Scene 1:
What is your major?
I study psychology.
Wow, are you a counselor?
B: Well, I have the qualification certificate of national third-class/second-class psychological counselor, and I am currently engaged in psychological counseling.
Oh, then you must know what I'm thinking now. What do you think I'm thinking now ...
B:
Scene 2:
Are you a counselor?
Well, yes.
Then you must know what is right, you must solve all my problems, and you must tell me what to do. ...
B:
There are 1000 understandings of "psychological counseling" in the hearts of 1000 people, and everyone's expectations for psychological counseling are different. What exactly is psychological counseling?
Psychological counseling has different explanations in different psychological schools. Simply put, it is "helping others to help themselves" to help visitors learn to help themselves.
Psychological counseling is based on the trust relationship between visitors and counselors. Psychological counselors help visitors learn more about themselves and explore themselves through words, expressions, body language, sand table, painting, hypnosis and intentional dialogue, and help them choose their own ways to solve problems with their own strength.
Psychological counseling has two important foundations, one is the scientific theoretical system of psychological counseling, and the other is the professional and ethical foundation.
Psychological counselors must undergo professional and systematic training, master psychological related theoretical knowledge and related professional skills, in order to help visitors solve psychological problems.
This is also why when selecting a psychological counselor, a psychological counselor is required to have a professional qualification certificate, more than 2 years of systematic training, rich consultation time and accept a supervision certificate.
In addition, the main objectives of psychological counseling are:
Help visitors to establish good interpersonal relationships.
Help visitors deepen their self-awareness.
Help tourists correct their misunderstandings.
Help visitors learn to accept the facts.
Help visitors increase their psychological freedom
Help visitors understand and solve inner conflicts.
Help visitors establish healthier behavior patterns.
Help visitors shape good personality characteristics.
Help visitors to form a healthier thinking mode, strengthen the awareness of maintaining mental health and promote their own mental health.
Seeing this, does it give you some clear understanding of psychological counseling?
In order to let you know more about psychological counseling, Little Whale here wants to answer some misunderstandings about psychological counseling, hoping to help you!
Myth 1: Counseling is just chatting.
Answer: Every family and friends around the counselor will think, "How good your job is, you can make money by chatting."
Psychological counseling is not just chatting with visitors, and it makes no sense for visitors to pay high consultation fees.
Psychological counseling is that psychological counselors provide very professional and unconditional positive attention, listening and feelings. Through different counseling skills and theoretical backgrounds, they cooperate with visitors to explore their own troubles and help them learn new behaviors or thinking patterns, which can be used in environments other than counseling, so as to better adapt to life.
Myth 2: You can read psychological books and learn some psychological knowledge by yourself, so you can solve problems by yourself.
Answer: When encountering psychological problems, book knowledge plays a certain role in solving their own problems, because self-regulation is also a very important psychological ability.
But it has little effect on solving and regulating psychological problems.
First, in terms of professional knowledge and skills, professional counselors need to receive systematic training. Usually, a qualified psychological counselor needs to receive specialized systematic knowledge and skills training, be familiar with several psychological counseling schools, skillfully use at least two kinds of specialized psychotherapy, and have professional psychological identification ability and consulting technology, which can not be done by reading several books and taking several courses.
Second, self-regulation can only be alleviated to a small extent and cannot solve the root cause of the problem. Judging from the actual situation, professional psychological counselors will not conduct psychological counseling on their own, and even it is difficult for counselors to effectively consult relatives and friends around them.
Third, generally speaking, psychological counseling is needed. After self-regulation has no effect or little effect, professional psychological counselors are still needed.
The little whale is holding a chestnut.
When you have a cold and fever 1-2 weeks, you can read some books and knowledge about "treating colds" by yourself and get better quickly.
However, when you have a cold and fever for more than 1-2 months, you need a professional doctor to treat you. The same is true of psychological counseling!
Myth 3: I will be completely free if I go to psychological counseling.
Answer: Many people have high expectations of psychologists, thinking that one consultation can solve a long-standing or serious problem. Of course, some people feel relieved after the first consultation. In fact, both of these understandings of negotiation are biased.
Psychological counseling is difficult to get immediate results. Counseling is a process of continuous development and dynamic change. This process includes factors such as establishing trust relationship between psychological counselors and visitors, handling emotions, clarifying problems, and visitors changing their development again. These factors determine that it is almost impossible for psychological counseling to be effective at one time. Effective psychological counseling may take months or even years, because psychological growth, personality perfection and personality perfection all take time.
Most people turn to psychological counseling, usually with many long-term psychological problems. For example, the wrong ideas that cause psychological problems, incorrect behaviors or ways of thinking, the misfortunes of childhood experiences, or the unhealthy influence mode of family background can not be solved at once.
Usually, for the first consultation, the consultant will collect your information and situation, then coordinate with you, agree on the consultation objectives and gradually formulate the consultation methods. Therefore, after a consultation, it is necessary to continue to make an appointment for consultation.
Myth 4: I have no emotion, I just want to solve the problem rationally, so just solve the problem.
A: In China's cultural genes, the expression of "anger" and "anger" is a manifestation of poor cultivation, while "forbearance" is regarded as a virtue in the traditional sense, which means that people are determined and determined, that is, they can tolerate things that others cannot tolerate. Therefore, our growing environment requires us not to express emotions, but to face problems with a rational attitude.
The significance of psychological counseling is that what we really need is not to suppress and deny emotions, but to express emotions in a safe environment and understand the meaning behind them, so as to complete the exploration and discovery of the true self. Psychological counseling mainly focuses on your "inner feelings" and "inner reality", and pays attention to the parts that have an influence on you.
In essence, emotions are your clues to solving problems, rather than being trapped in the cycle of "solving one problem after another". I believe you must have many solutions to the problem, such as "I know all the reasons, but I just can't do it". Emotion is the fulcrum for you to pry the stone that you can't do.