I thought about it and asked him, "How long did you talk? Have you asked your girlfriend why she doesn't want to get married? "
Colleagues lamented: "It's been almost a year, but she still thinks it's too fast. She wants to play for another two years. "
As far as I know, my colleague's girlfriend just graduated for a year, thinking that she should not have settled down yet, so she had to comfort her colleague: "Don't worry, we have only talked for less than a year, and I am still young, so many places are not as good as two years."
Colleague wry smile: "But I am not young. I am 28 years old, and my mother is looking forward to having grandchildren. "
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I once sent a post asking: What did you get married for?
There are many people who reply, and the answers are varied.
For children, for parents, some are too old to delay, and some are insane because of convulsions.
Because of love, because of each other's lack.
It is said that love is a matter for two people, and marriage is a matter for two families and everyone. To a certain extent, it is true.
But I want to say that if you decide to get married, it must be because of yourself.
Only a marriage that is fully prepared and full of expectations will go steady and far.
I asked my colleague, "Are you in a hurry to urge your girlfriend to get married because you really love her and want to marry her, or because you want to get married and have children and give your mother an explanation?"
My colleague was silent for a while and answered me, "Both, mainly because my mother urged me to be a little unbearable."
I smiled: "So, it's mainly because your mother is in a hurry."
He didn't admit it, but neither did he deny it.
I advised him to reconsider and find a chance to tell his girlfriend. Everyone else should put it aside.
Since it is inevitable to consider many people and deal with the complicated world after marriage, please be selfish and think more for yourself before marriage.
Two days later, my male colleague handed me a cup of coffee, which swept away the haze of the previous days and made my eyes shine.
"Thank you, I listened to your words and chatted with my girlfriend all night to exchange our concerns and opinions. I feel that our relationship has gone further. Before, I was always afraid of drawing water with a sieve, and I wanted to tie her up with marriage. Now I think she will be mine sooner or later, and people will be much more relaxed. She is also sensible and said that she would come home with me to appease her parents and make her elders happy. "
This is a happy ending. A man who really loves you will never force you with marriage. If you are unlucky, please let go bravely.
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Ayong and Lulu have been together for three years. It's natural to talk about marriage, but Lulu hesitated.
Ayong's family is in a difficult situation. How difficult is it? There are only three country tile houses with one room, one living room and one kitchen.
Every time Ayong brings Lulu back, Ayong's parents have to give up their room and build a bed with a door in the living room.
The first time I went to Ayong's house, Lulu secretly made up her mind to make money with Ayong after graduation and build a two-story building for Ayong's family.
But now, three years after graduation, Ayong's house is still those three broken tile houses.
When Ayong was in college, he was excellent. He gets a scholarship every year and is the president of the student union. But after graduation, he suffered setbacks several times and didn't mean to get up.
Especially this year, almost all of them barely support their life in this second-tier city.
More unfortunate things happened. Ayong's father has terminal gastric cancer, and his only regret is that he never saw Ayong get married in his life.
Ayong held his father's hand and promised to marry Lulu immediately within one month. Lulu was silent and refused to nod.
Ayong doesn't even have a job now, let alone an RV. Her father is still in debt because of illness. To tell the truth, she is very timid.
She tried to appease Ayong: "Why don't we get engaged first? Marriage is always a big deal, and my parents are there ... "
Before she finished, Ayong interrupted her: "Don't talk about your parents. Your whole family is selfish. My father is dying. Does your family not dislike my poverty? "
Lulu is also angry: "Our family is selfish? Can the selfishness of our family let me accompany you for three years? " I am not a hundred times better than others, and your family is not selfish. Why did you drag me into the fire at this time? "
They were all very angry, and everything they said was not pleasant to hear, but Lulu didn't expect that Ayong almost made a move. If Ayong's mother doesn't arrive in time, Ayong will slap Lulu in the face.
After the quarrel, Lulu gave Ayong's mother ten thousand yuan, which was all her savings.
But left without even saying goodbye to Ayong. Ayong called her crazily, but the signal was always busy.
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Getting married is really a matter for two families, but after all, the life after marriage belongs to both of you. I'm not advocating selfishness, I'm just thinking for myself, but sometimes, if you know yourself well, what others see is not as comprehensive as what you feel.
Don't care too much about others. People who love you are looking forward to happiness and happiness for the rest of their lives. People who don't love you don't care about them.
Where to go, follow your heart!