The introduction of the mind
What is a heart? Literally: a heart? It is the heart, which is an important organ that constitutes human physiology. Its main function is to pressurize human blood. (similar? Water pump? ); What is the other floor? Inside? Namely. Inside? ,? Intrinsic? Meaning. ? Wisdom? Is it? Intelligence? ,? Smart? Meaning. In short: mind is the expression of human psychology and intelligence.
Just as the data in a computer can be played, calculated, searched and stored when it is opened by a player, human beings call their thinking and thinking a virtual machine similar to a computer player: thinking.
The mind is an illusory machine formed by the aggregation of emotions in people's minds and thinking. Or smart players. People's complex information, driven by their own mental engine, can carry out thinking activities such as feeling, association, reasoning, induction, memory and imagination.
Definition of mind: refers to the sum total of people's ability to precipitate and store known things through biological reactions and realize motivation. It covers? Philosophy? The accumulation and storage of known things, together? Biology? Brain information processing. Biological reaction? , used to realize a desire (motivation) and engage in? Psychology? Activities, so as to achieve intellectual ability and? Potential? Force.
Alone? Mind? It refers to the sum of his various thinking abilities, which are used to feel, observe, understand, judge, choose, remember, imagine, assume and reason, and then guide his behavior according to these abilities. George? C. Dr. George Boeree's definition: the mind mainly includes the following three aspects: 1) acquiring knowledge; 2) apply knowledge; 3) Abstract reasoning. Dr. Borui believes that the happiness of a person's life is directly related to his mind. There are intellectual differences between people, that is, the strength of each person's mind is different; And the differences in this respect may be very different from each other.
The meaning of the mind
(1) smart. Did everything wrong? Death sign:? Those who argue without breaking the law, have brains without skills, and are versatile without engaging in statutes can die. ?
(2) intelligence; Wisdom. "Lu Chunqiu? Any number:? The lack of eyes, ears and heart depends on this statement. ? Uncle Song? Yan Yanzhi biography:? Although the mind is thin and inferior, it is high and self-comparison. ? Qing Wu Ye Wei's poem "Give a servant to protect the snow": Keep an open mind and talk about your thoughts. ?
(3) refers to the brain and consciousness. Song Sushi's praise for Acorus gramineus: Long clothing, intellectual man fit, longevity, benefit the soul, high intelligence is not old. ?
Four manifestations of mental maturity
1, treat the opposite sex equally
2. Have confidence in yourself
Step 3 learn to be tolerant
Step 4 pay attention to simplicity
Improvement methods of psychological immaturity
Step 1: Give up the bad model.
1. Define a bad pattern: through face quality and clarification, let patients know a deep-rooted pattern. According to the landlord's description, his psychological problems come from sensitive and harsh emotional patterns. Because I didn't get enough love and recognition when I was a child, I am more eager for love and recognition when I grow up. For this reason, I do not hesitate to criticize myself and my relatives, resulting in volatile emotions, fearing that others will hurt me, and strengthening protection and disguise.
2. Separate the relationship between the past and the present: People often use the past reaction mode in the current environment. When the old model does not adapt to the present environment, we should consciously separate the old model from the present. The bad pattern described by the landlord must come from the self-protection without love in childhood, which may protect yourself from harm when you are vulnerable. But now that you have grown up, you have the strength to protect yourself physically and intellectually. However, the old model still plays the role of inertia, which limits the establishment of closer and friendly relations between you. The maladjustment between the past model and the present environment has also caused strong conflicts and uneasiness in the landlord's mind, which may also be an opportunity for you to get rid of the old model.
3. Challenge unreasonable beliefs and emotions: Bad patterns include bad beliefs, behaviors and emotions. By paying attention to the above three aspects, visitors are encouraged to think. This article is the most emphasized in cognitive behavioral therapy. According to their point of view, the landlord needs to describe and summarize his emotional conflict in more detail, and the consultant will help you dig out the unreasonable thoughts behind the emotions and the corresponding negative behavior habits. Through careful combing and summarizing, the landlord may be able to better understand his own psychological root mode, and cognitive behavioral therapy is called core schema.
The core schema similar to the situation described by the landlord is defect/shame: I feel that I am flawed and unpopular in important aspects, and I am too sensitive to criticism and rejection; It will be unnatural and unsafe in front of others, and I love to compare with others and feel ashamed of my shortcomings. Of course, the specific diagnosis needs to be completed by the psychotherapist in consultation.
4. Form a choice: after establishing a therapeutic relationship with the therapist, it also leads to some expected changes. In the previous psychological consultation, you will realize your bad psychological pattern and establish a trusting therapeutic relationship with the psychological counselor. In this case, you will further hope that you can become better.
