My brother almost lost a son to his parents, but my brother has settled in his hometown and his parents live with him. Brother can be very filial, but what about brother? Does my brother go back to his hometown to visit his parents regularly? Does my brother often call his parents to care about them? Will my brother give my parents some living expenses and buy some nutrients from time to time?
Maybe my brother doesn't have to do this, because living with his parents is the best way to express his concern. But if my brother doesn't do this for a long time, parents will have opinions when comparing two sons, and these opinions will accumulate because they can't vent, and it is normal to dislike my brother in the end.
For parents, this brother is similar to a married daughter, but the old people have traditional ideas. Children were originally raised to prevent old age. Parents worked hard to raise their son, but his son settled in other places and could not take care of his parents. My parents don't want to leave my hometown to find my brother, and there is a younger brother in my hometown. They must have chosen to live with their younger brother, so they think his brother is not good.
In fact, my parents' alienation from my brother still feels that they don't care enough about my brother. Whether my brother earns more money or my brother earns more money, or my brother goes home to visit relatives and live in my brother's house, it is not the reason why my parents neglect my brother. If his brother doesn't solve this problem, the relationship may be more rigid in the future.
Home is the place where everyone lives and lives. Only those who belong to the same family, build, maintain and contribute together can be called home.
It turned out that my brother's parents belonged to the same family. Later, when he worked, my brother married a foreign daughter-in-law. He settled down and had his own home, just like separation. My brother went back to his hometown to live with his father and also had a wife and children. Although his parents are here and his brother goes home to visit relatives every year, the family ties are not completely broken, but his hometown is actually run by his brother, so in fact you have given his original hometown to his parents and brother.
People's life time and energy are limited, so it is difficult to build and operate two homes. Times have changed, but the two brothers have their own homes and lifestyles after separation. The reunion of brothers and sisters with their parents and brothers is only a short-term comfort, and it is difficult to find the feeling of living together in their hometown.
Over time, the family will gradually alienate, just like the old house will be abandoned and collapsed if no one lives in it, but the potential family consciousness of the generation of brothers and parents will not change, and the intimacy of meeting their own people will gradually disappear at any time, but will be changed by courtesy, which will inevitably produce different feelings and changes.