It is said that "men should be married and women should be married." Hui Hui, a 33-year-old single, naturally became the most anxious object of this family. Everyone introduced her to the matchmaker and introduced her to the blind date again and again.
When it comes to blind date, Hui Hui has a headache, because she thinks these blind date objects are not reliable at all, and they are all monsters. She has no secret love for anyone, either because she divorced after her second marriage or because she has mental problems, so she has deep doubts about her future marriage, and even wants to live alone in the future, but she doesn't want to settle.
Hui Hui said that on this blind date, she met another great man, who was not only worthless, but also slandered her everywhere, which made her particularly angry. At first, the man introduced himself. Hui Hui listened quietly and didn't say anything, but after the man reached Hui Hui's age, he said directly to Hui Hui, "Let's not waste time, it's impossible for us, because I'd rather marry a second wife than an old woman, because an old woman like you is eccentric and not a good woman at all."
It was also the man's words that made Hui Hui particularly angry, so she directly replied to the blind date man: "You have no car or house, and your parents have no money. Why did you slander me? " You are 35 years old, and you are still so worthless, not as good as me. Do you think there will really be a woman stupid enough to suffer with you? "Hui Hui's words also made the man speechless and ran away.
Hui Hui said that people often say that she didn't get married because of the real money worship, so she became an older woman. For these statements, Hui Hui felt particularly wronged, because when she was young, she didn't worship the reality of money, but because she devoted herself to her career, so she let go of love. At that time, she was often told: "In this age of more men and fewer women, women don't worry about getting married at all." It is also because she believes this that she becomes an older woman.
Until now, she realized: "Women don't worry about marrying, especially excellent women don't worry about marrying. For most women, age is their capital, and once it passes, they will get married. " Just like herself, she has a car and a house. At the age of 33, she is still worried about getting married.
Hui Hui said that what worries her most now is not her marriage, but her parents' physical condition. Because the marriage time is not long, parents are under great pressure. Not only is she often laughed at and gossiped, but she is also grovelled and introduced. It is also under these pressures that her parents are in poor health, so she also has her own ideas.
Hui Hui said that in the past, her parents often told her: "A woman of her age is actually the same as anyone she marries, because they all make do." Hui Hui said that if she did what she wanted to do, she didn't want to settle down, because she would rather live alone than get married casually. But when she thought about her parents' health, she was entangled again, so she asked me, "Should she marry someone casually first and stabilize her parents first?"
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, I don't think Hui Hui can marry anyone, because it is doomed to be a tragedy. This is not the same as who she married. Marrying the right person is a lifetime of happiness, but marrying the wrong person is a lifetime of pain. Therefore, she can't just do this about marriage.
They all say: "a low-quality marriage must be far less than a high-quality single." Therefore, Hui Hui should be firm in her attitude towards marriage, and don't let some other factors affect her judgment, because this is a lifelong matter and she can't afford to play at all.
Hui Hui never thought that carelessness in marriage would really hurt her parents, because if this careless marriage is unfortunate in the future, then her parents will be even worse, because they will think that all this is caused by them, and they will only blame themselves and feel guilty, and then life will be even worse.
In my opinion, Hui Hui should pursue love firmly, never make do with it, and never be influenced by others' cynicism. Because if a person drinks water, she knows very well, and only she can really understand what she needs.
In reality, the better a woman is, the more she will be targeted by men. Because people are like this, they usually don't want others to get what they can't get, so all they want to do is destroy it or bring it back to the same level as themselves, because good things are easily envied and envied by others.
Therefore, Hui Hui should be more confident about other people's gossip. Someone slandered her, which shows that she is not bad in some ways. Of course, she should change the criteria for choosing a spouse in marriage, because she is really not dominant at this age, so as long as she does not violate her principles and bottom line, she can lower her requirements, because any marriage is bound to require appropriate compromise, which is an inevitable choice.
In fact, I have explained many times that "women are not worried about getting married at all" is wrong. Because the gap between men and women in society is not big, the scope of mate selection for most ordinary women has not changed, because most men will still grab those better women. For ordinary women, they are also worried about getting married. Once they are past marriageable age, they will have fewer choices.
Therefore, I often warn the women around me that before choosing a marriage, we must learn to recognize ourselves, not to overestimate ourselves and not to underestimate others, because only in this way can we make the most correct judgment.