If you get married, will you choose the person you love or the person who loves you?
People who have been there may say, of course, choose someone who loves you.
It is the best policy for a woman to find a man who really loves her in her life.
Young people are full of vigor and vitality, and perhaps most of them will say, I want to choose someone who loves me and loves me.
However, how can love be so perfect? Not all love is a two-way street.
For example, Jiang Yu and I are in this state.
We met at the University in 2005, and we went to the Civil Affairs Bureau on 20 15.
10 years of youth is the end of parting ways.
02
In 2005, I went to Xiamen to study at a university.
When I was a freshman, I joined the Sports Department of the Department of Business Administration and joined the women's basketball team in my class.
At that time, I especially liked playing basketball, and I practiced with the girls in the team every day after class.
I met Jiang Yu playing basketball, but he is the main force in other classes.
Youth, liking a person is an instant thing.
Although I was young at that time, I was serious about everything, including love. I have always felt that liking someone is a lifelong thing.
At first, I had a crush on Jiang Yu, then I fell in love, and then I took the initiative to pursue it.
However, it happened that I was not Jiang Yu's type.
After a long chase, Jiang Yu refused me all the time. He said it would be more appropriate for us to be friends.
Jiang Yu also said, do you know that I like Chen Ziruo?
If Chen Ziruo is a beauty queen, I am really not competitive in front of her.
But Chen Ziruo has many suitors, and she is always at arm's length with Jiang Yu.
People who are favored are always fearless.
03
I was quite depressed at that time.
For the first time in my life, I actively pursued a boy I liked and ended in failure.
And Jiang Yu's pursuit of Chen Ziruo is becoming more and more fierce, even the counselors in his class know it.
Jiang Yu has a good academic record and a good personality, and the counselor also values him very much. The counselor also cares about the progress he pursues in private.
During Jiang Yu's pursuit of Chen Ziruo, I left Jiang Yu automatically.
I didn't understand what a heart ached until I watched my favorite boy pursue other girls so enthusiastically.
Jiang Yu's confession on Chen Ziruo's birthday failed again. He took 99 roses to the playground to meet Chen Ziruo.
In the face of everyone's input, Chen Zire agreed, and Jiang Yu was extremely excited.
Everything will be all right. All shall be well, jack shall have Jill, when roommates tell me in a embellished way.
I feel so miserable that I can't even force a smile.
04
My roommate comforted me that the forest is very big, so don't hang yourself from a tree.
Besides, doesn't Hui Ke like you? He's been chasing you.
The best way to forget someone is to find someone new to fall in love with him.
I thought of Hui Ke, but I shook my head because I knew I didn't like Hui Ke.
If I accepted Hui Ke, wouldn't it be tantamount to using him? I can't do such a thing
I think people who have no taste will do this, such as Chen Ziruo.
So I don't like Chen Ziruo very much, except that she is a rival in love, and then she arranged a lot of spare tires for herself with her own face value.
However, it's no use if I don't like her anymore. Jiang Yu likes her.
Just when I thought Jiang Yu was holding the beauty home, I didn't need this so-called friend.
Jiang Yu came to see me, but he looked depressed.
05
Jiang Yu said, Jun Jun, you say, how can people's emotions be so complicated?
I didn't speak, just listened quietly.
Jiang Yu said that if she did, she wouldn't let me down, so she agreed to my confession.
I can be her boyfriend, but that doesn't mean she can only have such a boyfriend. She also has a few good friends.
I blurted out with a snort of cold. Green tea is going to set up a memorial arch, and only you like her.
Besides being beautiful, what is better than me? So you can't see me?
Jiang Yu suddenly yelled at me, don't say if, in my heart, she is very good and I love her very much.
This is the first time that Jiang Yu said in front of me that he loves Chen Ziruo, and it is also because he yelled at me to defend Chen Ziruo in such a flustered way.
06
I suddenly feel very tired. I am obviously a girl who is not sincere to him, but he regards it as a treasure.
Such Jiang Yu, I decided to let go.
I calmly said to Jiang Yu, yes, in your eyes, Chen Ziruo is the best, so you should be her number one boyfriend.
Anyway, if you really don't mind, why did you come to complain to me?
Don't contact me in the future, I don't want to be your friend, and we won't meet again.
When a person is tired of waiting, he will not be willing to wait. I was in this state.
Although I don't want to hear about Jiang Yu and Chen Ziruo, things will still reach my ears.
After four years in college, Jiang Yu and Chen Ziruo were on and off.
