To say "reinvent your mind" is actually to help you upgrade your cognition and see yourself outside the original world.
First of all, a strong inner class
1, Life is a long-term and continuous accumulation: Peng Minghui on Dilemma and Choice?
My evaluation: four stars.
This is a good book for thinking about life.
The author of the book, Professor Peng Minghui from Tsinghua University, Taiwan Province Province, wrote in the book:
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He took Chen Shuju of Taiwan Province Province as an example. Chen Shuju of Taiwan Province Province sells vegetables for a living, and her life is extremely simple. However, over the years, she has been donating the money saved to charity, totaling $320,000, to help out-of-school children, orphanages and libraries, and became one of the most influential 100 people in the world in 20 10 of Time magazine.
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2. "The world is so sinister, you have to be strong inside."
My evaluation: three stars.
I don't agree with some ideas in this book. Then why do you recommend it? Because I think this book is worth reading, as a training of logical thinking.
From the title of the book, we can already know that this book has nothing more than two contents, one is that the world is so sinister, and the other is how to be strong inside. Why does the author say that "the world is so dangerous" is because the rules of the game are unequal and because you are not strong enough inside. How to be strong inside? Simply put, break the "ceremony" and hit others psychologically.
I don't entirely agree with the author. First of all, is the world sinister? This is a matter that varies from person to person and cannot be generalized. I told such a story in the lecture. The name of the story is Dentist. This is about the relationship between dentists and crocodiles. Crocodiles are afraid of dentists and tooth extraction. Dentists are also afraid of crocodiles and their bites, so they are all afraid of each other. Then, after we finally met, we quickly pulled it out. They said that our lifelong dream was never to see crocodiles again. The dentist said that the crocodile said that I never want to see the dentist again. Why? Because crocodiles and dentists have been taught by their mothers since childhood that dentists (crocodiles) are terrible. Similarly, there are stories like "I'm at my wit's end" and "There's a splash". I won't paste and copy, Baidu will know. In short, the story means that if you think the world is dangerous, it is because of your knowledge of the world. Secondly, do you have to be strong inside? I don't think so. If you live a good life and don't think there is anything wrong with the world, why do you have to fight against the world and yourself? The inner strength is first built on the logic of confrontation, that is, "you are not good at me." And if we have studied logic, we will know that "hello, I am good, hello everyone" is actually possible.
Of course, this book still has many merits. For example, the author puts forward the ranking of social values, which I call "ceremony" for short. What is "courtesy" or "social value ranking"? Is to go to the elders' home in the New Year, and be respectful. When you meet a leader, you should be modest and serve the big with small clothes. And this is actually the rules of the game, you don't have to abide by it. When you realize this, you can enter the state of acting, and your heart will naturally begin to change.
3, "The world is so sinister, you have to be strong inside 2"
My evaluation: three stars
Remember the oriental girl in Aunt Zheng's the legendary swordsman? Let's not talk about oriental girls for a while. Let's talk about Ling Huchong and Tian Boguang.
What kind of person is Ling Huchong? According to the so-called "psychoanalysis" method created by Comrade Shi Yong in the book "The world is so sinister, you have to be strong inside", Ling Huchong is a person with five-star psychological animal index, one-star psychological protection index and one-star psychological strength index. He loves drinking too much, and it is easy to join in the fun and offend people on impulse. Once injured, he continued to drink. He is simply a child who has not grown up. Can be said to be the most incompetent big brother. And Tian Boguang is a what kind of person? Similarly, with the method of "psychoanalysis", Tian Boguang is a person with a psychological animal index of five stars, a psychological protection index of five stars and a psychological strength index of three stars. He is a flower thief. He plays Jianghu and seldom gets sad.
If you had a choice, would you choose Ling Huchong or Tian Boguang?
This is Ling Huchong, of course. Besides, you can learn from the Nine Swords of Dugu to attract stars and get a beautiful woman back. Why not? But Tian Boguang is not bad, but his reputation is too ugly. Ling Huchong is also called Linghu Shaoxia, and Tian Boguang is a rogue!
See here, or some people have a little understanding, this kind of "psychological analysis" method of Comrade Shi Yong, just like the Ten Elders of Huashan thought they were on the precipice, and they didn't want to take it out to deal with the "unique skill" of the Wuyue Sword Sect before they died, and they had a terrible fight with ordinary people. When they play against the masters, they are ever-changing in one move and one style, which makes you look down on them. Although Ling Huchong is often degraded as a psychological animal, he has a good nature and personality, and naturally has a good life. And Tian Boguang, in fact, is not bad, if there are no those stains, it would be better.
The problem is that everyone has his shortcomings, and his heart is as strong as five stars, which may make him the Yue Buqun in the palace. My suggestion is that you can read this book and learn how Yue Buqun, a hypocrite and a real villain, plays with psychological tactics. You have to make yourself sacred, but it is also a kind of weakness.
