Why is the second child addicted to mobile games? Because there is a reward when the game passes a level, there will be a sense of accomplishment and happiness psychologically. Therefore, our parents should help their children find fun, sense of accomplishment and happiness in reality. For example, if you have the ability, take your children out to travel, climb mountains, see the sea, visit Beijing and Shanghai and broaden your horizons. Take children to experience the university once a year, go to different schools every time, and take them to the library once a week. Parents buy books first, then let their children choose books. There is a big bookcase at home, which contains books that we like to read and books that we can't finish reading. Parents should set an example for their children.
Third, help children develop various hobbies: painting, dancing, martial arts, music, eloquence, calligraphy and so on; Encourage children to participate in the competition, so that children have a more sense of accomplishment. The wider children's interests are, the less likely they are to be addicted to mobile phones.
Fourth, do a good job in parent-child relationship and make a good system. Many parents will fly into a rage when watching their children play games, beat and scold their children and destroy the parent-child relationship. If you find that beating and cursing can't solve the problem at all, why don't we understand him, then make a good system and how often to play mobile phones? How many times a week? 1-3 cannot exceed 15 minutes, 4-6 cannot exceed 30 minutes, and junior high school cannot exceed 1 hour. The content of playing mobile phone must be filtered, and some games can't be played, such as: the glory of the king, eating chicken and traveling to the west. The higher the level of this game, the easier it is for children to participate. After setting the time for the child, set an alarm clock for him, and remind him ten minutes in advance when the time is approaching, so that he can get ready. It's time. He must stop. Don't scold don't rob the phone, if it is a game, let her finish!
Fifth, when playing games, the system should be strictly implemented after it is set up. Parents should bite the hand that feeds them, and it is best not to beat and scold their children, which will only make them rebellious and affect their studies. When it comes to playing mobile phones, we should try our best to arrange children's time, such as doing housework with children, reading books with family, visiting children and visiting relatives and friends. Keep some fish and flowers at home, change water for the fish and water the flowers. Take the children to play badminton, basketball, walk and visit the park. Self-employed people can ask their children to help us do paid work. Children can be encouraged to do part-time jobs in winter and summer vacations and so on. In short, arrange his time and keep him busy.
Sixth, give children a sense of accomplishment and happiness. The school is called standardized education, while our children are personalized education. Children's academic performance is related to heredity, guidance from schools, teachers, classmates and parents. If the child's academic performance is not good this semester, it doesn't mean that he doesn't work hard, but he should be praised for his good grades in single subjects. Don't compare your child's shortcomings with other children's strengths. That will make children feel inferior. If children feel that they can't get their parents' approval, they will go to the virtual world to find approval.
Seventh, parents should help their children optimize their circle of friends and tell them to choose friends for a happy life. Birds take husband and wife as companions, people take sage as companions, and those who are close to Zhu Zhechi are black. Try to make friends with students who study hard, have great dreams and firm goals. Try to make friends with classmates who don't play mobile games.
Eighth grade parents are role models for their children. Some parents play games by themselves, but it is not easy to ask their children not to play games. Do as you would be done by. If parents want their children not to play games, they must first do it.
Ninth, as parents of children, we are parents of children who will never retire. Family education will accompany us all our lives. We should communicate with our children regularly, at least once a week. Communication methods should be scientific and efficient. The best way to communicate is for parents to ask more questions and children to talk more. Parents should learn to listen. We'll talk after the children have finished. We must say what the children want to hear first, then what we want to say, so that the children can listen to us. This is called emotional communication, which makes children feel that we care about his school life and psychological changes, and that we care about and love him. Don't ask your child to study hard in emotional communication, which will make him feel that you have a purpose to communicate with him, and he won't feel your care and love.
Tenth, why do children play mobile phones and games? Because he thinks playing mobile phones or games is more interesting than playing with his parents, because parents don't really play with him. Therefore, when we get along with children, we should change our mentality, give them a warm home from the heart, give them a happy childhood, and sincerely accompany them to do something meaningful.