Sometimes when Jiang Yu proposes to break up, Chen Ziruo will also seek to get back together. Sometimes if Chen Ziruo breaks up, Jiang Yu will also seek to get back together.
Many people don't like Chen Ziruo's green tea, but it is undeniable that people with high face value can really be the conditions for their own good use.
Between Jiang Yu and Chen Ziruo, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer.
Whenever I hear things between them, I always smile.
Although I can't understand it, I have a little expectation for Jiang Yu, but what's the use of being reluctant to come?
07
In 2009, after graduating from college, I stayed in Xiamen to work.
On 20 10 national day, I learned from my classmates that Jiang Yu and Chen Ziruo officially broke up.
Because Chen Ziruo married a rich man 10 older than her and went abroad to settle down.
According to friends around me, Jiang Yu was as drunk as a fiddler that day when Chen Ziruo went abroad.
He called both Chen Ziruo and my name.
I feel a little loose after listening to it, that is, a little loose.
Jiang Yu this person, this name, as early as when I decided to let go, I forced myself to let go bit by bit.
However, I didn't expect that Jiang Yu came to me on his own initiative.
08
It was at 20 10 1 1 that Jiang Yu got my mobile phone number through his classmates.
Although I didn't leave Xiamen after graduating from college, I changed my mobile phone number.
When Jiang Yu added me to WeChat, the note said, Jun Jun, this is Jiang Yu. Are you okay?
I rejected his application.
I know he has been in Xiamen since graduation, but since I told him not to contact me, we have lost contact.
Two days later, Jiang Yu added me twice, but I still refused.
20 1 1 June 1 Children's Day, I remember it very clearly.
Received a strange phone call, and Jiang Yu's familiar and strange voice came.
Jun Jun, I wish you a happy Children's Day. You will always be as carefree, carefree and full of happiness as a lovely child.
24 years old, I received a blessing from a boy who likes me for a long time.
09
At that moment, I had no concentration. In this way, I got in touch with Jiang Yu again
He didn't ask me how I felt. I did not ask him.
We are like two college classmates who haven't seen each other for a long time. After a short social experience, we have one more friend, one more concern and the same connection.
The more contact, the more concern outside friends.
Once, Jiang Yu asked me to go to Baicheng and Xiamen University.
Sitting on the beach, he asked me if I had a boyfriend.
I said, no. He said, can he be my boyfriend?
After waiting for many years, I finally waited for this sentence, but I was not as happy as I thought.
Looking at Jiang Yu's serious expression, I suddenly asked, what about Chen Zire? Did you let her go? I don't have to be you.
10
Jiang Yu gave a wry smile and told me honestly that he really loved Chen Ziruo.
But this love, with Chen Ziruo hurting him again and again, he doesn't know how deep it is.
He is human, but he is also human, and he will be tired of love. Chen Zire gave up on him again, and he didn't want to love anymore.
I understand Jiang Yu's mind. Like me, I am tired of waiting for him.
My attitude towards Jiang Yu from college to now, Jiang Yu is not the only man in the world.
Jiang Yu said that as soon as I turned around, I found that sincerity is very important for a relationship.
I missed the person who was sincere to me before, and now I don't want to miss it again. Can you give me this chance?
I looked him in the eye and asked, are you sure you want to be with me now?
Jiang Yu's eyes are sincere, and I don't see any evasion. He said, yes.
After confirming the relationship, Jiang Yu treated me the way he used to treat Chen Ziruo.
1 1
Although I sometimes think in my heart, am I his second best?
He once confessed to Chen Ziruo. Can he confess to me again?
Therefore, when I am in love, I often feel entangled in my heart, but after the entanglement, I can only persuade myself to let go.
After all, I know all about his past.
And he didn't force me to be with him. I want to try it with him myself.
After dating for more than two years, I can be said to be a competent boyfriend.
In the past two years, the imbalance in my heart has gradually disappeared. After all, there are oil, salt, sauce and vinegar in life besides love.
20 13 we have reached the point of talking about marriage.
When the parents met, the marriage went smoothly.
The wedding room is also half down payment for each of the two companies, and the house was written by Jiang Yu and me.
12
After the wedding, looking at the two marriage certificates in my hand, I think Jiang Yu and I should be able to hold our son's hand and grow old together.
20 13 years, Jiang Yu and I were 26 years old.
Having a baby has not been put on the agenda, and we all think that at such a good age, fighting for a career is the key.
Later, I thought about it. It's a good thing we didn't have children, otherwise it would be difficult to get divorced.
Many people say that a woman's sixth sense is accurate.