4. Look directly at the sun: Conquering the fear of death?
My evaluation: four stars.
As the book says, "At the age of 75, the author explored the fear of death that is common in people's hearts but has been denied and suppressed for a long time. In addition to 23 actual cases and many examples in literary masterpieces and film works, the author also reveals and deeply analyzes his inner fear of death as an ordinary old man, which is very rare. " Maybe you want to vomit: "No wonder he wrote about death. He is 75 years old and not afraid of death. It's strange." However, when you finish reading this book, you will definitely have new feelings. In other words, each of us may pass by death at any time (I'm really not cursing you). For example, a deep impression of death in my memory is that a smell I used to like suddenly made me feel sick. I thought of it when I analyzed the reason, because my grandmother died in the summer vacation of freshman year, and it was the kind of incense that was lit in the room to cover up the smell of the body. I associate the smell of incense with my aversion to death.
When I read this book, I can't help thinking about all kinds of things related to death in my life, and then I was surprised to find that when I was an ignorant child, I was not afraid of death. On the contrary, when I watched the wizards working for my grandmother, when I followed the adults to carry the coffin up the mountain in the middle of the night, I just felt fresh and interesting. In other words, it is the way we look at death that affects our view of death. In this book, the author will emphasize this point repeatedly.
This book is recommended for people who are troubled by death, people who are interested in psychological counseling and people who love to think.
Second, communicate with people.
1, "Ripple words: 1 1 positive ideas to change the relationship between people and me"
My evaluation: four stars.
The text of this book is roughly as follows.
When it comes to choice, we often hear ourselves or others say, "I have no choice." "This is the right choice." "That was the wrong choice." Do you agree with this statement?
Do I really have no choice? You know, doing nothing is also an option. It's not that you have no choice, it's just that you don't want other choices.
Is every choice right or wrong? There is an obvious choice between right and wrong, that is, multiple-choice questions on the test paper, choices in life, and what you choose, which you take seriously, is your best choice. "The Road Few People Walk" said that there were two forks in the jungle, and I chose the one few people walked. Since then, everything has become different.
Do you always feel that your mood is decided by others? It is rare to have a holiday on May Day, but the weather is not beautiful. I'm unhappy. I hate God. I have an appointment to have dinner with my lover, and TA can't come temporarily. I am in a bad mood. It's all TA's fault.
Are you used to giving the key to your mood to others? In fact, you can choose to be sad or remind yourself to be happy. You can sulk or you can let yourself not care. When others try to annoy you, the smartest thing to do is not to let your emotions be controlled by TA and not to let yourself fall into the trap of TA. Of course, learning to control your choices takes a lifetime of practice, but we can do it, so that the affected negative emotions can be shortened.
Please follow me and say to yourself, I won't give others the ability to destroy my good mood, but let myself be cool!
I am very grateful to my parents. If they hadn't asked me to decide their major in the college entrance examination, I wouldn't have become attached to psychology. I am very grateful to my parents. If they hadn't told me every time I suffered a major setback, it doesn't matter, don't worry, I wouldn't have such a calm personality now. Some people may say, I hope you are lucky. I'm not as lucky as you. Choosing a major is my parents' decision as well. Indeed, if you have more democratic parents, maybe your life will change, but please don't forget that what others impose on you won't work unless you want to. You don't have to. You just choose to make an excuse for yourself.
You can change it from today if you like. First, change your attitude towards life. Are you the cause or the result of your life? Have you created your own life? Since others can make my life and I can make my life, why should I give the initiative to others?
Please follow me and tell yourself that my life is up to me.
Faced with choices, we often want to find the best one. How to judge? We may be able to judge whether the choice you face belongs to "fear choice" or "growth choice". For example, in class, you can't hear what the teacher says. At this time, you can choose to pretend that you don't know anything, or you can raise your hand and ask the teacher to explain it again. The former is a "choice of fear" and the latter is a "choice of growth". The Choice of Fear helps you reduce your fears and fears, and the Choice of Growth helps you grow. Of course, it does not mean that "the choice of growth" is always better than "the choice of fear". Whatever you choose, you have to bear it.
So, don't tell yourself what I want to do, tell yourself more about what I choose to do.
2. The most popular EQ course in Silicon Valley
My evaluation: four stars.
It is an emotional intelligence class, but it is actually a meditation class; It is rare to combine emotional intelligence with meditation and explain it scientifically and concretely. A peaceful mind can bring world peace. In fact, meditation is similar to the self-cultivation of psychological counselors.
3. "How to make the person you love fall in love with you"
My evaluation: four stars.
The book is full of dry goods, and both men and women can gain all kinds of love skills. After reading this book, I designed a series of love courses, which are very popular with students.