Cai Kangyong once said such a passage in Qi Yuan Shuo:
Around us, many people are like this. They always turn around and tell others that she can't do it. They always subconsciously tell themselves that they have plenty of time and always find various reasons to escape from reality. Then, because I was greedy for a moment's happiness, I chose a lifetime of troubles.
In the end, you are sad, you are miserable, you are sad, but life will never give you a chance to start over, and the lost time can never be recovered.
If you choose comfort when you should struggle, don't complain about the injustice of fate. Because life is never unfair, what you pay, it will repay you.
2.
The first time I met Fang was in the gymnasium, and we went to physical education class together.
Because it is Sunday afternoon, the gym where people come and go on weekdays seems a little quiet, with only a few sporadic figures. It was my first time in physical education class, and I couldn't stick to many movements that required strength, but Fang did every movement perfectly.
Looking at her tall and sturdy figure, I can't help but sigh: "I really envy you for being tall and thin. The key is to look so good." She probably didn't expect me to say this, and poof laughed: "In fact, I used to be very fat, much fatter than you are now. My boyfriend broke up with me because he was too fat. At that time, I thought I must slim down and let him shine. "
A Fang told me that when I first started to lose weight, I felt that every minute was suffering. I dare not eat this or that. Sometimes I buy some when I am greedy and throw them away immediately after I get addicted.
In addition to work every day, I have to keep exercising in the gym for more than 3 hours, so tired that I have no strength at all, and then drag my obese body home.
Finally, she said to me earnestly, "You know, if we don't embarrass ourselves, others will think that we can only be so ugly in this life, but we can obviously become beautiful white swans."
After listening to these words, I seem to see a dazzling light from her. I think it's probably the light of self-confidence from a girl who has undergone transformation.
3.
Mu Zi just started working and met a very cunning boss, who also happened to be a female boss in menopause.
Mu Zi, a fledgling, was sprayed with dog blood every time: a tweet was modified ten times; A plan was revised fifteen times; Even with a simple notice, she can find out half a punctuation error. ...
Mu Zi said that her biggest fear every day is going to work, for fear of being criticized for being careless. During that time, she was so anxious that she couldn't sleep all night and was tortured to death by a female boss in her dream.
However, in the workplace, you have to face not only difficult bosses, but also some colleagues who dig holes for you at any time. On one occasion, a colleague asked Mu Zi to help write an urgent essay, which was out of her job scope. Looking at her colleagues' anxious appearance, she had to put down what she was doing first and race against time to write a manuscript for her colleagues before leaving work.
Unexpectedly, the next day, the leader asked why he didn't push the soft article in the morning. The colleague who turned to her for help said, "Mu Zi wrote too slowly and didn't have time to send it."
Mu Zi got a fright. She doesn't understand why people in this world take lies seriously. At that moment, she suddenly understood that if you are not strong enough, you will become cannon fodder at any time, even if it is really not your fault.
Since then, she has given up all entertainment activities, and even the company rarely participates in the regular group building every Saturday. She is more eager to study alone in the corner.
The reality is so cruel. If you don't embarrass yourself, others will embarrass you.
4.
Sister Juan is my cousin. She is a typical child of other people's family. She has good grades, good personality and good looks. She has been a top student in the hands of teachers since she was a child.
However, after entering high school, all this changed, and she began to look so inconspicuous in the provincial key points where cattle people came forth in large numbers. This undoubtedly gave her a huge impact, and also made her fall into self-doubt and self-denial. This negative emotion lasted for three years, and she was so outstanding that she unexpectedly failed in the college entrance examination.
After the college entrance examination, Sister Juan went to an electronics factory in a first-tier city in the south and started endless assembly line work. I used to feel sorry for Sister Juan. She had a good chance to enter a good university with her degree for one year, but she chose to give up.
I thought Sister Juan's story was over. Like her parents, she will work in a dark workshop until she retires. However, suddenly one day, she magically came back and firmly told us that she would continue to study with her salary.
In this way, Sister Juan returned to school and became a "senior four party". This time, instead of letting herself fall into endless bad mood, she got up at four or five o'clock every day to recite, brush questions and remember words. Everyone else went to bed at night, and she was still studying hard.
A year later, Sister Juan successfully passed the examination of the best "985" and "211"in the province with a score of more than ten points. People praised her as a talented girl. Only she knows how many days and nights are hidden behind that bright red admission notice.
On the day of school, I sent Sister Juan to the station. She took my hand and said, "Xiao Jiu, I hope you understand a truth. You must learn to be jealous of yourself first, and others will have the opportunity to be jealous of you. "
5.
In fact, there are many such people around us, who are silently enduring the hardships and setbacks given by life.
Only some people choose to face it with a normal heart, find opportunities to fight back and ways to change, and then meet a better life; Others, however, can't go out for a long time, and can only watch others succeed, and then secretly sigh the injustice of fate.
However, life has never owed us anything, and others are suffering what you are suffering. The difference is that others have come out and ushered in a new life. You, on the other hand, are addicted to complaints and grievances, and more and more give up on yourself.
Instead of blindly looking for reasons from the outside world, it is better to calm down and think about what you want, and then try to force yourself to grow.
After all, if you are cruel to yourself, others will have no chance to be cruel to you; Be hard on yourself, and you will meet a better self; Be hard on yourself, and you can fight a beautiful counterattack for your life.