Now I have graduated 1 year, paid off my debts, and have my own short-term life goals. If you are willing to listen, I will share all my experiences with you, hoping to help you think.
In fact, I have been confused since the end of the college entrance examination at the age of 17.
I thought I would like my college major-international economy and trade. I dreamed of becoming a giant crocodile in the trade field in the future and earning countless dollars.
However, it turns out that this is just a major with a slightly better name. I chose it only because the name sounds tall. After getting to know it, I found that I don't like this major very much, and there are too many things to learn. In addition to microeconomics and macroeconomics, we should also contact foreign-related accounting, enterprise management, and even learn web page making and PS. I even once suspected that this major was just a series of courses randomly selected by the majors of finance, business administration, marketing and accounting, and it was a gold-collecting major used by universities to overcharge tuition fees.
The only international trade practice that belongs to the core professional knowledge is very different from the actual international trade process, and you have to learn from scratch to go to a trading company. English is the only thing that comes in handy at work, but how can you compare with those English majors who have been systematically trained for four years after passing CET6? Where is the core competitive advantage of our major?
Therefore, after graduation, when I was burdened with nearly 2W of foreign debt and needed to worry about my livelihood, I felt confused.
In order to earn money, I worked as a college major for three months in foreign trade, but I resigned because I couldn't stand the pressure of business and assessment indicators that were upside down day and night.
I worked as a website operator, because I was tired of the endless output of Internet junk and resigned after paying off my foreign debt for eight months.
A year later, I finally paid off the debt of 2W yuan, and I felt more relaxed than ever. However, I don't know what I should do, and I am lost again.
Without the worries brought by foreign debts, I began to feel distressed. What is the meaning of my work? Do you work more than 8 hours a day just to survive? These eight hours don't really belong to my life, do they?
I began to understand that life is a battle for survival, and everyone is a survivor.
In fact, our generation of young people are often not unwilling to work hard, but simply don't know what they like and where to work hard. What we do every day is inconsistent with what we really care about and really want to do. So in the end, the initial enthusiasm was exhausted day by day in the work that I didn't like, and gradually became a younger generation who didn't want to make progress and wanted to be comfortable.
In order to change the status quo, I searched a lot of questions about work and confusion, and also listened to many other people's opinions:
"Go to the postgraduate entrance examination, the master's degree is more popular than the undergraduate course."
"Take an examination of civil servants, be steady, and ensure the harvest through drought and flood."
"Come and learn Python, and hire once a month with a monthly salary of 10k."
They gave me too many choices, leaving me no choice. So I decided not to listen to their opinions. I want to hear my own thoughts. I want to find something I like.
However, it is not easy to do this. Many rich people with high academic qualifications are still trying to find their own love.
Some people will say, "You can't fall in love until you earn enough money, or wait until you retire." But falling in love is not the right of the rich and the retired, right?
So I began to explore the possibility of turning my love into my daily work.
But "what is love" and "how can I find my love"?
When I realized that I couldn't define love with limited cognition, I changed my mind:
I want to define myself first.
Although the person who knows you best in the world is himself, the person who doesn't understand you best in the world is himself. That's what the authorities said
I choose to do professional psychological evaluation of career planning.
? I remember that I participated in a professional psychological test called Type Nine Personality, which has been highly praised by MBA students from internationally renowned universities such as Stanford University in the United States in recent years and has become one of the hottest courses at present, and has been popular in academic and business circles in Europe and America for nearly ten years. Experts say that this kind of test can make people really understand each other; It can help people understand their own personality, so as to fully accept their own shortcomings and live up to their high strengths. To my surprise, this exam really opened a breakthrough for my future career planning.