When people around you start to behave differently, women will find something different from the clues.
But for me, I didn't find it.
It can be said that I completely believe Jiang Yu, or that Jiang Yu hides it too well.
So, when Chen Ziruo came to visit, I never thought that a green tea that abandoned Jiang Yu and had settled abroad would come to Jiang Yu's home with me.
13
That's 20 15 10, and I know a lot of things that Jiang Yu didn't tell me.
For example, when Jiang Yu pursued me, Chen Ziruo called him and he was not allowed to pursue me.
Jiang Yu just wants to pursue me.
For example, when we got married, Chen Ziruo called Jiang Yu and told him not to marry me.
Chen Ziruo also told Jiang Yu that he could not be forgotten in his heart.
When Jiang Yu asked Chen Ziruo if he would divorce and come back to find him, Chen Ziruo was ambiguous.
Finally, Chen Re stood in front of me and said proudly, You are Jiang Yu's spare tire.
Do you think he loves you? I will always be in his heart.
So what do you want? I asked coldly.
Chen Ruo said that people like you who are not loved by your husband are the third party in marriage, and you should quit.
14
The saying that a leopard cannot change his spots is really classic.
Chen Ziruo, the king of green tea in college, is still the king of green tea after 10 years.
I stood up and looked at Chen Ruowang, and then I smiled. What else is there?
Chen Ruowang was surprised at the way I laughed. She said that I went to the hotel with Jiang Yu yesterday. This is the record. I used my ID card. He said that in his heart, I will always be the one he loves.
I don't believe it. I leaned back on the sofa and reclined leisurely.
I can't let Chen Ziruo see my clenched fist.
Seeing me like this, I don't know if Chen Zire is stupid or really wants to be with Jiang Yu.
She added me to WeChat, and sent me a record of Jiang Yu's explicit chat with her, a record of going to the hotel, and some photos of them in the hotel.
Finally, Chen Ziruo also enlarged a photo. Jiang Yu has a birthmark on his back. As his wife, you should know, right?
Of course I know. I didn't speak, so I called Jiang Yu directly and left a message, Chen Zire is at home, you come back now.
15
Before long, Jiang Yu came back panting.
Both women are waiting for his explanation.
Jiang Yu came up to me, talking trembling. Jun Jun, I feel sorry for you, but I never wanted to divorce you.
Hehe, never thought about divorce? Maybe Jiang Yu wants to hug her around?
Before I could speak, Chen Zire screamed, Jiang Yu, how did you promise me?
Obviously, you encouraged me to divorce, saying that you never forgot me, and you said that you would divorce for me.
Ah, Chen Ziruo is divorced? Is she willing to divorce?
She didn't marry a rich man in high profile, and she still lives abroad. She also said that the moon abroad is very round.
Facing my surprise, Chen Zire blushed, Jiang Yu explained. I just know that Chen Ziruo and that man are really perfect for each other.
16
One is the king of green tea, and the other is Neptune. Green tea feels original, and Neptune must be loyal.
Neptune refused, and there were many ying ying Yan outside. Chen Ziruo was so angry that he quarreled and fought with Neptune all day.
However, Chen Ziruo is still unwilling to divorce. After all, following Neptune is not something that ordinary men can afford.
Then didn't you say you were going to marry Jiang Yu? How can I get married without divorce?
Chen Ziruo said to Jiang Yu affectionately, I'm waiting for Jiang Yu to give me a definite answer. He left me too.
I said, ok, Jiang Yu, let's get a divorce.
But about the distribution of property, you are ready to admit that you are unlucky. You are on the wrong side, and I can't share it with you fairly.
Jiang Yu asked me sadly, how to divide it?
Give me the house, give me 50% of your personal savings, forget my savings and give you your family car.
Jiang Yu is a little angry, you are too hard.
17
I picked up the cup on the table and threw it at him. I didn't work as hard as you?
You are the only one who values Chen Ziruo, a bitch. You hurt me again and again for her. I want you to pay some money to show your face. If you don't agree, you will pay the price.
Chen Zire lovingly hugged Jiang Yu and said, Ayu, you divorced her. She was too cruel to start work on you.
I sneered in my heart, yes, I did it. It's better than eating what's in the bowl and watching what's in the pot.
Jiang Yu stared at me with gnashing teeth, and finally he agreed.
The marriage soon got married and divorced.
20 15 12, all the formalities were completed, and Jiang Yu and I finally returned to the bridge and the road. He and Chen Ziruo can get back together.
