When a friend gets married, you can pay 2000 yuan, which is a big gift. But why did Mingyou break up with you? I think everything happens for a reason.
First of all, maybe you have many gifts from your friends. When Mingyou got married, you gave a big discount on the gift, so your friends would blame you.
Grandma's son and daughter opened the lock with 500 yuan and gave the niece 200 red envelopes each. But last year, my son unlocked the lock at the age of thirteen and asked others to take 300 yuan. No one came. There is a saying in the countryside that people eat first (mattresses made of straw), and everyone is seated. It means that you can get as much as others give you. His sister's family condition is not bad. Why is the gift money 400 yuan short?
This is because I know best that my husband is honest, and his sister simply looks down on this younger brother and his family. Besides, his sister is sharp and thin, so she did such a thing. At that time, all kinds of bad things that her sister had done to me in the past came to my mind, and she jumped up with anger and broke up with her parents. Later, due to my husband's brotherhood, the relationship did not break down, but I will never forgive him.
The importance of human communication lies in coming and going, and reciprocity is the way for friends to communicate. People respect others, and people despise others. You respect me by one foot, and I will respect you by one foot. If my guess is true, it's your fault. If you want to get your friend back, apologize sincerely.
Second, there may be major contradictions or misunderstandings between you. As for whether there are contradictions, you know best. If so, calm down and think about it. If a friend is wrong and he still does it, then you don't have to worry. Don't worry about this friend.
If the problem is you, it is reasonable for friends to do so. You don't need to play hide-and-seek with others and waste their time.
If there is no contradiction, it is purely a misunderstanding, then you can have a good chat with your friends. Maybe we can have a long talk. The sun is shining.
I want to know your so-called friends, what is your relationship? If you are just colleagues, I tell you, you can't call them friends. You are colleagues. If you are classmates, you can call friends. Why pay 2000 yuan? Do you have money at home or are you still single? Everyone else is carrying 200 yuan, but you only need to pay 2000 yuan in exchange for not contacting each other in the future? Why do you know?
My friend told you that he wouldn't contact you in the future, which meant that he didn't want to come after you got married. He told you that 2000 yuan can't go back. From then on, we broke off relations and became strangers. There should be other reasons. Everyone else is following 200, and you are bluffing with 2000. Friends are too fierce to see you, so it is best not to contact such people. The purpose is obviously to receive gifts in the future, and I don't want to talk to you.
It's definitely not because you broke up with you less. This number is absolutely ok. Forget friends. It is difficult for his uncle to get 2000 yuan. 2000 yuan as a gift is absolutely ok. What he said was that he couldn't take it anymore. Not all families are rich, but we are still ordinary families. If you leave like this, he's afraid he won't be able to keep up in the future, so it's understandable not to tell him at all.
This kind of thing often happens in the countryside. Others take 200 yuan, while others take 1000 yuan. He said they are good friends, but they really can't tell at ordinary times. There are other factors in this. Some people take the opportunity to curry favor with others with a purpose. There are many things at home in the future, and they want to ask others to take more. They have one child and three children. This is also a phenomenon, alas! There is no way to be smart.
In our daily life, we will attend various weddings of our friends. Moreover, because of different relationships, each friend gives different gifts. In our local area, gifts accompanied by ordinary friends are all within 200 yuan. And some very good friends usually go to 500 yuan with a gift. So, different gifts really represent different relationships. Moreover, it would have been a happy thing to be invited when a friend got married.
No matter in our countryside or some cities, the so-called gift money of ordinary people will not be too much. Of course, some local tyrants are excluded. For most people, at present, in our rural areas, the gifts given to each other at weddings are basically 200 yuan. And our high school classmates and college classmates usually pay 400 yuan to attend their weddings. If they are classmates or friends who are in frequent contact and have a particularly good relationship, the gift will be slightly more. This is also our local default custom.
For this friend, give the other person a wedding gift of 2000 yuan. Personally, I feel that the amount is relatively high, so I especially express my goodwill. However, being rejected by the other party really surprised this friend. There are several reasons for this:
First of all, if you entrust others to give gifts to your friends, you may register incorrectly because there are too many people. For example, if you give the other person 2000 yuan, it becomes 200 yuan. If this is the case, then the amount is beyond the imagination of the other party, and the other party sent such a short message in anger.
Secondly, it is possible that this friend gave the other party a gift of 2000 yuan. But when he got married himself, the gift money given by the other party was far greater than 2000 yuan. So in practical sense, such neighbors are still relatively few. For friends who got married later, they naturally felt chilling, so they did this behavior. In fact, getting married is a festive event, and you should accept the gift money from your friends no matter how much. There is something wrong with this friend's texting.
