Filial piety has always been a traditional virtue in our country, and people will think that people who are filial to their parents must be good people. But is this really the case?
In fact, there is no direct connection between the two, and a person's quality has nothing to do with filial piety. I have seen wicked people go home to wash their parents' feet and decent people beat and scold their parents.
Human nature is complex, and it is difficult to judge people by one thing.
Marriage is very important to a person and will not change because of a person's quality. Marriage has only one goal from beginning to end, and that is to get a happy married life.
And what if you meet a filial person in your marriage?
In fact, many people will have such a condition when choosing a spouse, that is, they should be filial to their parents. In fact, this condition is not rigid, because few people will not be filial to their parents. But the topic we are going to discuss today is, what would you do if you met a filial person in your marriage?
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People who don't know filial piety have a characteristic that no matter what their parents do, they think it's right. This kind of person has a great obsession with filial piety, which leads to extreme behavior. In fact, people who don't understand filial piety are not really filial to their parents at all. They just want to make themselves feel better.
Reader Arlene told me about her emotional experience. She was engaged to a man, but for some reason she dissolved her marriage. She was glad that she would do it, instead of getting caught up in it. Because her fiance is a filial phoenix man.
When Arlene first met Qi Bin, both of them were newcomers who had just worked for more than two years. The difference is that Arlene's work in state-owned enterprises is average, while Qi Bin is doing well in a company.
Ji Bin is very capable, Arlene agrees. Moreover, JiBin is very self-motivated. He works hard and strives to improve himself, just to change his destiny.
Qi Bin's family was not so good, and his father died unexpectedly when he was very young. Leaving him and his mother with a younger brother, the mother did not choose to remarry for their two children, but raised them alone.
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You know, it is not easy for a rural woman to raise two children. Qi Bin is very sensible since he was a child and knows how to help his mother share. He loves his mother very much and respects her very much. In his mind, mother is the most important person in the world
Of course, Arlene doesn't know these things. She appreciates some advantages of Qi Bin, and the relationship between them has improved rapidly after several contacts. In less than a month, they were together.
Qi Bin chose to stay in the city after graduating from college. He worked hard to make money and asked for help to introduce his brother's work. He rented a house to pick up his mother. Mom can't stay at home, so she goes to work in a restaurant.
Qi Bin's monthly salary will be given to his mother, leaving only some living expenses for himself. Arlene didn't look down on him when she knew. On the contrary, she thinks that he is a filial person, so responsible for his mother, and he will certainly be responsible for his wife when he gets married in the future.
This is just Arlene's wishful thinking.
Two people have been in love for more than a year, and both sides feel that they know about it and are ready to get married.
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However, this marriage was opposed by Arlene's parents. After parents know the situation of Qi Bin's family, they feel that their daughter will definitely suffer when she marries such a family. And Qi Bin is obviously a phoenix man.
But Arlene felt that it didn't matter at that time, as long as Ji Bin was united with herself. Her parents couldn't convince her, so they had to compromise, but put forward one condition: they must have a house to get married.
Arlene told Ji Bin about her parents, but Ji Bin was puzzled. There is some savings at home, but it is not enough to buy a house. Arlene saw that he was in trouble, so she discussed with him, paid the down payment first, and paid the rest of the loan together. And in order to understand Qi Bin, Arlene took out her savings over the years and said that she would pay the down payment together.
Ji Bin was relieved and went home to tell his mother about it. But my mother thought about it and said, yes, but the house is written in my name. In order to prevent future divorce, she divided the house.
JiBin obeyed his mother's orders, so he went to Arlene to discuss the matter.
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Arlene certainly didn't agree. She took the money and paid off the loan. Of course, she must write her name and Ji Bin's name in this house. How to write the mother-in-law's name?
But Qi Bin said, "My mother's name is written in the house to reassure her. My mother is not easy, just listen to her! "
Arlene still disagrees. I didn't expect Qi Bin to be angry: "Why are you so ignorant? My mother did it for my own good. Why can't you be considerate? "
In fact, Arlene thinks that Qi Bin is a little silly and obedient to her mother. Now the situation of the house, it is obvious that the future mother-in-law is not a good crop, and she is calculating everywhere. If I marry Ji Bin in the future, there will be contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and Ji Bin will definitely stand on his mother's side.
Thinking of this, Arlene gave an ultimatum directly: either our names are written on the house or we don't get married!
Qi Bin also lost his temper: I can't help but listen to my mother. Go back and think about it yourself!
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Arlene said directly, "I don't have to think about it. I'm not getting married. Let's break up! "
In this way, the marriage of two people fell through. Ji Bin also speaks ill of Arlene everywhere, saying that she worships money and only covets houses. Arlene was very angry when she found out, and love rat was speechless with this filial piety.
In fact, if a man does not understand filial piety, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in marriage may not be peaceful. Stupid and filial men are not allowed to have conflicts between their wives and mothers. He will only take the side of his mother and accuse his wife.
In this kind of marriage, it is almost impossible for a woman to be happy. Therefore, in the face of a man who does not understand filial piety, women must be cautious.