One night. I was on duty in the consulting department when the young man came in and I asked
He: "What can I do for you?" He hurt an f and just said, look. From his hesitant speech
Behavior, you can see that this is a temptation. I listed him warmly and sincerely and said, "I want to see it, but."
Come in and have a look. "He also smiled, although it was only a faint smile under the weight of the knot 39.
But I know he or she will walk into my consulting room, because I feel that he has accepted me.
I still use my eyes to encourage him to be brave-'some, he paused a little-'for a while, finally.
Come in and ask me, "can we talk?" I answered affirmatively, "Sure, please.
Sit down and talk. "And tell him that the task of our psychological counseling center is to do our best.
Yes, help every helper get rid of psychological pressure and pain. So he came to ask me.
I told him about my painful experience and inner distress.
He is a graduate student, and he didn't take the exam until two years after graduating from college. now
Now I am doing my graduation thesis, and I will finish my studies in a few months. But he
At present, I am very upset. I don't want to do a paper, even to see happiness, eat and sleep.
Life is greatly affected and life becomes desperate. This is what he is doing.
Road, walked into my consulting room.
After graduating from college, he was assigned to work in a design institute and soon got to know a factory.
A girl. This girl is lively, beautiful, gentle and lovely, and they soon established a relationship.
Feelings and established a relationship. Colleagues say they are born-yes, they are also intoxicated.
Prepare before marriage and choose the date of F- crash. But at the time of seeing a doctor, this
A girl was diagnosed with terminal leukemia, only/-:months later, after they agreed.
A few days after the big day, she gave up and died. In grief, he received
A university graduate student admission notice was given. When he left the factory with the feeling of marital pain, he asked him to
A place that touches the scene.
After entering school, he devoted himself wholeheartedly to the towel of study to drive away his sadness.
Many female cadres around you no longer pay you. JTJ was at noon half a day before the levy, and he suddenly found out that there was
A very familiar figure appeared before us. This is a cypress tree, and its shape is similar to the past.
A female graduate student who just entered the school owes a friend a favor, and her tired and depressed heart has revived for more than two years.
Rising, involuntary began to secretly pay attention to this female student.
Stop. Her manners, her figure, her words, her smile ... with her eyes.
Her whereabouts, her behavior with psychological care. "She" came back to life in his heart, and he
Feel the joy of life again. He often wants to take the initiative to know this female classmate, but again.
It's hard for the other party to accept hurting themselves too abruptly. It will leave a bad impression on people.
-I am in this contradiction that I want to confess but dare not confess.
Just as he hesitated, he suddenly found that there was often a girl around him.
The relationship between male students and them seems to be good and harmonious. He felt in his heart
The labor pains are a mess, but I still dare not approach this girl actively. Time passed day by day.
When he went, he found that the relationship between girls and boys was getting closer and closer. Seems to have
Publicly show their relationship to everyone. Seeing that the girl he loves is about to belong to
Others, he began to feel panic, worry, pain and despair.
After talking about his pain, he told me that he didn't come to me.
Compassion and pity, but want my advice and help, that is, help him how to get it.
This girl. It seems that he has undoubtedly given me a difficult problem and asked me to help him solve it.
This girl who knows him and already has a boyfriend obviously has this problem for me.
I can't help him untie it, but I can help him regain his reason and self-confidence and correct his heart.
There is a serious cognitive deviation at the bottom, which makes him face life rationally and rebuild himself.
Faith and strength.
On the surface, he has fallen into unrequited love. The characteristics of wishful thinking-'can be divided as usual.
There are two kinds: one is called unrequited love, that is, the object of love knows that the admirer is in love and is chasing her.
Beg her, but she didn't mean it herself. I refused his courtship; The bell is called unrequited love,
It is that the other party doesn't know about it, and the fantasy is strong. The graduate student is interested in the female researcher.
Relationship is this kind of unrequited love.
Secret love is a common psychological reaction of people longing for love.
Not based on the love between men and women, the instrument is 1 want to learn from M's "self-love".
Secret love movies often pour their thoughts and feelings into each other.
To the other person's emotional regression or not knowing that the other person's dj is interested in himself, thinking and acting fF.
No longer accepting sexual domination is only subject to 1: a little subconscious fantasy, and this fantasy is gone again.
The confusion between the past and reality leads to cognitive distortion, which in turn leads to long-term pain, anxiety and suffering.
Menqi is worried.
Generally speaking, most unrequited lovers follow fate; N Liu's passage will actually be related to
Free from the love that doesn't exist, after a painful muddling along, many people will
This way can eliminate that unrealistic fantasy and restore psychological balance and normal life. but
There are also a few single-phase thinking, and sometimes they take discomfort because they can't rule out this desire.
When solving the problem, causing serious consequences.
At a deeper level, the student's secret love is not actually included in this woman.
Graduate students, but the empathy for the original girlfriend is the deep affection for the original girlfriend.
Homesickness transferred to J. A stranger talked about J: emotional foundation.