Many people say that the friendship between colleagues in the workplace is "as light as water".
Don't look at each other all day long, "hook up" and be as close as brothers.
But colleagues also know that today's colleagues may be passers-by tomorrow, and it is normal for colleagues to jump ship for the future. Therefore, the "sweet words" between colleagues are just words that are not taken seriously.
However, after a few years in the workplace, the style of one of my colleagues changed my opinion. .....
Xiao Wang is my "master" who just joined the company. I call him "master" and "master" half jokingly and half seriously.
Xiao Wang entered school two years before me. The manager asked me to study more with him.
Xiao Wang has a generous personality. He taught me what I should master in the company, but he also gave me the experience of dealing with people that I can learn in the company.
By rights, he has no such obligation. I am very grateful to him. Invited him to dinner, and Xiao Wang didn't let me pay the bill. He said, you just went to work and didn't make any money. When you are skilled and get a raise, invite me again.
Working for one year, I am going to marry my girlfriend who has been in love for many years.
Because I haven't been in for a long time, I said hello to my boss, gave my colleagues a wedding candy, and didn't say "invitation" to avoid embarrassment when people didn't want to go.
Xiao Wang also gave me a "cope". Say, the host must drink your wedding banquet.
I also listened as a guest. Unexpectedly, on the wedding day, Xiao Wang really came. He handed me a red envelope. It was stuffed with 888 yuan.
I have a lot of money, and I can still have good meaning. I think it is my luck to know a colleague like Xiao Wang.
My mother-in-law suddenly fell ill and was hospitalized last year. I have also posted a little savings. Even if you live, you have to pick and choose. Colleagues all know that I have no money.
In May, Xiao Wang got married. I think Xiao Wang helped me a lot. No matter how poor you are, you should squeeze out a "big red envelope" for others.
I stuffed 2000 yuan in the red envelope.
On Xiao Wang's wedding day, I paid a red envelope. Xiao Wang originally refused, but when someone called him, he accepted.
The wedding was very lively. After dinner, I received his WeChat as soon as I got home:
The red envelope given by your boy is too small.
What do you mean? I look a little dizzy. Less than 2000 yuan?
Wechat sent by Xiao Wang again:
When you make a lot of money, give me a big red envelope Knowing that life is tight now, you don't have to follow the gift.
Then there is the information of Xiao Wang's WeChat transfer, and he returned 2000 yuan intact.
According to the current public market, there are indeed many friends who want to break up with you, indicating that he is very unbalanced, and most of them have other secrets, which should be the kind that the subject does not want to tell us. If I guess, there may be two reasons:
1. The total value of gifts given to you by friends before is far more than 2000 yuan. In fact, this kind of thing is quite common in life, especially in the circle of relatives. Some families have a large population, weddings and funerals are relatively frequent, and some families are poor, giving gifts is much more than going out, so happy events of the same nature cannot be measured by the number of single gifts.
Your friend's previous help in other aspects was worth far more than 2000 yuan. For example, I lent you a huge sum of money at no interest, or I gave you a helping hand in life because you were in great difficulties. Of course, it has nothing to do with money. Many may have helped you solve all kinds of social problems, but you didn't make a corresponding statement at that time. He thought you would take the opportunity of his marriage to give some feedback.
Without the above factors, friends simply don't think you are so polite unless he is a petty person, but if so, what's wrong with breaking up? Although many people don't want to admit it, they all have their own "small abacus" in actual social interaction. Some people calculate money, while others value friendship more. In any case, the relationship can only be maintained if there is a relative balance between giving and receiving. We are just bystanders, we can only guess according to the superficial meaning of the topic, and the final decision depends on you.
When a friend got married, the subject gave a gift of 2000 yuan. In the evening, I received a dear John message from my friend and asked myself if it was less than 2000 yuan. I think in general, 2000 yuan is a lot of wedding gifts, not a little. As far as China's current national conditions are concerned, there are quite a few people who have friendship with 2,000 yuan.
There is no love and hate for no reason in the world. My friend must have sent you this dear John letter for a reason. The reason is you two, there is no other possibility.
First of all, the topic is mainly to calm down and carefully investigate whether you have done anything inappropriate, which led to friends turning against each other and breaking up. Judging from the description of the subject, there seems to be no other reason except the gift money. Then let's see if a wedding gift of 2000 yuan is appropriate.
