Is it only because of age difference, appearance contrast, spiritual depth and personality difference?
The TV series Dear Yourself gave me a new answer to this question.
And this answer comes from their different reactions after Liu Yang gave Zhang and Xiao Yayun a thermos cup of the same model worth 268 yuan.
0 1, the original match helps you tide over the difficulties, and the third one is the best.
In the play, Liu Yang and Cecilia Cheung meet on campus. Liu Yang said that when she saw Cecilia Cheung, she felt warm and practical. After half a year, Liu Yang walked into the marriage contentedly without proposing marriage, a rose diamond ring and a wedding reception.
One year after marriage, the two gave birth to a daughter, and the days suddenly fell into daily necessities and mortgage loans.
After marriage, Zhang was careful in life, not only wearing commuter clothes to work, but also wearing household clothes at home, carrying inferior bags from 69 yuan.
At work, in order to take care of his family and daughter, Zhang worked in the unit with the lowest logistics support, holding the lowest salary, and was teased by her mother-in-law: "You just earn a few dollars, and this home belongs to my son." Laughed at by her husband: "You call this work? Primary school students can. "
Economically, Zhang and Liu Yang bear high mortgage, pay the cost of filial piety to their mother-in-law, and pay for their daughters to attend kindergarten and interest classes. ...
When Zhang was confronted with a chicken feather, her most trusted husband, Liu Yang, cheated on Wei Yayun, an intern in the company.
One day, on the way to work, Liu Yang saw a shopping mall holding an activity to promote a 268-yuan foreign brand thermos cup.
His first thought was that Xiao Wei Sanyayun had a bad stomach, so he bought one and planned to give it to Wei Yayun the next day.
But when she got home, the thermos cup was dug out by her daughter and given to her wife Zhang. Liu Yang had to lie that the cup was for Zhang.
At this time, Zhang Zheng was wearing an apron and rubber gloves. While cleaning, she looked after her daughter and listened to her mother-in-law.
When Liu Yang said that the cup was for herself, Zhang's eyes turned red instantly, which warmed her more than this 268 yuan thermos cup, which was her husband's love.
But her husband Liu Yang's real intention is not so. The next day, Liu Yang bought the same thermos cup and gave it to Xiao Yayun.
Wei Yayun was deeply moved and gave Liu Yang a scarf embroidered with the words "W Love L" in their names.
It was this scarf that aroused Zhang's suspicion.
With the letter W, Zhang searched Liu Yang's mobile phone address book and WeChat address book, and locked the mistress suspect Wei Yayun.
When Zhang found a construction site in Liu Yang and saw Xiao Yayun holding the same thermos cup, she immediately confirmed the fact that her husband was cheating.
At this time, Zhang collapsed, because she wouldn't use this thermos for a day.
268 yuan, too extravagant for her; It is an expensive and unnecessary expense for the family economy.
So she returned the thermos cup that she thought represented her husband's love and liked very much, replaced it with a shopping voucher, and added more than 100 yuan to buy a foot bath for her mother-in-law with leg pain.
She asked Wei Yayun loudly why she seduced someone else's husband and wanted to grab the cup. Liu Yang pushed her away, and she rushed up again, and was slapped to the ground by Liu Yang, leaving five red fingerprints on her face.
After that, Liu Yang suffered a heavy blow at work and had a health crisis. Xiao Wei took a bite when he was in trouble, left the thermos cup and an apology and ran away, avoiding it.
Original Zhang arranged for Liu Yang to be hospitalized, pay the fee, take care of her daughter, change her job, and send her to the hospital for three meals a day. She accompanied Liu Yang through the disaster of life and filed for divorce, ending her five-year marriage.
Therefore, even if you are desperate, helpless, hurt, wronged and affectionate, you will accompany your partner through the difficulties.
And the third kind, eager for romance, just want to get it, enjoy it first, in order to maximize their own interests, it is very likely to hit a person when he is down at a critical moment.
02. San Xiao extorted 300,000 yuan, and the original tricycle was used to support the family and pay off debts.
Li Li (a pseudonym) and her husband are husband and wife in trouble.
When Li Li and her husband met, they were both older youths. Li Li has been working outside all the year round. She is over 30 years old and doesn't want to wander outside any more. My husband is wandering around, paying more, earning less, graduating for nearly ten years, and saving little.
After being introduced, the two were very satisfied with each other. At the urging of the adults, they were very anxious and got married after three months of understanding.
After marriage, Li Li encouraged her husband to start a business. From the initial small manual workshop, Li Li was responsible for supervision and participated in production; The husband is responsible for buying raw materials and selling them. Soon, the two of them fought an economic turnaround.
However, with the increase of her husband's knowledge and income, her dislike for Li Li is increasing day by day.
During the marriage crisis, Lili was pregnant, and her husband lived with a young female worker in the factory without telling Lili.
When Lili was pregnant for 9 months, she still insisted on taking charge of the production, but her husband and mistress went shopping at the party.