Physically, this unrequited love is even more illusory.
Based on this psychological premise, I must adopt a pedantic strategy to deal with him.
Requirements. I said to him, please swim down and let's analyze it-what's in your heart?
Real thoughts, and then we will find a solution to the problem. I avoided F to help him.
The direct demands of female students.
I asked him, "Can you still tell me?" What are the masses, liberal arts students? or
Tell me, why do you like her? "
He replied, "I like her looks, her voice and her happiness."
Stop. Anyway, I can't lose her this time, Fj. "
I asked him again, "Do you know her personality, her hobbies and her feelings? You f
What do you know about her? "
"I think I know everything about her." "Stop," he said; "I don't need it.
You know, I just love her. "
From these words, I deeply feel that there is one behind every idea of his.
They firmly exist in his subconscious and dominate his love feelings.
This is a deep yearning for the original girlfriend J, who consciously uses his girlfriend's appearance to measure.
Real girls. The truth is that he doesn't love the real him.
A female student, but his ex-girlfriend. He pinned his love for his ex-girlfriend here.
A liberal arts student regards her as the embodiment of her original girlfriend, and the pain is still there.
It is an extension of the painful step of losing a girlfriend. Although he thinks it is with sincere psychological needs.
Treat ic students with a harmonious attitude. In fact, he doesn't know his psychological expectations.
Tendency, in his fantasy, the real "she" buckled the overlap of the past "her".
I told him that what we have to do now is to take out the hidden thoughts in your heart from the darkness.
Raising the light is the key to restoring your reason and confidence. The natural law of birth, aging, illness and death
The law is irresistible to each of us. We must face up to reality and face reality.
Pursue your true happiness.
I asked him to assume that even if he could find the girl student,
But "she" is awkward after all; In the same way, he is willing to accept the way of his former girlfriend.
Love this female student, can this female student always live in the shadow willingly? I
Ask him to rethink all this, insist on thinking in the right way and get rid of the pain as soon as possible.
Sad, restore yourself.
I also taught him some self-adjustment methods such as transfer and sublimation, and encouraged him to readjust.
Know yourself and get out of the psychological shadow of unrequited love and empathy.
After more than a month of consultation, his mood began to stabilize and normal, as did his study and life.
Step by step on the right track Once I met him on the road and saw him holding a big Zadda in his hand.
Yin Gao, I asked him, "What are you up to?" He said, "I'm busy printing my paper and getting ready to attend."
Reply. Looking at his confident face, I think he finally overcame himself. "
"Liang Shanbo" in University Town
One night, a handsome boy dragged his feet to the psychological counseling center.
I kindly called him to the factory. His expression was stupefied and he said in a trembling voice, "Teacher, I"
It hurts, please help me. "
I sincerely said,' Can you tell me why you are suffering?'
He looked at me hesitantly and said with a smile, "Yes, but don't laugh at me."
I stared at him with sympathetic eyes and was silent for a while. I said with concern, "since
But when you come to the center, we will be friends. How can I laugh at you? "
In a few minutes' conversation with the factory beam, I gently introduced the consulting office to him.
The personnel composition and work discipline of the heart are related to the scope of consulting services. After listening to my introduction, he is good.
Like reducing some worries, I shyly told him/her about his injury.
"I am a research cow in the school. Before three o'clock. I was killed while working in a design institute.
Made a like-minded girlfriend. She is outgoing, enterprising and kind-hearted.
People are beautiful again. After half a year of contact, we poured out our love for each other.
Confirmed the relationship. Nobody knows. Tianlun is a weatherman. Six months later, hematologic cancer took her life.
I lost my life and left me reluctantly. "
At this point, the young man burst into tears and calmed down after I tried my best to persuade him.
Then, he said bitterly, "After she died, I was in pain and I lived well."
In the dream, the mood is extremely painful and the mood is quite chaotic. What I can't stand in particular is that ...
When I walked into the design room where we worked together, her voice and smile immediately came to my eyes.
In front of my eyes, I often look at her design table and eat something. The same thing in the unit is also a rumor.
I'm possessed by her. I may be mentally ill. Well-meaning leaders and colleagues have repeatedly suggested
I can't forget her, but I miss her more, which makes my son almost impossible. "
He went on to say: "In September of the following year, I went back to my alma mater to study for graduate students. I want to get used to a change of environment.
A factory's own emotions. In order to get out of her Pd shadow, she goes to school if she can't remember.
Later, when I saw those happy women, her image appeared in front of my eyes.
Thinking about her makes me anxious, headache and insomnia. For two years, I didn't dare to dance or take part.
Bn group activities, even having L classes with girls every once in a while, will make you fidgety and upset.
Dizzy, flustered and sweaty, and then I began to believe that she was a devil. long-term
Emotional torture makes me lonely, miss her and love her. Inexplicable pain, let me a few
If you lose confidence in learning F, you are always worried that you will not finish your studies. But "thinking of old age"
Parents grit their teeth and stick to it. Fu's efficiency is extremely low-he just faces graduation now. My opinion
Writing is not 7; Yes, I often suffer from insomnia and headache. Although many people went to see a doctor, they came to the conclusion that F was not ill.
