My best friend and her husband are both department managers of listed companies. They are usually very busy at work and often go home at midnight, so they have no time to take care of their families.
There are only old people and children at home most of the time. The old man is in poor health and his legs and feet are inconvenient. They also need someone to take care of themselves, let alone others.
My best friend and her husband hit it off and decided to find a nanny. I dragged a lot of people around me and found various channels. Finally, after a series of interviews, I found a sister Zhang who was very satisfied with their whole family.
Sister Zhang is 55 years old, but she looks very young and energetic. She is an expert in both internal and external studies. The house is spotless, and the rice is sweet and delicious, which is very popular among adults and children.
Sister Zhang's life is also very tasteful, and she pays attention to dressing appropriately. She often helps my girlfriend plan the clothes in the closet and gives her some suggestions on dressing. In the words of my best friend, they don't know what luck they have to find such a nanny.
Once, a colleague and I passed by my best friend's house. I just didn't have time to get what she brought me, so I took this opportunity to go to her house.
Sister Zhang helped us open the door. When I opened the door, I found my colleague stunned, but immediately recovered his expression.
Because I'm still at work, my best friend is not at home, and the elderly at home have also gone to kindergarten to pick up their children. Only Jason is preparing dinner for his family.
Sister Zhang called us to sit on the sofa. She is busy pouring water and cutting fruit. My colleague asked me in a low voice, "Is she your best friend's nanny?"
"Yes, this person has seen it. What's the problem? " I looked at her fussy expression and felt a little funny. Then I said, "Sister Zhang Can, do it. I don't know how my best friend got so lucky. Someone in this community raised the price for her to go, but she didn't go. "
My colleague spat out his tongue, looked at me and said, "You really didn't recognize it?"
I looked at her inexplicably and said doubtfully, "See what? Don't keep me in suspense, say something quickly. "
My colleague shook his head and looked at me with a helpless expression. After a long time, he said, "You, she is the mother of General Manager Zhang of our company."
"What? Mr. Zhang, the vice president of our group? " I said with some disbelief.
Colleagues immediately said, "Hey, she went to see Manager Zhang several times, but you didn't see her?"
"I really didn't pay attention to this. You are really gossiping. Nothing in the company can escape your eyes. " I joked with a smile.
After a while, Jason came out of the kitchen with fruit and gave me what I wanted.
I carefully asked Sister Zhang, "Sister Zhang, you are really capable. Do you have any relatives here? "
Sister Zhang smiled and said, "I have a son here who is not married yet. He is very busy all day, leaving early and returning late, and often travels. I often have nothing to do at home alone, and come out to exercise my muscles. "
My colleague and I looked at each other and my colleague pouted at me, so I thought, why don't you ask yourself? Although I thought so in my heart, I still had to ask curiously in action: "Sister Zhang, is your son Zhang Qun?"
"Hey, that's him!" Sister Zhang shouted happily, but immediately put away her smile and asked carefully, "How do you know who you are?"
"Hey, don't worry, he is our vice president." I explained it right away.
Jason was obviously a little embarrassed and said, "To tell you the truth, I told my son that I went back to my hometown. If he knows, I can't do it. He felt sorry for me and felt that I must be uncomfortable doing this kind of service work. But this family is very polite to me, and I really can't bear to leave. Don't tell him! "
We were a little embarrassed, but we promised Jason.
We exchanged pleasantries when we got something, and my colleagues and I went home.
In the next few days, I always avoided Mr. Zhang intentionally or unintentionally in the company. .
One day, he called me to his office and said to me, "Xiaomei, have you made any mistakes in your work recently?" Why did you hide when you saw me? Or did I do something to offend you? "
I immediately said, "No, it's just ..."
I reacted at once and stopped talking at once, but I was caught by Manager Zhang and asked me, "What is it?" Don't hesitate about things at work, just say that the problem is solved. "
I saw the story end here, so I told the whole story about Sister Zhang. Unexpectedly, after listening to this, Manager Zhang sighed and said, "I have known this for a long time!"