Maybe God wants to remind Lily's husband. During Lili's confinement, after her husband took over the workshop, a major fire broke out, causing serious property losses. All the investments failed overnight, and she was still facing huge debts.
At this time, what is more ruthless than the creditor is the mistress raised by her husband outside.
San Xiao comes to the door and tells Lily that she is pregnant, and the baby is her husband's, or 300,000. Either the child is born for Li Li's husband to raise; Or call the police and claim to have been raped. She has proof.
On the one hand, the husband is kneeling, and on the other hand, the child under the full moon. Li Li had to choose the most sensible stop-loss method and use 300,000 yuan to avoid disaster.
This 300,000 yuan was borrowed by Li Li from her parents and brothers, and the house was mortgaged.
Later, in the face of reality, Lilihua 280 yuan bought a 80% new tricycle in the second-hand tricycle market, put it in the carport, bought a stove and started selling breakfast.
One winter, the snowy road was slippery, and before dawn, Lili set off, only on a small slope. She couldn't even get on the three wheels of people and cars, and turned to a nearby ditch. She didn't think about the injury on her face. She was thinking about how much it would cost to lose a drawer of steamed bread. She will get up earlier, close the stall later the next day and earn money back.
One summer, when she was cooking wonton for her guests, it rained cats and dogs, and the customers dispersed in a hubbub without paying. She leaned forward on the hot pot to keep the rain from entering the pot, and she was even more afraid that the rain would put out the fire.
At this time, Li Li, there is a hot fire baking below, and raindrops like pebbles are hitting her back. What she thinks is that if she doesn't earn money today, her children's kindergarten fees will not be paid.
Finally, three years later, the husband turned over financially, but his old illness recurred and he cheated again.
At this time, Li Ling had been pregnant for 7 months.
"Others laugh at me silly, he has been derailed, why give him a second child? But which woman didn't give birth to a second child for a better life? I am no exception. " Say that finish, Lili collapsed and cried, not knowing how to choose.
03, the original match helps you to help the old and the young, and the third is eager to have fun.
Wang Jie (pseudonym) married her husband 13 years and had a son and a daughter.
For her husband's career and taking care of the family, she has been a housewife for more than ten years.
In 2009, Wang Jie's eldest daughter was born, and she almost lost her life.
On 20 10 and 201/year, she had two abortions because her husband preferred sons to daughters and was pregnant with daughters.
In 20 13, my son was born.
Since then, Wang Jie has lived a life of holding the second child and picking up the boss after school; While putting the second child to sleep, read to the boss; Just buy rice, oil and salt, wash and sweep, and endure the life of a housewife like a husband and nanny.
On 20 16, Wang Jie's father-in-law suffered from cancer. In 20 18, my mother-in-law was paralyzed. Wang Jie made it herself. She runs at both ends of the hospital and serves at both ends of the bedside table.
Even so, her husband was slapped for calling his gambling husband home in the middle of the night;
What's more, because she advised "drink less" on the wine table, her husband dropped the plate on her feet.
"But when he said he was seeing someone outside and wanted to divorce me, I still couldn't accept it." Wang Jie couldn't hide her pain.
"What should I do? What about the baby? Where's his dad? Give it to him, I don't trust, I don't have that ability myself. " Wang Jie bowed his head and sobbed.
Wang Jie never left. Her husband simply moved out to live with Xiaosan and cut off the economic supply to Wang Jie.
But Wang Jie agreed and signed the divorce agreement. A month later, her husband broke his word.
The reason is that my husband didn't discuss with the mistress outside.
The husband wants to sell the three-bedroom apartment bought by San Xiao and replace it with a four-bedroom apartment, so that the two children can live with the old man. The name of husband and San Xiao was written on the property certificate, but San Xiao refused to agree.
First, the current three-bedroom apartment was bought by Wang Jie's husband, but it was written under the name of Xiaosan, which belongs to pre-marital property;
Second, Xiaosan insisted on not raising Wang Jie and her husband's two children;
Third, Xiao San doesn't agree to live with the old man, and there is no room for discussion.
"My husband finally understood that Xiaosan was with him just to entertain himself, but he came back to me, and I also understood that he just wanted me to help him support the elderly. What should I do? " This is Wang Jie's distress.
04. Write it at the end.
Both Zhang in film and television dramas and Li Lihe in real life show us the great difference between the original match and the mistress.
Most of the original match is nagging, but she is thinking about daily necessities and planning for tomorrow and the future;
San Xiao never talks. What she covets is a moment of happiness, always ready to make a profit.
Most of the original matches are ugly, but which wrinkle is not a trace of trouble?
The mistress is beautiful, but which one is not expensive to smile?
If a man can let a beautiful mistress, who is dozens of years younger than you, help you to have children, provide for the aged and die, be well fed and clothed, be responsible for washing and sweeping the floor, be free to beat and scold, have no complaints, tolerate infidelity and be content, then you can consider divorcing that ugly and nagging original mate.
If you can't do it, be loyal to your wife, love your children, and spend all your thoughts on a good life.
I hope the above words can encourage my readers.
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