I saw a long list of WeChat voices from Liu Na, saying that I am having a hard time now, and then saying that I am unlucky and always meet people. I don't even know how to reply.
In fact, Liu Na sends me and another classmate, Zhenzi, a whole string of voices almost every night. It's annoying to vomit her marital problems.
Liu Na was born with a sharp voice and a loud voice. Every time I see her voice, she denounces her ex-husband for not making progress, and complains that her current husband and in-laws don't attach importance to her and ignore her. I feel numb in my scalp.
Although every time Liu Na tells her story, she always looks angry and makes herself miserable and innocent, as if she were the most unfortunate victim in the world.
But I don't think Liu Na has been wronged. To put it bluntly, she can only ask to lift a rock and hit her own feet, and she must smash a good deck of cards, and she can't blame others.
In Zhen Zi's words, Liu Na is a typical immortal. The point is that she doesn't know where she is wrong yet. I don't know what's wrong with adult married women. This is the most terrible place.
02
Liu Na is my deskmate in high school. Because of her beauty, many boys chased her since she was a child. When she was a student, we all praised her and called her "Ban Hua".
Liu Na dropped out of high school next semester. At that time, some boys from other schools chased her, and she didn't even study. I eloped with that boy, and they went to Hangzhou and Shanghai to work. We secretly mocked her as a "love brain".
When we were in college, Liu Na also broke up with that boy. Later, Liu Na talked about several boyfriends, but all ended in vain and broke up in a gloomy mood. According to Liu Na herself, she miscarried several times because of her unexpected pregnancy, which did great harm to her health.
After we got married and had children, Liu Na was still alone, urging us old classmates to introduce her boyfriend all day. Just then, one of our college classmates, Zhong Lei, was alone, and Sadako arranged a dinner for them to meet for the first time.
03
Zhong Lei and Liu Na almost fell in love at first sight, which is also fate. Zhong Lei, 28, is considerate and pragmatic, while Liu Na, 26, is beautiful and enthusiastic. We are all secretly glad that they can meet.
After marriage, Zhong Lei simply spoiled Liu Na. Zhong Lei works as a PE teacher in a school. Although his salary is not high, his advantage lies in his work and leisure and many holidays. He will have sex with Liu Na three times a day, and he will ride a motorcycle to and from work every day.
Later, Liu Na gave birth to a daughter, who was also taken care of by Zhong Lei. In Zhong Lei's words, he can do all the work for Liu Na, except that there is no milk to feed the children.
Unfortunately, some people are like this. The nicer you are to her, the less she appreciates it. On the contrary, she takes your contribution for granted. Liu Na is like this. Zhong Lei cooks three meals for her a day. She thinks that Zhong Lei is incompetent. She acts like an old woman all day and only revolves around the stove.
Zhong Lei takes care of the baby, takes care of the baby's stool, makes complementary food for the baby, and reads picture books. She doesn't think Zhong Lei is a man, and she can't let her live a life of gold and silver.
In particular, I saw that several female classmates were not as good-looking as her, and all the husbands I was looking for had houses and cars. Liu Na was unbalanced. He thought he was blind, so he found poor Zhong Lei.
04
Liu Na met her current husband Cheng Qian when she was doing sales work.
Cheng Qian is eight years older than Liu Na. She just finished her last marriage and has a five-year-old son.
When Cheng Qian expressed his love for Liu Na, we all advised Liu Na to think twice before you act, not to betray Zhong Lei and be someone else's stepmother. But after comprehensively comparing the advantages and disadvantages of Cheng Qian and Zhong Lei, she chose Cheng Qian, a divorced man with a house, a car and a son, without hesitation.
The divorce between Zhong Lei and Liu Na didn't go well. At first, Zhong Lei refused to agree to the divorce, saying that the child was less than three years old, and the parents divorced the child too pitifully. Even Zhong Lei said that as long as she broke off relations with Cheng Qian, he could let bygones be bygones and forgive her.
The big man even gave up his dignity and knelt down and begged Liu Na to divorce in a few years for his children.
But Liu Na resolutely divorced, even if she walked out innocently, even if she gave up the custody of her children.
05
Speaking, Liu Na and Cheng Qian must have had a short sweet period when they got married.
But when the passion faded, Liu Na gave birth to a daughter. She found it difficult to be a stepmother, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and many contradictions between married couples. It is definitely not a few words that can be summarized. Behind every contradiction, there are endless grievances and regrets.
Unlike being regarded as a treasure, Cheng doesn't like laziness. Her mother-in-law criticized Liu Na all day, saying that it was not as good as her ex-daughter-in-law, and then just accused Liu Na of being inconsiderate and inconsiderate of her stepson. Even when Liu Na is ill and coughs, he always scolds "Miss's servant girl's life" and "Ugly is useless".
As for the stepson, she is always against Liu Na, spitting into toothbrush cups, stuffing fruit scraps into high heels and throwing garbage skins ... but she just can't hit, scold or be hard.
Liu Na always said that if Zhong Lei could give her another chance, she would live in peace and stop being picky.
But I still want to tell Liu Na that even if she is willing to turn back, Zhong Lei will probably never accept her again.
It is said that extramarital affairs are poppies, which look beautiful, but thorns are poisonous and it is difficult to make a positive result. Through the story of Liu Na, I also want to make some suggestions:
(1) It is better to consider the consequences in advance than to complain afterwards.
As long as you ask a few more why, why, you won't be lonely and get deeper and deeper. For example, seeing others buy cars and houses instead of complaining about why others get them? It is better to ask yourself if you have the same efforts and the same luck.
(2) No love can be repeated, and no one will wait in the same place.
I remember a classic line in 33 days of lovelorn love: when I love you, you are a glass cup, and when I don't love you, you are a glass slag. This is the emotional world. If you miss it, you will miss it forever. There are not many miracles waiting for you for the second time.
(3) Willing to admit failure, and correct it when it is wrong.
It's no use crying and criticizing this and that when a big mistake has happened. It's better to frankly admit your stupidity and badness, then sum up your lessons and live a good life in the future. This is a punishment for yourself and a redemption for yourself.