Nowadays, the cost of getting married for young people is getting higher and higher, and getting ready to get married can even cost all the savings of both parties or a family. Even so, most people are willing to get married at all costs. After all, it is the most memorable and meaningful thing in a person's life.
For "naked marriages" that don't buy a house, a car, a diamond ring, a wedding or a honeymoon, but only get married, in fact, most of them are helpless under material conditions. Of course, they can also be understood as the refined behavior of the supremacy of love.
The TV series Naked Marriage, which was popular eight years ago, really led a wave of marriage reform, which freed many young people from the shackles of secularism, family oppression and traditional ideas and set up their own small families unconditionally. However, some people's streaking results are good, and they will get closer and closer forever; There are also many people who regret after naked marriage, wishing that time could not go back, and their love and marriage were finally lost in the details of life.
Colleague Sasha and her husband Zhang Lin got married naked in the year when naked marriage was prevalent. Sasha and Zhang Lin met at work, and Zhang Lin almost fell in love with Sasha at first sight. After learning that Sasha is still single, she launched a crazy pursuit. Before long, Zhang Lin captured Sasha's heart, and they established a love relationship.
Zhang Lin's job is unstable. In a big city, she rents a cheap apartment, and her monthly salary can only maintain the most basic food, clothing, housing and transportation. For such an unreliable man who "pursues dreams" in the city, Sasha's parents naturally strongly oppose it.
Zhang Lin is very honest about marriage. Materially, it is difficult for him to give Sasha anything. He has no savings, no house and no car, so he can't give her a perfect wedding. But he loves her very much and wants to hold her hand and spend his life with her. Sasha is not a girl who pursues material life. She believes that as long as two people love each other, they will always create a miracle of love. Without material foundation, they can still have their own families.
In order to marry Zhang Lin, Sasha lied to her family that she was pregnant. When her parents saw that things had been done, they couldn't convince her. Disappointed with her, they left a sentence "Don't come to us if you can't compete" and let her go. After they got the license, Sasha moved to the rented apartment in Zhang Lin, and the contact with her family was basically broken.
Sasha lost a lot for love. She thinks that her husband's kindness to her can make up for all this, and she believes that the power of love can make them have a better future.
However, the burden of reality will always bring all good fantasies back to their original forms. After paying the rent and all kinds of living expenses, there is not much left for two people. Marriage is naturally not as easy as when they were in love. They must plan their future. After all, empty hands can make life difficult. The collision of rice, oil and salt has caused many quarrels in their lives.
Seeing that his dream of standing in a big city is getting more and more dim, Zhang Lin wants to go back to his hometown for development. So, at his strong suggestion, Sasha quit her job, went back to her hometown county with him, lived with her in-laws, and became a wronged kannika nimtragol.
In a foreign land, Sasha is a stranger, and the most terrible thing is that the language is still unreasonable. Besides adapting to the new job, she has to learn the local dialect. Every day, she is very busy, and she has to help her mother-in-law with housework when she gets home, but she doesn't pay attention to it. It depends on the mother-in-law's face.
Sasha said, in fact, life is hard and nothing. The most important thing is to be despised by her husband's family. That feeling is simply a kind of mental torture. Mother-in-law blurted out: "Bitch melodramatic!" Let Sasha regret naked marriage.
Although there are many complicated things in Zhang Lin's family, every time her husband's family asks Sasha for help, she is very polite and won't say anything to her face. Sasha thought her in-laws were nice at first. Later, she discovered that it was not that her parents-in-law didn't talk about her, but that they talked about her in dialect, which she didn't understand.
Sasha can understand the word "cheap" because she buys food more often. As for the sentence "just melodramatic", she wrote down the pronunciation and asked Zhang Lincai to know. When she found out that her mother-in-law actually said so about herself, Sasha cried to Zhang Lin, but Zhang Lin thought she made a mountain out of a molehill and joked that her mother was just telling the truth.
Sasha really didn't expect that it was such a shame that she was willing to get married naked. Now she remembers what her parents said to her, which really makes sense. She called her parents in tears and said that she was wrong.
Sasha finally bought a bill for her past impulse with "clean going out". I saw her again at another colleague's luxurious wedding. At that time, she sat next to me and said with emotion: "Women's happiness still needs money to build." She also warned unmarried women that naked marriage of women would make her husband's family look down upon it, which was simply an act of self-contempt. Her change of mind made me cry.
Why choose naked marriage? I once interviewed some friends on this issue.
Some people say that some people go out to work in their teens, and their general education is not high and their knowledge is still shallow. Once they fall in love, they can't extricate themselves, believing that love is above everything else; Some people say that some highly educated young people are open-minded, and weddings are no longer a necessity for two lovers; Some people say that compared with those young people who get married right after graduation, they have no income and no savings. Naked marriage is nothing more than catching up with the trend and being romantic and exciting; Others say that with soaring prices and great economic pressure, time is more precious for office workers and wedding planning can be cancelled.
Regardless of the above reasons, I think marriage is a big deal, impulse is the devil, and naked marriage really needs caution.
Sasha chose naked marriage for love, but she was laughed at by her mother-in-law and despised by her husband. There are many similar examples in married life. Young girls who choose "love" often think that their love can transcend material things, which is the so-called type that love is stronger than gold. But in fact, life is for living, not for romance. Love without material may be pure and charming, but marriage without material is doomed to go far.
There is only one word difference between "love can get married" and "love can get married", but the final result is completely different.
I once read a passage: "I don't know what is the most important thing in marriage and what to rely on to maintain it, but the situation of each family is different, and each family only needs what it needs." However, all good marriages are based on money and love. Unfortunately, many people regard this combination as multiple-choice questions. "I am convinced. Love is romantic, while marriage is fireworks. Material determines the superstructure, and money plays a mainstay role in marriage.
In fact, there are fewer and fewer couples who are completely "naked married", and people are more and more aware of the "realistic" attribute of marriage and begin to be pragmatic. In fact, "naked marriage" does not mean inevitable unhappiness, but there are not many couples around us who get happiness through "naked marriage"
Marriage is never just a matter of life for two people. The conclusion of marriage relationship is also related to two families. But in the final analysis, the most important thing in marriage is the life partner you get along with day and night. There has never been a suitable marriage, only the right person.
Therefore, when a woman chooses a marriage method, she should not only recognize the people around her, but also know his family background, and never become streaking after naked marriage!