The test report showed that I belonged to type 4 self-personality, and then gave me a three-page report, one of which read:
"At work, No.4 often shows the following characteristics. I like different jobs, which can be creative and even require talent to complete. Personal opinions and ideas must be respected in the working environment. I hope to keep in touch with special authorities, which represents quality rather than popularity in the field of work. I feel that mediocre work devalues me, and your judgment of mediocre work varies from person to person, whether it's building a garden or being a CEO. No.4 often pursues uniqueness, and they don't want to be like others. These are all manifested in action, that is, the 4 th meeting will be consciously or unconsciously somewhat unsociable. I don't like team action very much, which will affect the promotion of No.4. . . . . In addition, No.4 must recognize his pessimistic nature, like to taste pain and be prone to depression. It is recommended that you must exercise more on the 4 th. Exercise for 2 hours every day, and the human body will secrete dopamine, thus getting out of sadness. "
After reading it, all I can think of is: lying in the trough! This is so accurate. Isn't this TM me?
I just like being different. I hate boring work. I have disgusting self-esteem. I can't condescend in front of guests for business. I am extremely unsociable. I hate socializing. I often fall into extreme self-disgust because I don't fit in. Even the habit that I have to exercise for two hours every day to avoid falling into depression is correct.
For the first time in life, I have a feeling of being thoroughly analyzed by myself, and at the same time I have a feeling of being understood. Give me a feeling of "I am such a person".
Although I know this may be Barnum effect, it is the best comfort for a confused person. PS: I shared this test with my official WeChat account Tasan. I hope I can help you.
More interestingly, the following report also lists occupations that have a high degree of matching with Type 4 personality for reference:
I tried hard to find an operable ideal work plan. Soon, my eyes focused on the two professions "writer and actor", which are also the two professions with the highest matching degree with No.4, and I began to correspond one by one with my own life experiences.
Do I like writing? Yes, I like it. I can't forget the sense of accomplishment at that moment, that is, my composition was read in class by the teacher as a model essay for every composition competition in middle school.
Do I like acting? Yes, I like it, too. I can't forget the sketch I performed at the university literary evening, which made the audience laugh their heads off and almost made me cry at last.
At that moment, I seemed to understand.
The so-called love is "what can bring you the deepest sense of accomplishment in your life experience".
Of course, this does not mean that I want to be a writer or a stage actor. But it does point out a direction full of possibilities for my career planning.
I seem to have found my love.
When I found something that can bring me a sense of accomplishment, I decided to turn it into a career, a career that can bring me income.
It should be noted that it is not shameful to talk about money. Using love to generate electricity can't make you live the life you want. Money will be the biggest motivation to help you maintain your love.
So, I decided to try to be self-media, because I can write what I want to write, I can shoot what I want to present, and all this can be done by computer, without having to deal with others all day, and more importantly, it will bring me a sense of accomplishment and income.
I began to learn copywriting and video editing, using ps, pr, ae, ppt, learning to do mind mapping organization logic, learning excellent planning cases, and trying to match my abilities with my ambitions.
In fact, when I choose to engage in self-media, a voice often pops up in my mind and says, "No, you may be better as a product manager." At first, I hesitated. Although I like planning writing, maybe the product manager is more suitable for me. Besides, I earn a lot of money.
You've had this idea before. When you make up your mind to do something, there will always be other voices telling you that it may be better to do so.
I call this "other voice" a "thinking villain".
It will constantly compare other things with what you are about to do, and then pick out the better one in front of you.
What is a better standard? It doesn't know, maybe it's income, maybe it's more connected, maybe it doesn't need to work overtime and it's a weekend.
I want to say: giving up thinking little people will not make you better, but will only make you lose yourself in endless choices. "Pursuing better" is the biggest stumbling block to your progress.
When you are confused, you can learn to analyze yourself like me, find "something that can make you feel fulfilled" in your life, and then try to turn it into your career. Then, you just need to try to match your abilities with your ambitions.
If your goal now is money, then don't think so much, seize the best job opportunity you can get now and make money to pay off debts. We will always pay for our mistakes.
But after work, please think carefully, "What is the thing I love?" Because the debt will be paid one day, and your life is still long. There must be something you are willing to stick to, right?
This is my story, I hope you can find your love.