty about drinking too much in private.
But sometimes it will turn into a fierce quarrel, which will affect your work and even lead to serious diseases, accidents, or legal and financial problems. So, when a suggestion of "drinking" appears, now we try to recall the whole process from the beginning of drinking to the last poor drunkenness and hangover.
General friends invite us to drink, which generally refers to the way of entertainment and a cup or two of tasting.
But if we carefully recall all the details of the pain caused by the last drunkenness, we will not be confused by the long-standing impression of "drinking a glass of wine" in our minds.
Now we can frankly admit that in terms of our real physiological reaction, we are quite sure that a cup of yellow soup means that we will get drunk again sooner or later, which will bring a series of troubles.
Drinking no longer means music and joy to us, but memories of illness and regret. A member of Alcoholics Anonymous once said, "I know that if I go to a bar for a drink now, it will never be the same again, just spend a little time and some money."
This drink will exhaust my bank account, my family, my house, my car, my job, my reason and even my life. This is really too big, too expensive and too risky. "
He remembers the last time he got drunk, not the first time he drank.
Several common situations of "wine responsibility"
① Intentional drinking type.
Once upon a time, in the "wine culture" of many places, the unspoken rule of "don't get drunk and don't return" was formed, so drinking wine between banquets became a habit. In the case of personal injury compensation caused by drinking, because the drinker knows that excessive drinking will cause damage to people's health, if the damage occurs, it can be considered as a direct and intentional subjective fault. According to relevant laws and regulations, drinkers should bear the main legal liability for compensation.
② Indulge in drinking.
A "drinking buddy" drinks with a drinker while knowing that he has a certain disease or a limited amount of alcohol, or finds an adverse reaction after drinking, and knowing that there are other adverse consequences (such as drunk driving), but still fails to perform the obligation of dissuasion. If the life safety of the "drinking buddy" is ignored, which leads to the personal injury consequences of the "drinking buddy", it should be determined that the person who drinks with the victim has indirect intentional fault. According to the relevant laws and regulations, the person who drinks with the victim.
③ No rescue type.
Because of the existence of the "drinking agreement", the two sides not only reached a tacit understanding of drinking, but also had the convenience and characteristics to easily obtain and find out whether the drinker was drunk or not. From the perspective of cybernetics and information dissemination principles, drinkers have the right to notify in time when they find any adverse reactions. In this case, if a fellow drinker violates one or several or all of the above obligations and causes personal injury to other "drinkers", it shall be deemed that the behavior of the fellow drinker has causal effect on the occurrence of the injury consequence, and the fellow drinker shall bear corresponding liability for compensation according to the proportion of causal effect. The basis of this view is the second paragraph of Article 3 of the Supreme People's Court's Interpretation on Several Issues Concerning the Application of Laws in the Trial of Personal Injury Compensation Cases: "If two or more persons are not at the same fault, but several acts they carry out are indirectly merged to produce the same damage, they shall bear the corresponding liability for compensation according to the size of the fault or the proportion of the causes."
Neither side is at fault.
There have also been cases in judicial practice: one "drinking buddy" only advised another "drinking buddy" to drink a small amount of wine, and the other person became ill or even died, while the drinker did not know his illness before, and the advised person also thought that drinking a small amount of wine would not be dangerous. In this case, according to the fair responsibility, the drinker can be ordered to bear the compensation responsibility appropriately. Its basis is Article 132 of the General Principles of Civil Law: "If the parties are not at fault for causing damage, they may share civil liability according to the actual situation." On the whole, the principle of fault liability applies to the first three, and the principle of fair liability applies to the fourth.