Diazepam, oryzanol and other drugs for sleeping and strengthening the brain took a lot of F, and the effect was slight, so they started.
I doubt that I really have mental illness and my heart is full of anxiety. Teacher, I really have spirit.
What's wrong with you? "
I said positively, "since you have done a comprehensive examination." All indicators are normal, which
Explain that you are really not sick, compare 7; It will be a mental illness. You should believe it. "
He said, "I'm not sick. How could I be like this? Am I really possessed by her? "
It's her soul that hurts me. "
I said, "No. After listening to your story, I think n; The bad emotional reaction is the heart.
Cause by reason. Psychologically speaking, your symptoms now belong to 1: anxiety. "
He asked:' What is an urgent discipline? "
I explained: "This is a neurosis with anxiety as the main symptom. Anxious
Reaction is a normal reaction when people face sudden pressure. I: It often happens to normal people.
Healthy. But normal people only do this when faced with realistic and clearly identifiable threats or dangerous situations.
An experience of nervousness, fear, etc. In essence, it is people's physical and psychological awakening in an emergency.
The performance of the country. Such as facing entrance examination, sudden fire news, earthquake warning and other occasions.
The reaction. Patients with anxiety disorder will not only have anxiety under the above normal circumstances, but also
When there is no clear and identifiable real threat, anxiety will also occur. Anxiety reaction again.
It can be divided into inner experience and physical symptoms related to abnormal activity of autonomic nervous system.
noodle Psychological experience is mainly a kind of unspeakable tension, mixed with anxiety and meditation.
There are some elements of anxiety and fear, as if disaster is coming. body
Symptoms are sympathetic hyperactivity and exercise anxiety. Such as palpitation, palpitation,
Tremor of hands and feet, endocrine disorders, etc. In addition, most patients have sleep disorders with various manifestations.
Forgive falling asleep and waking up early or sleeping soundly. "
He asked, "Can this disease be cured?"
I said, "As long as you have confidence and cooperate with me, it can be completely cured."
Then, I introduced him to the problem of anxiety and the treatment. After discussion,
Agreed to cooperate with me for treatment,
1. /J 1 Yuan Gang 1m The timid period of lamb Sipo spoon Wenya invading g9. I asked him.
This paper introduces Morita's therapy and relaxation methods and their basic principles, and explains what Morita advocates.
Guide the principle of "let nature take its course and follow one's inclinations" and teach him how to do relaxation training.
Ask him to start this week. We must step out of the closed self, and scholars participate in the collective with "illness".
Activities, earth sports and the handover of male and female students, insist on relaxing training. Two weeks later, his first
A slight improvement in his good mood strengthened his confidence in recovering from paralysis. I gave him comfort and encouragement.
I hope he can insist on his request.
Second, I learned1from changing his bad team; Help him analyze his illness and make him feel better.
Out: L 1) His series of bad emotional reactions were caused by heart 5B instead of cow 5g. he
His thoughts are the result of spiritual interaction. TgIJh r's mental activities tend to be introverted and flat.
Often used for introspection, it is easy to pay attention to the physical and mental activities since 26k, which is very important to the body.
Psychological discomfort, unpleasant or abnormal withdrawal and feelings of excessive attention. So my girlfriend died.
After that, I experienced a bad mood of madness and dying. He has been depressed for too long. He is pregnant.
Miss her, want to forget her conflicts for a long time can't be solved, let him feel uneasy.
This mountain is evil now. (2) He mistakenly studied a headache caused by peripheral anxiety.
As a mental illness. (2) Happy life, R, study, is the most important thing for the deceased girlfriend.
I miss it. Since my girlfriend is dead/. It is impossible to keep people, and the unit is also involved.
The theory of evil is superstitious and has no scientific reason. It is false that a unique soul exists and loves his daughter.
Friends in the grave don't want him to sink to this extreme Ij, and they will definitely hope that he will live 1: happiness.
Life.
Second, the whip began to change his behavior and taught him with the help of systematic desensitization therapy.
How to carry out systematic desensitization exercises to help him overcome obsessive-compulsive disorder of asking questions and get along with different parts?
Fear. After a period of training, his condition has obviously improved.
Fourth, with his consent, I used hypnotherapy to eliminate his sleep disorder.
After five times of hypnotherapy, his sleep disorder was relieved, so that he was completely cured.
More confident.
After nearly three months of counseling and treatment, 1' s anxiety disorder: basically recovered and progressed smoothly.
Graduation ceremony. Before leaving school, he said goodbye to me carefully at the consultation meeting, carrying my f 1 behind his back, and said affectionately:
"Teacher, you lit the fire and killed me. I will remember it with water. " Wobaikou
He smiled on the shoulder and said, "You set the factory on fire and threw it away yourself; The furnace of life. Remember, in your heart
Our sun can carry water and belong to you. "