The eleventh kind of companionship. Just play games with the children. I'll play whatever game he wants. This not only filters the content of your child playing games, but also has the same language as him. This is also communication. Then you should play better than him, and you can retire together later. Sometimes if you play better than him, he will get bored and stop playing.
Twelfth, don't be sarcastic about children. For example, you promised your mother yesterday, and you said it very well. How can you go back on your word today? How can you say you can't? What can I do besides playing games? It's no use saying these words, it won't solve the problem. On the contrary, children can easily break the jar. If he still plays games, it means that we are not competent enough. Before criticizing children, we should criticize and reflect on ourselves. We should use more wisdom and methods to help children play less mobile games step by step. Don't deny his personality just because his performance in playing games has declined. Being an adult is more important than being a talent. Don't let a child become a talent just because he plays games. In the end, you can't even be a person.
Thirteenth, if children have reached the severity of Internet addiction, they will not go to school, get up, wash clothes, go out and play games all day. Parents are advised not to take extreme measures such as disconnecting the internet and dropping their mobile phones. I suggest you just hold your horses and help your children get out of the game slowly through your own changes, or find a professional institution or school to help you get your children out of the game together.
Fourteenth, all children who are addicted to mobile games are more miserable in real life, and he will find happiness in mobile phones.
Fifthly, the best way to play mobile games is to nip in the bud and try not to touch them from an early age.
Mobile phone has become an indispensable communication tool in modern people's daily life. No matter on the subway, on the bus, or even on foot, you can always see people playing mobile phones.
Today's children have lived in the Internet age since childhood, and mobile phones are even more inseparable. In 20 19, the number of underage netizens in China reached 65438+75 million, and the internet penetration rate of minors has reached 93. 1%.
On March 6th, lawyer Li Xia, deputy to the National People's Congress, proposed that in order to solve the problem that children are addicted to short videos such as mobile phones, online games and Tik Tok:
I hope this technology can be realized, so that children can better control the frequency of using mobile phones and indulge in mobile online games.
This is because, in real life, there are many cases of vicious conflicts with children because they play mobile phones or indulge in mobile games, especially life-threatening. ...
Seeing such an event sounded the alarm for us. # What should children do if they are addicted to mobile online games? #
Netfilx's documentary "Social Dilemma" mentioned a concept:
Children are addicted because they have already been designed.
In fact, adults, like playing with mobile phones, will get stuck in it more and more, and they will be addicted to it if they are not careful, but children have weak self-control and are more likely to fall into the mobile phone and online world.
What should parents do to let their children play games within the normal range without affecting their normal study and life?
In the matter of children playing mobile phones, it is not forbidden but rules should be made.
Chunshu Ma, a postdoctoral fellow in psychology, once put forward a list of rules for children to play mobile phones:
At the end of 30 minutes, the mobile phone needs to be returned to the parents for management;
If the child loses his temper because of receiving the mobile phone and refuses to study normally, the child will lose the right to play the mobile phone the next day (red card is sent off);
The alarm will remind you of the time five minutes in advance. If a match time is not completed, or the match needs to be saved, it needs to be extended, and the extended time will be deducted from the match time of the next day;
If children steal mobile phones to play games, cancel the right to play mobile phones for one week (one-week ban);
The rules have a probation period, such as one month.
We can't adjust it within one month, unless it expires, we can have another meeting to discuss it;
The usage period of the discussed rules is half a year, and cannot be modified within half a year.
According to this list of rules, parents need to get their children's consent before implementation, so as to avoid excessive resistance from children before implementation of the rules.
As parents, we should lead by example, reduce the frequency of using mobile phones, set an example for children, and educate children that mobile phones are just a tool and should not occupy most of our lives.
If you want your child to stop indulging in mobile phones, you must create a positive and healthy growth environment for your child. From the beginning of putting down the mobile phone, make reasonable rules together and spend time guiding, caring and accompanying the children!
May your children no longer be controlled by mobile phones!
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