He took a sip of tea and then said, "My mother was very capable when she was young. She is the first in the company, and she can't help herself when she is old. Let her go. But don't tell her I know about it. "
I gave a wry smile and answered again. But I don't know how long I can keep this secret.
Through this matter, I want to say:
1. Although both mother and son have secrets that cannot be known to each other, their starting point is also for each other. So although there are secrets, they have not caused misunderstanding and estrangement between them.
2. Everyone has the need to be needed and recognized. Jason just retired and suddenly stopped from her busy life, which made her very uncomfortable. At this time, someone needs to care about her spiritual life, and her son, Mr. Zhang, is aware of this, so he hopes that we can help her keep this secret.
3. If possible, try to solve the problem through communication. Because sometimes in order to keep a secret, you need to tell many unnecessary lies, which may bring trouble to yourself and others.
what do you think?
People's understanding of the world is a gradual process, and there are no major secrets suddenly discovered, such as the understanding of the earth, the solar system, the Milky Way and the universe; Perception of life and so on. On the contrary, in trivial matters of life, we often inadvertently find some unimportant so-called secrets, such as other people's privacy, such as complex interpersonal relationships and so on.
I have lived in this world for 56 years, and my greatest advantage is not to pry into other people's privacy. But I am good at communicating with people. /kloc-step into society at the age of 0/6,/kloc-learn to stand on your own feet at the age of 0/8. I have traveled all over China, and I have many good friends. But with the growth of age, with the passage of time, I found that the most important secret is that people's living standards are high, their knowledge is wide and their civilization is advanced, but the trust between people is lacking, and the beauty burned by passion is also lacking!
Time flies and I suddenly find myself old.
The secret is-never too old to learn! Life is full of learning!
What big secrets have you discovered in your life? There are more women left in cities and more men left in rural areas.
The women in the city were highly educated and beautiful when they were young. High is not low. If you have good conditions, you will despise her. I don't like it if the conditions are not good. Pick and choose, and you will be left when you get old. This has created many urban leftover women. I think I should marry myself in the best years. Good flowers don't bloom often, and good times don't come often. Almost the same conditions will do. If you choose flowers, the more you choose, the worse.
Men in rural areas have poor family conditions and are unwilling to make money hard. Originally, there were few women, so it was definitely difficult to marry a daughter-in-law, thus creating more surplus men in rural areas. Rural girls went out to work when they were young, met good suitors outside and married outside, which increased the local surplus men. With more men than women, as a man, you should go out to work and earn money, so as to find the person you like and get rid of being single.
These are the great secrets I have discovered in my life.
The secret I discovered is. 1: Don't spend money or invest indiscriminately when making big money. You must remember that flowers bloom and fall. When business is good, there will be times when there is no business, and any industry is the same. You must save money when the wind is smooth. So you won't despair in a downturn. 2. Boys should never work or enter factories after the age of 26 (unless their annual income is above 20W). Be sure to learn to start a business, and the initial debt should not exceed 20% of your principal. Even if you lose everything, you can pay it back by working later.
Big secret? Can you talk? Is this a secret? I know how that xxx in Beijing got rich, I know who the first real estate villa in Beijing was built for, and I also know ... I just can't say, it's a secret! It's good that you know.
Be invited to answer questions
The biggest discovery in my stupid life is that I should be open-minded when I look at problems and do things. See the world with an open mind. A man should have a word "da".
After three years of marriage, I accidentally discovered my wife's biggest secret and felt that I had encountered a well-planned scam. I had the idea of divorce in an instant, but I knew the reason and lamented how much my wife loved me!
My wife Zhou Meng and I met on a blind date. At that time, the matchmaker introduced Zhou Meng like this: the female was 25 years old, and her height was 1.65 meters. Her parents died young and she was a grandmother at home. She got married soon, had no children, was gentle and kind, and sold clothes in a shopping mall with a monthly income of 4,000 yuan. Her blind date requirements are: it doesn't matter if you have a house or a car in the local area, ask the man to be reasonable, not to gamble or drink, to be gentle, responsible and patient with the elderly and children! After listening to the matchmaker, I was tempted, too. After all, it can be seen from her blind date requirements that this woman is a person who really lives!
