After writing the last article, I stopped to smoke a cigarette and suddenly remembered the story that happened around me. The main characters are my former colleagues Akun and Sasha. They used to be very happy lovers, and they could have been very happy couples, but in the end they broke up because of their son-in-law, which is a pity.
"Lin Dong, do you think Sasha and Kun match?"
Kun is an old employee of the company where I used to work. He started a business with his boss. He persisted for six years and remained loyal to the company. He is loyal not only to the company, but also to the boss, and he is pragmatic. He is not stuck in the company, so he is very popular with his boss.
At the same time, all the colleagues who joined the company got married and had children one after another, leaving Kun alone. So the boss played the role of an elder, always urging him to get married, always urging him to find someone to get married quickly, saying that he would set an example for new colleagues in the future.
Every time I listen to my boss urging me to get married, he keeps silent. He is not angry because he knows the boss's temper. As long as he doesn't talk like that, the boss can't do anything about him. However, after the boss refused to buy it, he didn't talk, but she still urged marriage and even became a matchmaker, looking for suitable objects for him everywhere.
Then a new colleague came to the company, a girl named Sasha, who came more than a year later than me. At the beginning of the interview, she did not hide her life experience, saying that her family conditions were good and she was not short of money. She just wants to find a job she likes. Of course, the boss likes such employees because they don't have to pay too much.
Sasha did well in the company and soon got along well with other colleagues in the company. The boss liked her very much, and then he moved the idea of fixing her up with Kun.
One day, my boss called me to her office to talk about things. After the talk, he suddenly asked me, do you think Sasha and Kun deserve each other?
This sudden question confuses me, because it has nothing to do with my work, and I haven't switched from my work status yet.
The boss said to himself, "I think they are a good match." Kun is introverted and Sasha is extroverted and can complement each other. " Moreover, the conditions of two people are equal. Sasha is a rich second generation, and Kun has the ability to make money, which is not bad. Perfect for marriage and couples. Of course, you need to fall in love first. "
I asked her, "What are you doing? Have you got engaged to them? "
The boss clenched his fist to cheer himself up. "I will definitely let them be together."
Nerve! What does it matter to me whether they are together or not? Shouldn't I tell Kun? Why did you tell me? I wonder how single dog thinks about his feelings. Too much!
The next day, the boss began to practice her decision. She became a matchmaker, giving Sasha and Kun to the office to talk about things, taking them to dinner for several days, and finally giving them the initiative.
I wouldn't be the suspense here. They really fell in love and their feelings developed rapidly. A few months later, they moved in together. This is Sasha's initiative. She has her own house, so she didn't want Kun to rent a house, so she let him move to her house. Kun himself is a very upright character, so he refuses to be kind and obedient.
"I can raise my parents-in-law, but I will never be a door-to-door son-in-law!"
Since Ah Kun and Sasha fell in love, other colleagues in the company have been making fun of them, especially the boss, who took the lead in making fun of them. This is a joke, but it is actually a marriage promotion. The words always convey the meaning that "since you are in love and so suitable, it is better to get married early".
After they lived together, the boss's impulse to get married intensified. Kun is the kind of person who can't kick fart with three feet. As before, the boss said that he would listen, but what to do after listening. But Sasha is different. She has a cheerful personality. Every time the boss urges her to get married, she will tease the boss and always say that she will get married soon.
Sasha is not perfunctory, she is really going to marry Kun. However, there is a serious problem that she has never mentioned to Kun, that is, she is the only daughter in the family and the baby of her parents. When she was a child, her parents decided that they would not marry their daughters in the future, but would recruit a son-in-law to be adopted by their wives. When Sasha was growing up, his parents kept talking about it, so Sasha's deep-rooted idea was to recruit a door-to-door son-in-law.
If she hadn't insisted on finding a son-in-law, their marriage would have hit it off. However, when she mentioned this matter to Kun, Kun refused without hesitation. He seldom speaks and expresses his views on this issue. He said to Sasha, "I can raise my parents-in-law, but I will never be a son-in-law!" "
Because they had different ideas, Sasha didn't listen to him and still insisted on being a door-to-door son-in-law and said, "I don't think you are poor." You just need to be a son-in-law, and it doesn't cost you a penny to get married. I know what you are worried about, you are afraid of others gossiping, you are afraid of your inferiority in our family, and you are afraid that my parents will abandon you. In fact, you don't need to worry about any of this. My parents are very nice people. They won't dislike you or interfere in our marriage. As for what others say, you don't have to care, as long as we are happy together. "
She said so much, I thought Kun would obey as usual, but Kun was very firm on this matter and answered simply and neatly, "No!"
Sasha felt that he was too axial and too closed-minded, so she said angrily, "People like you deserve to be single for life!" "
Kun said, "I would rather be single all my life than be a door-to-door son-in-law."
This kind of thing is most afraid of grasping words. Sasha listened to his words and immediately responded: "In that case, let's break up! Anyway, I can't get married, and it is boring to continue to fall in love! "
Kun also said rudely: "Good! Then break up! "
They're not kidding. They really broke up. According to Kun's character, if Sasha doesn't let him be the door-to-door son-in-law, they can make up immediately. However, Sasha is a good girl from a rich family. She was so angry that she left her job directly after breaking up.
The boss can't say anything about it, because it's out of her hands. She pretended not to know about it, and all her colleagues pretended to be deaf. Kun continued to be single, and the matter went away.
Lin Dongting's emotional suggestion:
Later, I chatted with Kun, and what he said was the same as that expressed by the readers in the last article. He said, "I won't be a door-to-door son-in-law anyway. Others may call me rigid, but this is me. I have my bottom line and principles. I'd rather let go of what I can't accept. I don't think I'm sorry for Sasha. We can fall in love freely and break up freely. No one owes anyone, but the concept of marriage is different. "
I also talked to Sasha, and she still insisted that she only wanted a son-in-law or she wouldn't get married.
There is nothing wrong with them. They stick to their ideas and principles. They broke up because of the disunity of marriage concept. This is the only way, because they can't get married without giving in to each other.
If you want to make a mistake, the mistake is that Sasha didn't explain his situation earlier. We talked about this kind of thing in the previous article: If a woman insists on recruiting a son-in-law and never gives in, then if you are in a hurry to get married and fall in love, you'd better make it clear to the man from the beginning. It is necessary for you to know whether a man can accept being a door-to-door son-in-law If men can accept it, then you should get married and fall in love quickly. If a man can't accept it, he might as well not fall in love.
This deep-rooted view of marriage is hard to be broken by the so-called true love. Men are divided into two factions in this respect, one can accept being a door-to-door son-in-law, and the other is absolutely unacceptable. A woman wants a son-in-law. If you don't explore a man's thoughts at first and explain them to him, then love will last until the end. If a man resolutely refuses to accept it, then you will definitely break up. If you don't give in and he doesn't compromise, it is impossible to get married and become husband and wife.
This, in turn, requires men. After falling in love, especially with the only daughter of a rich family, if you want to marry her, you'd better talk about marriage as soon as possible. Has she asked you to be a door-to-door son-in-law, and are you willing to do it yourself? It's really a pity that if these things are finalized early, they will go smoothly, otherwise they will fall in love and finally break up because of the question of whether to have a son-in-law at home.