5. Decide what to change: in the case of choosing to establish, make a choice of behavior. This change in expectations will make you ready to choose and decide what to change. For example, whether you are willing to change your behavior pattern depends on yourself. Counselors can only help you think, but you should give yourself a choice in everything.
6. Take responsibility: While making a choice, begin to take responsibility for change. Many times in consultation, visitors will constantly complain about everything in life and ask for help from psychological counselors, but they can never get rid of their psychological difficulties. They are just used to relying on counselors in counseling. This may come from the fact that although they have always expressed their hope for change, they have not really realized that they must take responsibility for the change. In fact, without the autonomy and commitment of consultation, all changes in consultation are impossible. Of course, a qualified consultant has the patience and skills to understand the inner needs of visitors. But in any case, the change of treatment should start from the visitors' sense of responsibility.
Step 2: Establish a good model.
7. Suggest how to change: When the visitor decides to be responsible for the change, the therapist provides an alternative response and encourages the visitor to try to implement it. For example, in the case of discussing with visitors, the specific objectives of psychological counseling can be defined. The landlord described himself as extremely insecure, moody and incapable of loving others. These can be used as goals, such as making yourself more confident, making your mood more stable, learning to make friends and learning to love others. No matter what methods and suggestions, this is just a blueprint for visitors and may be further revised in future discussions.
8. Clear the obstacles in the way forward: the process of change cannot be smooth sailing. Among them, we need to turn obstacles and difficulties into opportunities or find a way out when there is little hope. The landlord is now facing the dilemma of feelings and interpersonal relationships, but it can also be seen as an opportunity to re-recognize and face himself.
9. Change expectations for the future: At this stage, visitors can realize that a better new future is possible and have full confidence in the upcoming changes. Self-confidence is half the battle, not only in life, but also in consultation.
10. On-site practice: practice with the therapist's consultant as a direct transition to the real world. The common exercises used by consultants in the consulting room are image exercises and role-playing. It is to let visitors practice in imaginary situations, or let consultants play the role of people they need to face. Through image practice, the counselor may let you talk to your parents in imagination, express your needs and vent your emotions. At the same time, interpersonal practice in role-playing can also make you master interpersonal skills more immersive.
1 1. Facing fear: Many psychological problems stem from excessive fear. Because of the fear of external environment or internal memory, visitors are likely to choose to avoid giving up during treatment. At this time, the encouragement and help of psychological counselors is very important for them to face their fears. In this regard, psychological counselors can adopt behavioral therapy methods, such as relaxation exercises, systematic desensitization, exposure therapy, etc., which can alleviate emotional stress in similar situations; Narrative metaphors can also be introduced, such as text generation, situational experience and story analogy, so that the landlord can learn to control behavior in similar situations.
12, reconstruction: reconstruction, with a flexible and constructive view of the status quo. This means that under the guidance of consultants, visitors can believe that their predicament can be broken through and improved.
13. Conflict resolution: By understanding the two sides of things and thinking about their similarities and differences, we can clarify the polarity of things. The possibility of a bad thing turning into a good thing.
Step 3: Maintain the model.
14. Broaden: Once a bad model is defined, visitors will make a good choice, and they need to practice the new model repeatedly until it takes root. In this regard, the consultant may assign corresponding homework and tasks, and will also discuss the application results in real life with the visitors more.
15. Positive reinforcement (from therapists, self-dialogue, social networks and self-reward): Consolidate positive behaviors through rewards. In the practice of establishing a new model for visitors, consultants will actively support and encourage visitors and strive to make them more confident. At the same time, the support of relatives and friends and their own affirmation and reward for the new model will also play a role in strengthening positive behavior.
16. Explore the reasons for change and the benefits of improvement: help visitors notice how the change happened and what benefits it will bring. Let visitors explore the reasons and benefits of change themselves and promote their own autonomy and initiative. This is actually a process of shaping values. Visitors explore which changes are good and which changes are useful. Through discussion and practice in the psychological counseling room, visitors can gain more adaptive values and guide how to overcome stress and get happiness in life.
17, continuous practice: on the basis of the visitor's decision, continuous practice. At this stage, psychological counseling may come to an end. But the influence of psychological counseling continues. Visitors need constant practice to keep a good model. For the visitors who are about to be separated, psychological counselors will express their blessings for their recovery, and at the same time tap their emotions and moods when they are separated, and properly assist them to complete their psychological preparations for separation. Maybe visitors will stop consulting in the future, and maybe they will return to the consulting room in the future. But the insights they gained in the consultation will continue to play a role in their lives.