Under the matchmaking of the matchmaker, we made an appointment to meet at the park gate at 165438+ 0: 30, but on the way, because of an accident, I met my future wife Zhou Meng in advance. Sometimes fate is so wonderful. The thing is, because the company had a temporary emergency, it was almost 1 1 when driving out, for fear of delaying the blind date. So I drove a little faster on the road, just near the park. When the last red light was ready to start, an old woman suddenly came out, touched the position of the headlights, and then fell to the ground.
Seeing this situation, I quickly got off the bus to check grandma's situation. At this time, some people around me also looked over. Because of the fall just now, my grandmother was obviously a little emotional and speechless. The people next to me also accused me of being beaten. I was so scared that I quickly explained that I didn't hit her, but the people next to me didn't listen at all, because watching where my grandmother fell and the distance from the car really made me lose my mind.
Just as I was eating Huanglian, a girl riding an electric car stood up and explained to everyone that it was not my fault that she was waiting for the red light at the back of my car. When she saw that everyone still didn't believe me, she vowed that she used her personality as a guarantee. When she said all this, I was moved to tears. If I didn't meet her today, I would really be wronged to death.
At this time, grandma calmed down and told everyone that it was really her own collision, and I was very wronged. I was very glad to see grandma say that, but I did fall down and gave her 200 yuan. I want to turn around and thank you again. Just now, when I was with that kind girl, I found that I couldn't find anyone!
I hurried to the gate of the park and was surprised to see the matchmaker and the girl together just now, only to know that the object of my blind date today was her! The matchmaker said a few words briefly, and then made an excuse to leave, leaving us to talk alone.
Because of what happened just now, I have a better impression of Zhou Meng. At this time, I also gave her a good look, wearing a light blue skirt, a pair of white sneakers and a student's head. If the matchmaker says that she divorced at the age of 25, she really looks like a college student. I thought to myself, even if Zhou Meng divorced, I could marry such a beautiful and kind woman and go home. It's really smoke from my ancestral grave!
After thanking Zhou Meng, I also chatted with her about our business. I also told Zhou Meng directly that I was unmarried at the age of 27 and had a house in the local area. Getting married and having children is absolutely enough. The car is that car, with a monthly income of over 10,000. The requirement for the woman is gentleness, kindness and sincerity, and nothing else is required! I say this because I have taken a fancy to her at first sight. I'm afraid I'll miss such a good girl if I ask too many questions.
It's time for lunch, and I also want to take the opportunity to behave well, so I offered to go to a nearby hotel for dinner. Who knows that Zhou Meng turned me down at once. She took me to a Lamian Noodles in Lanzhou on the street and ate a bowl of Lanzhou Lamian Noodles by herself. Finally, she invited me. In the face of her behavior, I doubt whether she has a crush on me. After all, a girl like her is not a random marriage partner, so I am very lost.
After I went back, I sent Zhou Meng messages for several days, but she didn't reply to me. Just when I was completely disappointed, one night she asked me, "If I marry you, will you tolerate everything?" I am happy enough to see that she can reply to my message. I don't care what I ask. I replied three words "I do" at the first time.
In this way, Zhou Meng and I got married six months later, and we were very happy after marriage. When I suggested that they have a baby, Zhou Meng refused for various reasons. They say they don't want to have children yet, but they want to wait until they earn more money, so their pressure is less. Besides, she also said that she was fine and had a litter. I didn't care when she said this.
The days after marriage are happy and joyful, but every month, Zhou Meng has to give her grandmother in her hometown in the countryside lucky money on time. Because Zhou Meng's parents died early and grew up with her grandmother, it was 2000 yuan a month. Although I felt a little too much in my heart, it was very gratifying for me that Zhou Meng could have this filial piety, so I didn't ask anything more.
In the third year after marriage, the quiet and happy life was broken by the arrival of grandma. One day at noon, grandma Zhou Meng knocked at the door in a panic and saw me at home. Her eyes flashed and she pulled Zhou Meng into the room and whispered. I thought the old man was a little neurotic, so I didn't take it seriously. I don't know. After listening to her grandmother, Zhou Meng came out and said she had something to go out.
