Son beats daughter-in-law
Uncle Luo of Hefei broke his heart for his son and daughter-in-law. When his son got married, the old man who was only interested in his son quickly gave up his house and moved into public rental housing. After the granddaughter was born, she was busy helping to take care of it. Unexpectedly, her son and daughter-in-law are in conflict. The son beat his daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law left home for a year in a rage.
I finally persuaded people to come back, but my relationship with the elderly turned sharply. The daughter-in-law treats the old couple like air and doesn't call her parents when they meet. The old man was ill in hospital, and his daughter-in-law didn't even look at him. Now the daughter-in-law also plans to sell their old couple's house for a school district, which makes Uncle Luo unacceptable anyway. Uncle Luo Can didn't understand what he had done wrong and asked his daughter-in-law to give them such a big opinion. With Uncle Luo's appeal, we went to Uncle Luo's son's house for the first time and met his son Ronaldinho.
Ronaldinho told us that the contradiction between his wife and in-laws laid a hidden danger as early as the wedding bride price. When his wife just got married, his parents didn't give him a bride price, so his wife was very concerned, and for this reason, he refused to call his parents, and his parents were also very concerned. Ronaldinho is somewhat disapproving. As for selling a house to buy a school district, Ronaldinho said it was his own idea, and we also considered it for him.
The idea of buying a school district house for children is good, but it ignores the actual situation of the family, not to mention whether Ronaldinho has obtained the consent of his parents to sell the house. His parents' old house is small in size and in a bad location. After the sale, even the down payment of a school district house is not enough. Moreover, buying a house by Ronaldinho will also lead to the cancellation of public rental housing and the inability to live. Is it necessary for the whole family to live in the school district? If you rent a house for your parents alone, then Ronaldinho's current situation is unbearable for the rent and mortgage of the school district. So this idea is also very difficult and difficult to realize.
Uncle Luo: That's how my wife talks. Be honest.
Ronaldinho believes that filial piety is your own business, and parents should not ask too much of their wives. It can be seen that Ronaldinho is in a dilemma between his parents and his wife. On the one hand, he is incompetent and needs the help of his parents. On the other hand, he is also helpless about the tense relationship with his wife after his parents intervened. The vision of the school district has become far away, which makes Ronaldinho more and more confused. It seems that the tension at home has something to do with Ronaldinho's lack of opinion and chaotic state.
Uncle Luo and his wife are in poor health now. If you live with your son and daughter-in-law, it is inevitable that you will not stumble and deepen the contradiction. This old house is not only a place for the old couple to settle down, but also a guarantee for their future pension. Ronaldinho's idea of selling his parents' property and gnawing at his capital is obviously out of date. If you want to buy a school district, you have to work hard and take out your own mortgage. At the same time, Ronaldinho should learn to coordinate relations, act as a buffer between parents and wives, take on more responsibilities and handle family relations well.
Ronaldinho's mother has been worried about her son's divorce because she is afraid that the burden of taking care of the children will fall on her. The expression of honesty and frankness is obviously too self-centered and lacks consideration for others. I think this expression is not accepted by her daughter-in-law in daily life. The old man is worried about his son's life, but he should also keep a moderate distance, especially in the face of a strong daughter-in-law.
Family happiness is the key to family happiness, and it is not easy to produce contradictions if you keep a proper distance.
We understand the contribution of the elderly, but there needs to be a sense of boundary between the two generations, especially not to impose their own ideas and values on their sons and daughters-in-law. Too much interference will only be counterproductive. Only by learning to let go and respect each other can we get along with children. Knowing that we were here to mediate, my daughter-in-law took an evasive attitude. During the mediation, her phone has been disconnected, and we have no way of knowing her thoughts.
The contradiction between Uncle Luo's family shows us the triviality of daily life. There are no problems of principle at home. Perhaps it is a hidden danger buried by the poor family economy. Maybe habitual complaining hurts the family. Perhaps it is the son's lack of ability and responsibility. Unable to deal with problems when they occur, the family is drifting away.
Under the roof of the family, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea are just chicken feathers of life, but over time, once the inner barrier is formed, a casual word and a look can also become the last straw to crush the camel. At this point, it is not difficult to understand why the young daughter-in-law ran away from home for a year in a rage.
Uncle Luo and the old couple thought that they had wronged themselves and worked hard for their son but could not see the return. They also provoked complaints, completely unaware of their own problems. In fact, a harmonious family needs every family member to take his place, perform his duties, maintain reasonable boundaries and discretion, and take care of the emotions of all parties.