In the end, it not only saved the success, but also pushed the other side further and further, and even attracted no good feelings. In order to make each other happy in the future relationship and get twice the result with half the effort on the road of emotional recovery, the following are some mistakes that everyone is most likely to make in the whole process of retaining, such as:
I won't stay until I sum up the experience and lessons of breaking up and analyze the reasons.
Two-way emotion, whether two people are happy together is the only criterion to consider emotion. If we both feel tragic, then _ separation must have a reason. Before emotional counseling, emotional counselors must actively do some courses, analyze, master, go back and go deep into feelings, find out the key reasons and truth of differences, think carefully about what caused the current situation, get the most objective and fair results under the special circumstances, addresses, standards and circumstances at that time, and finally take appropriate measures to save feelings. After breaking up, many people don't learn lessons and analyze problems. They have solutions, are emotional, blindly follow the trend, and do everything according to their own intentions. This is called true honesty. I don't know that I have seriously deviated from the line. Even if I can keep my feelings, it will never be possible again.
I don't understand, and the expression is unscientific.
It is inevitable that there will be some impetuous mentality after breaking up. That kind of mentality will lead to a gradual indifference to everything, and it would be terrible if you always want to save your feelings. Sometimes, if you are eager to find your feelings, you will become more and more irrational, not very pleasant to listen to, and you will become more and more excited in your language. In fact, listening can not only ease the other person's worries, let the other person's mentality be vented, but also hear his demands from his words. Everyone does everything with subjective factors. At this time, everyone can establish what the other party wants, and the retention rate will increase. In addition, the expression needs to be very effective. Some people are straightforward and don't know how to talk or do things. In fact, they just need a little tact. If you don't emphasize each other's shortcomings immediately, you will give each other a ladder, and of course you will leave room for each other.
Eager for success, not knowing how to win or lose.
In order to get back together faster and better, some people tend to be more and more eager for success, and don't understand that there are many victories and failures. In fact, this will hurt each other. To save love is to care about each other's hearts. Breaking up itself means that there is a crack between two people, and there must be a certain gap to be repaired. At this point, it is appropriate to stand in the other party's position and feel that if you exchange roles with the other party and expect what the other party can do, then you can improve your practice. It is necessary to leave a certain space and space for both sides, so as not to push one side to the edge of the cliff and eventually collapse. In short, it is not advisable to get quick success and instant benefit.
Do not seek higher development.
It is said that feelings make people develop, and this kind of development is not limited to understanding the feelings themselves. Many of them let them hone and accumulate experience in a large number of industries, and then in turn promote the feelings themselves. Many people break up because they are immature or stubborn. After all, we should have a certain understanding in the whole process of leaving the company and strive for higher development. At this time, I can experience more things I have experienced before, study and train diligently, broaden my horizons, hone my broader mind, make friends with teachers and friends, and read books that can improve myself and keep a good body. After a long time, we will find that everyone's aura is very different from the past, and they will be more proactive, sunny, calm and calm, thus gaining a stronger standard of saving emotions.
The classic quotations of reason and emotion, nowadays, everyone knows the most mistakes made in emotional redemption. In the future, in practice, we should effectively bypass the above four points, carefully think and analyze our own feelings, keep each other in mind and listen, leave something for each other and strive for higher development. Everyone will understand that this is actually not a breakup, but an episode that promotes mutual happiness and integration. Maybe one day, we will thank each other for this unique experience.