First, parents can tell what is campus violence.
Campus violence may occur in:
For example, in a face-to-face situation, someone pushes you, hits you, deliberately trips you, insults you, and gives you an unpleasant nickname.
In the distance, for example, some people spread rumors about you everywhere (yes, gossip girl is like school violence), and some people unite to alienate you.
Through communication, for example, there is no reason to hang up all the time; Sending insulting or threatening short messages, emails, personal letters and information to you; Publicize your personal information or embarrassing information online; Isolate you on social networks. This kind of campus violence, also known as cyber bullying, is a new form of campus violence in the network age.
Second, parents have a certain understanding of their children's school situation and keep in touch with the school.
Third, the relationship between parents and children is not necessarily intimate, but it must be mutual trust. Parents often remind their children that in the above cases, someone is infringing on their rights and interests and committing school violence against them. Children must tell trusted adults in time and ask for help.
However, when it comes to school violence, children are usually reluctant to take the initiative to tell their parents unless it is too serious to end. The reason may be that the child is threatened by school bullying, or the child feels embarrassed to tell his parents, or the child is afraid that his parents will blame him, or the child is worried that his parents will overreact and be laughed at by other students, and so on.
At this time, parents can often find a clue through their usual contact with their children.
Children's behavior will change because of school violence:
Unwilling to go to school and participate in school activities.
Never talk about your friends.
Items are often lost for no reason.
Clothes often wear out.
He often appears afraid and anxious.
My mood is becoming more and more unstable, and I often cry.
Academic performance has dropped significantly.
Physical strength drops and I can't sleep well at night.
I see myself more and more negatively.
The symptoms of cyberbullying are:
I don't really want to surf the Internet.
Children will be very nervous when they are reminded by text messages, messages, private letters and emails.
Obviously depressed after using computers and mobile phones.
Parents turn off the computer screen when they enter the room, or hide their mobile phones.
Receive suspicious phone calls, emails, text messages, etc.
I don't want to go out with friends, my academic performance drops, and I'm absent-minded in everything I do.
Many parents found these clues, ran angrily to question their children and threatened to avenge them. Although this kind of performance is out of love for children, it is likely to make children who have suffered from school violence more afraid and worried. Because campus bullies often threaten children "If you tell parents/teachers, I will …", parents can't always protect their children at school. At the same time, parents' overreaction may make the mental health of children who have already suffered trauma suffer more harm.
Therefore, at this time, even if parents are angry and bloody, they should calm down their emotions, sit down and tell their children with a supportive attitude that you are worried about his/her recent situation and hope to talk to him/her about what happened at school. No matter what happens, you will help him/her.
Parents are the first teachers of the children. A parent who is still confident, optimistic and strong in the face of school violence is the best example for children.
One of the possible outcomes is that children refuse to tell their parents. Parents should stay calm and tell their children that you can understand his/her decision. If parents feel that the problem is not so serious, they can do nothing first, continue to get along with their children with a gentle and considerate attitude, and wait patiently for their children to speak. If parents feel that the problem is serious or worried, it is suggested to contact the school directly to understand the situation and arrange psychological counselors (if any) or other adults trusted by their children to communicate with them.
The second possible outcome is that the child tells his/her parents who bullied him/her at school. At this time, with enough information, parents can judge the severity of school violence suffered by their children.
If it is serious, such as death threats, or school violence has affected children's physical and mental health, parents should tell their children that this is a very serious incident, and parents must immediately report to the school or even the police to protect their children's safety.
If it's not too serious, such as pushing between classmates, ask the child if his parents want to come forward to solve it. If the child says yes, parents can contact the school to explain the situation and express their willingness to solve the problem peacefully with the school and the parents of the bully.
If the child says no, parents should also respect the child's wishes and tell the child that as a parent, you will always support him/her. Parents can put forward to be "military advisers" behind their children and teach them some simple and timely ways to face school bullying, such as saying no to school bullying loudly, ignoring the ridicule and insults of school bullying, avoiding places with school bullying, and encouraging children to report to teachers themselves. ...