This incident really aroused my curiosity, so I followed them quietly and secretly. It took a lot of effort to see that Zhou Meng had returned home with her grandmother, and Zhou Meng's neighbors seemed to be looking for someone, so I got off the bus and asked the villagers. Unexpectedly, I discovered Zhou Meng's biggest secret. It turns out that she has a five-year-old daughter in the village and has been living with her grandmother. I suddenly felt like a bolt from the blue when I heard the news. I didn't expect Zhou Meng, who usually tells me the truth, to hide it from me for so many years!
Just when I was in a daze, Zhou Meng's daughter was also found, and her daughter missed her mother very much. After all, Zhou Meng only came back once a month. I heard that my mother was in the city, so I went to the city alone to find my mother. Fortunately, she met an acquaintance in the village on the way and brought it back. Seeing the little girl lying in Zhou Meng's arms shouting "Mom, Mom", I still couldn't bear to expose Zhou Meng, so I turned and got on the bus and left.
When I got home, I couldn't figure it out myself. Why didn't I say anything before I got married The little girl looks five or six years old. I seem to feel that I have encountered an elaborate scam. To tell the truth, I have a little daughter, which I can accept for Zhou Meng's sake, but I can't forgive Zhou Meng's deception. I immediately took out my marriage certificate and divorced her when Zhou Meng came back!
The next day, Zhou Meng came back with her daughter. Looking at the little girl hiding behind Zhou Meng in fear, my heart was mixed. Zhou Meng said that I went back to the village, and the villagers told her. She also thanked the villagers for helping her hide the secret for so long. Every time I go back to the village with Zhou Meng, my daughter is put in the neighborhood to play. Everyone in the village knows that Zhou Meng's life is very bitter and is helping her hide it. This is why I haven't found her secret for three years!
Her ex-husband, the little girl's biological father, lied to Zhou Meng before marriage and showed his true colors after marriage. Smoking, drinking, playing cards and gambling were all lost in less than a year, and even my daughter had to gamble with the money from drinking milk powder. Every time I lose money at cards, I beat Zhou Meng instead of taking it out on her. The parents-in-law at home can't control it, and there is really no way out. Zhou Meng divorced his daughter. As a result, less than a year after the divorce, her ex-husband lost money at a card game and seriously injured others in prison.
After the divorce, Zhou Meng's life became more difficult. There is only one grandmother in the family, and there is no economic income. Let alone raising children to drink milk powder, there is a problem with eating. She was not dating for love, just looking for someone to rely on and have some money to support her children. When I heard this, I suddenly felt that I was a big head. It turns out that I'm just a tool Zhou Meng used to raise her daughter. I immediately clenched the two marriage certificates in my hand, and my heart strengthened the idea of divorce!
Zhou Meng went on to say that fate played a joke on her again and let her meet me. When she saw that I gave my grandmother 200 yuan, she decided that I was a kind person and didn't plan to use me, so she didn't reply for several days. But later, Zhou Meng found herself hopelessly in love with me. She couldn't help but tentatively ask me if I would tolerate everything. After getting my affirmative answer, she didn't.
The reason why she has been hiding things from her daughter is that she is afraid that I will divorce her when I know the truth. She really can't lose me in this life, because I am her favorite person. She has been looking for an opportunity to confess to me, but every time she comes to her mouth, she doesn't know how to speak.
After listening to Zhou Meng's words, I also remembered the dribs and drabs of three years of marriage in my mind. To tell the truth, Zhou Meng is really a good wife and mother, and people around him especially like Zhou Meng. I don't know if I missed Zhou Meng in my life, but I can go there to find such an excellent lover!
Looking at the timid little girl hiding behind Zhou Meng, I firmly said to Zhou Meng: "Since I chose you, I will tolerate everything about you, and she will be our own daughter in the future!" Then our family of three hugged together!
This is the biggest secret I found out about my wife!