If your friend's gift money is far more than 2000 yuan when you get married, it is absolutely reasonable for you to get along with others and give them the same or slightly higher gift money when they get married based on the basic communication principle of reciprocity. If you are rude first, you can't blame others for breaking up.
If you have ever owed a lot to others for some reason, a friend's wedding is the best opportunity for you to repay, and a big gift is necessary. And you neglected this point intentionally or unintentionally, and the gap between the gift money given and his expectations was too big, so it is not difficult to understand that you finally received a dear John letter.
If we are just ordinary friends, I think 2000 yuan will do. Your friend should have self-knowledge. He won't and can't break up with you.
Another situation is that your friend is a philistine and has a big personality problem. He took the lead in holding the wedding before you, and after receiving the gift money, he was worried about paying the bill in the future, so he simply broke off the relationship. This kind of thing has happened to me. There are all kinds of people in the world. You can't think of it without him.
The reasons why the subject broke up with his friends are basically in my analysis above, and the subject can compare them one by one. This is your fault. You correct it and try to get your friends' understanding. If it's a friend's reason, so be it, it's right for my husband to be close to the sage! 2000 yuan is not much, you have already paid the tuition.
Look at the problem to grasp the key, otherwise it is nonsense. Like this question, I gave a friend a gift of 2000, and was told by my friend that I would never give up. Many people have commented that 2000 yuan is quite a lot. If my friend doesn't do it, he won't do it. That's the point.
What is the key issue of this incident? Looking at it alone, 2000 yuan is indeed quite a lot. For example, if I give my friends a basic 500 yuan, a better 1000 yuan is the standard. But when we look at the problem, we must never look at it in isolation. Combined with some situations, it is the key.
For example. When the subject got married, his friend gave him a gift of 10000, and then his friend got married and he gave him 2000, so his friend was angry and didn't do it, which is understandable.
Another friend helped him do a great thing, which was worth tens of thousands of people's favor. Then my friend gave him 2000 yuan when he got married. I don't think this friend will do it unless he does it.
Everything has a cause and effect. We still have to figure out the cause and effect behind it in order to see the problem accurately. This is the key for us to look at this problem. Without the cause and effect behind it, or with our usual thinking, there will definitely be deviations in looking at the problem.
You must have received a gift of more than 2000 yuan from him!
You returned 2000 yuan, and the other party thought you were too much, so they sent a text message saying that they would not contact again in the future.
If so, you are the winner, because you made money.
I'm sure that if you didn't have a very special relationship with him (of course, you dare not show it to others), you would never give 2000 yuan as a gift?
I always feel that you are the villain who complains first, bites back and tells the truth when you get a bargain. I wonder if you agree with this statement?
Because few people give 2000 yuan as a gift to ordinary friends, there are hundreds of ordinary people in society!
First of all, in China's interpersonal communication, there are human contacts, which is a way to deepen feelings and make friends. China, in particular, is a big country with etiquette, and it has always paid attention to etiquette, so sometimes the exchange of money and gifts is very important.
In this issue, marriage is a human event, accompanied by the exchange of gifts. The question says that a gift of 2000 yuan is not a small gift. After all, judging from the current amount of bride price, it is probably more than 200, with a relationship of more than 500. Of course, if it is aimed at customers, it depends on the actual situation.
Why, in the above questions, I have already followed the ceremony, but my friend sent a message saying that I will not contact again in the future, so I am very curious. I wonder if there are two kinds of guesses:
First of all, fewer wins more.
Wedding gift giving is an established rule. No gifts will be given to each other unless an appointment is made there. Otherwise, in our country, gifts are always accompanied by gifts. Gifts are a means of human interaction, which can not only add a touch of joy, but also ease the pressure of husband and wife's life.
But the gift money is also to be returned, and it is necessary to follow the principle of reciprocity. If you don't follow, it's only a few hundred dollars. It is also very cost-effective to see a person clearly. I just feel that the society has taught me a lesson, which is the same as spending money to see the reality.
Second, the actual situation was not clearly analyzed.
Many times, when good friends get married, the gift money is almost the same, no more or less. After all, we are familiar with each other. Everyone wants to be happy, but if it's for customers or making friends, don't be too casual, try your best. After all, what do you want from him?
As mentioned above, the relationship between two people is friends. You should understand that as long as you are friends, you won't care too much. When you make friends, you probably know what kind of people your friends are, so you won't make too many mistakes when you get married. So the friendship mentioned above has some water.