In fact, if Jiang Yu hadn't yelled at me on the day of divorce, I wouldn't have made the next decision on him.
18
On the day of the divorce, Jiang Yu was very angry when she got the divorce certificate.
He called me by my first name and surname. Wang Junjun, I really didn't expect you to be such a person and be willing to accept my money.
You're really interested in money, but I've really treated you well these years. You really can't compare with Ruo Ruo and you don't deserve me.
I laughed with anger. Is he really nice to me? Maybe I'm pretending to treat him?
From the day I met him, I was consistent with him and had no second thoughts.
How is he? Forget it. He was bitten by a dog. Can he bite back?
This relationship, this marriage, makes me exhausted.
If he works well, forget it, but when I really finish feeding the dog, he will pick up a bargain.
Don't blame me for going further.
19
I sent a document to Jiang Yu's unit. Jiang Yu's work is good. He is a civil servant, with an annual salary of more than 200,000 yuan, and his usual welfare is also good. He has always cherished this job.
In all fairness, his job pay is really good, so he is always proud of his work, and then he will attack my job instability.
I am engaged in sales and business. My basic salary is only over 3000 yuan, mainly by taking commission. After a year, my income is similar to his.
Later, in order to maintain his self-esteem, I often told him that my income was lower than his.
Moreover, when Jiang Yu was facing a promotion, he naturally had an opponent.
My anonymous materials and those photos were sent to his opponent.
I believe it's good for Jiang to keep his job, so don't think about promotion.
Tidy up the love rat, leaving Chen Ziruo this green tea. I paid money to get Chen Ziruo's husband's phone number from a friend.
I added the other party's WeChat on the trumpet, saying that Chen Ziruo was not distracted after returning to China, but learned three things. Do you really mind?
Then I canceled the trumpet.
20
Neptune is so rich that he must have his ability. Rich people want to do something, but can't they?
When Chen Ziruo was abroad, his marriage was very good.
She asked Neptune to be loyal to him, but as in college, she had Neptune, a rich husband and several confidants.
I don't know if it's true or not, but I heard it from my former classmates.
But I think, with green tea like Chen Ziruo, such gossip may not be groundless.
Who cares? That's what I use.
I think Neptune can play by himself, but that doesn't mean he can allow himself to marry a wife who comes in to play. So, where is his man's face?
As it turns out, my guess is correct. If Chen Ziruo was beaten by Neptune and his family was clean, Jiang Yu was also packed into a man's mistress.
2 1
This kind of gossip has been lively in our university group for quite a while.
When others sympathize with me, I just watch the fun.
Jiang Yu called and asked me if I stabbed him in the back. I don't admit it or deny it.
Congratulations to him and Chen Ziruo for getting along for a hundred years and having a baby early.
Jiang Yu didn't speak, I went on to say, you and Chen Zire are really perfect match, dog men and women.
Really, I sincerely wish you both, and I wish you more and more cuckolders.
Hang up the phone and I'll call Jiang Yu's number. I will hang my wedding room with him to several intermediary stores for sale.
I also told those agents that as long as they help me sell the house at a price not lower than the market price, I promised to give them an extra commission of 30 thousand as the landlord.
How can I live in that house that symbolizes marriage again?
The people who visited my house in the first week always visited from morning till night, and the agent found a buyer within two weeks.
After signing the contract, I also paid 30,000 yuan according to the original agreement, and they also got the agency fee from the buyer.
10 years, and finally got this ending. I don't know if it's good or bad, but at least I have no regrets.
22
When I fell in love with Jiang Yu, he said he was single-minded to me, and I believed him.
Married to Jiang Yu, he said that he would hold my hand and grow old with my son in the future, and I believed him.
Chen Zire waved his hand and he went back. I think this confirms the saying that everything has its vanquisher.
Jiang Yu's weakness is Chen Ziruo, and mine is Jiang Yu.
In fact, I should have understood a truth long ago.
In a relationship or even a marriage, a man is indifferent to you, which proves that he really doesn't love you.
How can a man who loves you be willing to make you sad, just as I was reluctant to let Jiang Yu be wronged by Chen Ziruo.
However, I am still lucky. Because I finally jumped out of Jiang Yu's pit
And Jiang Yu, still can't jump out of Chen Zire this pit.
Will Jiang Yu regret being with Chen Ziruo in her later life?
I don't know. That's his business, not mine.
Ten years ago, it was love, then a short marriage, and finally it had nothing to do with me, not even friends.
Dreams will wake up, love will disappear, and Jiang Yu and I can finally meet again.