Xiao Min grew up in a small town and is now a primary school principal. He has been ranked first since primary school and has never wavered. Xiao Min's academic performance not only satisfied his parents, but also surprised his teachers.
When relatives, friends and neighbors criticize children, their opening remarks must be: "Look at Xiao Min ....." Gradually, Xiao Min has become an eternal "other people's child" in the ears of children of the same age.
Little friends both envy and hate Xiao Min! People don't like playing with her gradually.
Xiao Min, who was unpopular with his friends, turned his head and plunged into his studies, and his achievements became more and more outstanding. There won't be such a student in villages and towns for many years, and teachers say that we must cultivate them well.
Xiao Min's excellence made his parents look smart, and they decided to create better study conditions for Xiao Min. My mother quit her job in a small factory in the town and concentrated on taking care of Xiao Min's daily life at home, while taking care of Xiao Min's sister.
After graduating from primary school, Xiao Min was admitted to the best junior high school in the county without any suspense. In order to take care of her, my mother didn't let her live on campus. After giving her sister to the old man, she rented a house in the county to accompany her. On weekdays, I concentrate on washing and cooking for Xiao Min and do odd jobs in my spare time.
This company is six years old. During this period, Xiao Min lived a hard life. She never washes dishes or sweeps the floor. She never washes clothes except underwear and socks.
Mother always said, "I'll do these, you go and study."
Xiao Min lived up to expectations and was admitted to a famous university.
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In college, Xiao Min, who lived in a group life for the first time, found that she couldn't fit in with her classmates at all.
She doesn't understand fashion and fashion. Usually, her mother buys all the clothes for her. She can't make up, and the skin care products she used since childhood are all a big bottle of lotion.
Xiao Min doesn't know the world. The students went out to eat together, and everyone took the initiative to give their share of the money to the students who paid the bill. Only Xiao Min must wait for someone to push him. Invite the whole dormitory for dinner on the roommate's birthday. All the students bought presents for the birthday girl, but only Xiao Min had a free meal.
Xiao Min was so stupid that she was soon marginalized by her classmates. Nobody wants to make friends with her, so she has to study hard as always.
In his junior year, Xiao Min wanted to take the postgraduate entrance examination, but his family didn't agree, because his sister was already in high school. Although her grades are not as good as Xiao Min's, it shouldn't be a problem to be admitted to an ordinary university. The family economy can't afford two college students. Mother hopes that Xiao Min can come out to work early.
Xiao Min signed a good job with his excellent report card. His parents are very satisfied, and Xiao Min is very happy.
However, after a few days of official work, Xiao Min was not happy.
She has no sight at work. The task assigned by the leader must be very specific and detailed, otherwise she will miss many details. If the leader doesn't assign tasks, she won't know what to do.
After several times, what the leader said was not so nice: "Why do you want me to say this?" "Can't you do this little thing well?"
Xiao Min's old colleagues also don't think highly of her, saying that she lacks initiative and enthusiasm in her work, and her communication and coordination skills with colleagues are poor and she doesn't fit in with others.
She doesn't feel happiness and sense of accomplishment in her work, and her evaluation of herself is getting lower and lower.
One day after joining the company for more than a month, Xiao Min heard the same batch of new employees gossiping about her at the door of the teahouse: "There are so many high flyers graduates from prestigious schools!" ? Mandy turned back to her seat and sat for the whole afternoon. She resigned and lived with her aunt in the same city.
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Xiao Min's parents entrusted my aunt to help her find a job, contact and collect information. But she doesn't like the job recommended to Xiao Min.
Xiao Min stayed with her aunt for two months. During these two months, her uncle and aunt were dissatisfied with Xiao Min. It's not that they are stingy and don't care about the younger generation, but that Xiao Min's self-care ability is poor, and she is not as good as her cousin in elementary school.
She stayed up late every night to brush her mobile phone and didn't get up until noon 12 the next day. The changed clothes are put in the box of dirty clothes like my cousin. I only wash underwear and socks.
Aunt told her to go to the terrace to collect clothes at night, so she only collected clothes and ignored the quilt hanging next to her. Aunt asked her to help wash the dishes. She only washes the dishes and doesn't know how to wash the pot, let alone wash the rice cooker and clean the stove.
She doesn't even know how much water to put in the rice cooker, let alone help stir-fry a dish and make a soup.
Xiao Min is a dead house that doesn't like sports. During the Mid-Autumn Festival, my aunt's family went out to travel, but Xiao Min didn't go. My aunt cooked a lot of dishes and put them in the refrigerator, telling her that she could eat them while they were hot.
A few days later, menstruation came home and found the food in the refrigerator intact. It turns out that Xiao Min has never cooked or gone out these days. When you are hungry, order takeout.
Aunt and husband are both dual employees. Without the help of the elderly, it is hard to take care of my cousin at ordinary times. It's unbearable to have another "big child" who needs to be taken care of.
Menstruation decided to have a good talk with Mandy and asked her what kind of job she was looking for and what her future plans were. Xiao Min said for a long time that he wanted to take the postgraduate entrance examination. Asked how to pay her tuition, she said, "I'll borrow some from you and my cousin, and I'll pay you back." You can't leave me alone, can you? "
My aunt with black line called Xiao Min's parents. The attitude of eldest brother and sister-in-law is very clear: I firmly don't support the postgraduate entrance examination, and the child has become a bookworm. Please don't support her to continue her studies.
Since then, my aunt introduced Xiao Min to two jobs. Xiao Min persisted in her first job for more than three months, and only lasted for more than half a month in her second job. She resigned and went back to her aunt's house. Today, Xiao Min is still fishing for three days and posting his resume online for two days, and his aunt and uncle are still trying to find someone to help. ......
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Xiao Min's aunt told me this story. First of all, she wants to vent her emotions. Second, she wants to remind all parents not to raise an uncaring child.
A careful analysis of Xiao Min's experience reveals that Xiao Min actually lacks self-confidence.
Maybe when she was young, she was full of confidence because of her excellent academic performance, but after entering the university, everyone paid less attention to her academic performance than before. Teachers and classmates paid more attention to other abilities, such as interpersonal skills and social practice skills. Xiao Min is lacking in these aspects.
From a talented student sought after by everyone to "Woodenhead" in the eyes of an inexperienced classmate, it is difficult for anyone to adapt to this gap. After being hit hard, Xiao Min escaped from this disappointing and even desperate reality and returned to his best research.
After four years in college, Xiao Min still wants to hide in her snail-like world, so she wants to take the postgraduate entrance examination.
If you want to pursue further studies in a certain field, or find a better job in order to get a higher diploma, there is nothing wrong with taking the postgraduate entrance examination if family economic conditions permit.
However, the situation in Xiao Min is different. The economic conditions in her family don't allow her to go to graduate school. More importantly, she took the postgraduate entrance examination only to escape from reality. After reading a master's degree or even a doctor's degree? She always comes out to work.
Some people may say that you can be a teacher after graduation. Isn't being a teacher a job? No complicated interpersonal relationships? Just look at Mr. Qian Zhongshu's Fortress Besieged.
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Whose fault is it that such an excellent child can't even find a job after graduating from college?
Undoubtedly, the biggest fault lies in Xiao Min's parents, who raised Xiao Min all the way.
Xiao Min has two biggest problems, one is poor self-care ability, and the other is that he doesn't know how to be a man.
These two abilities are not born to everyone, and they cannot be achieved overnight when they grow up. It must be cultivated and instilled in the process of growth.
In order to make Xiao Min concentrate on her studies, Xiao Min's parents take care of her in every way in life, and even can't wait to cook for her. This is actually depriving children of the opportunity to improve their self-care ability.
Similarly, in order to make Xiao Min concentrate on her studies, her parents encouraged her to spend all her time doing problems and reviewing, and did not create conditions for her to communicate with her peers, which deprived her of the opportunity to develop her social skills.
A child who is held in his hand every day will never learn to walk. In the whole growing process of Xiao Min, he learned too little in other aspects except textbook knowledge.
Xiao Min doesn't even wash her own clothes at her aunt's house because her mother used to wash her clothes. In her opinion, it is natural for others to wash.
Xiao Min doesn't know how to give gifts for her classmates' birthdays, probably because she has never been involved in this kind of interpersonal relationship. It is not that she is reluctant to spend money, but that she didn't expect to give gifts.
If you don't know how to wash the dishes, you can't wash the pot by the way. You don't like to use your head, and your work lacks initiative. Because in the process of growing up, your mother arranged and planned everything for her, so you don't need to worry and think for yourself. Xiao Min is used to doing anything.
If Xiao Min can always live in a simple environment like when she was a student, and if her parents can always protect her, then what they did is not wrong.
If not, get up when the child is still young and let him experience and wrestle.
Compared with academic performance, children's life ability, vision, personality, temper, education and many other aspects are more important.
But too many parents are eager for quick success and instant benefit, which eventually leads to the pursuit of the ending.
I hope the story of top student Xiao Min can arouse everyone's thinking.
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I want to use this article to encourage all my parents!
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