As parents, we read many parenting books and told us to encourage our children more. Rudolf Drake told us that children need encouragement just as plants need water.
However, we often forget to encourage ourselves. In the process of reading for several years, we can feel that when mothers encounter problems in parent-child relationship, husband-wife relationship, mother-in-law relationship and other external relations.
In fact, many times there are problems with self-relationship. If you want to mend your relationship with yourself, there is a very important part, that is, self-encouragement, because it involves self-awareness, self-identity, and then encouragement.
In fact, self-encouragement is a way to love yourself. We will tell you the gadgets and methods of landing in the middle of this month. Every day we will give you a tool to do self-encouragement exercises, so that you can use it every day. Follow our rhythm and feel a little bit of strength every day.
So it can be said that this month's theme is a process of thinking, and we will use four books to tell you the methods of self-encouragement in one month.
We use "Mr. Toad goes to see a psychiatrist" as the first book, and use a fairy tale to let you feel the process of psychological counseling and return to yourself;
The second book, Being Your own Psychotherapist, will give you the methods of self-psychotherapy. This book is also a very classic book to encourage psychological counseling. Its authors are Lynn Lott and Barbara Mandenhall. Lynn Lott is one of the founders of positive discipline and the founder of encouraging counseling courses.
The third novel "List Life" gives you a sense of story substitution. The author of this book once wrote a very famous novel called A Man named Ovi.
It will let you know what we should do when life is in trouble. Is to let you have a transparent feeling about the reference books you have talked about. Malaysia also plans to add literary works to the list of books in the future, because if you only read reference books, you will only know that the method can't land, and you should nourish your mind with reading.
And the last book, in fact, you are very good, just like the title of this book: in fact, you are very good, which is a very important self-encouragement sentence. This book comprehensively puts the first three books on the ground.
Next, I will give you a detailed introduction to the four books we will talk about next month:
Books 1
Mr toad went to see a psychiatrist.
Mr. Toad always loves to laugh and make trouble, but now he is uncharacteristically unhappy. He hid in the house alone, and he didn't even have the strength to get up and wash.
His friends were very worried about him and suggested that he go to psychological counseling.
10 in psychological counseling, toad, under the guidance of consultant Heron, bravely explored his inner world and gradually recovered his confidence and hope. ...
This is not a children's book, but a very in-depth psychological healing book. Published for more than 20 years, it has become an introductory book for British national psychological counseling.
Based on the psychological theory of TA communication analysis, this paper tells the whole process of a depressed patient finally finding happiness and self-confidence through ten psychological consultations.
In the book, you can see the listening, emotion and communication skills of psychological counseling, and you can also see the standard template of psychological counseling process.
Readers are like visiting the scene, experiencing every detail of psychological counseling and witnessing the cure and change.
In this book, through the interaction between toad and heron, the author explores the origin of toad's inferiority, cowardice, grandiose personality and depressed mood, so that readers can see the profound influence of childhood experience on personality and how to really grow up psychologically and live independently, confidently and hopefully.
Book two
Be your own therapist.
How to refresh your thoughts, feelings and behaviors within 8 weeks;
This is a book that will make you an "encouraging consultant" for yourself and others;
This book is a brand-new application and expansion of the basic concept of positive discipline in adult relations.
With the guidance and help of becoming your own psychotherapist, you can achieve real self-healing. This book will help you open a model, help you change your life and relationships, and empower yourself.
When we were children, all of us made a series of decisions. We often don't realize that we are making or storing these decisions, but these early decisions constitute our "core beliefs" or "personal logic".
In the process of reading the story of this book and participating in the activities of this book, you will begin to notice the influence of potential unconscious decisions made by people when they are young on their current lives, and encourage counselors to know how to walk into these inner children and help them re-nurture them and let them grow up.
This book has ***8 chapters, each chapter is one week. Every chapter follows the same pattern: find out the obstacles that hinder your growth and change; Try one or more changed options; Carry out suggestion activities.
Taken together, each chapter is a complete system, which helps you find out the problems thoroughly, make changes and bring happiness and satisfaction to your life.
Third book
List life
This is a novel written by Swedish writer Fredrik Backman.
This book tells the story of a 63-year-old woman, Britt-Marie, who abandoned the past and started a new life.
The author tries to tell every reader that the hardest thing in life is to give up the extremely comfortable life and start over.
Author Fredrik Backman is a well-deserved gold-lettered signboard on the global bestseller list in recent years.
In The List of Life, he chose to break through the pattern he was good at. Without the protection of his grandmother, Elsa and fairy tales, he wanted to tell the story of an old woman who desperately found her place again.
Up to today, 9 million readers have experienced the charm of buckman, and I believe you will like it.
Fourth book
Actually, you're fine.
The author Cora Xiaowu graduated from the United States 1 major, then worked as an intern in the United States, and was exposed to numerous real cases through clinical psychological consultation.
Although many tourists from China have a great age span, they are all more or less troubled by anxiety and inferiority.
In today's society, we are under pressure from all directions: work, housing, life, parenting, study, interpersonal and so on. Many people are anxious and stressed.
Her other book, Cora Xiaowu's English Learning Diary, told you in detail in the topic of English learning.
However, in fact, you are fine, which takes anxiety as the core and overcomes the "anxiety" phenomenon from different dimensions.
The book analyzes the root of anxiety (family background) and how the impact education leads to people's deep sense of inferiority.
In the third chapter, the author shared an effective method to manage anxiety, namely mindfulness.
The fourth chapter discusses how to manage the thinking that causes anxiety from the perspective of cognition.
The fifth chapter starts with emotions and shares how to manage negative emotions including anxiety. The sixth chapter starts with action and talks about how to overcome anxiety-related behaviors.
In the seventh chapter, the author helps us find our inner children and share how to accept ourselves from the deep heart and realize our own value.
When a person realizes this, he can really manage his anxiety effectively.
There are many practical test and exercise charts in the book, such as self-rated anxiety scale, mindfulness exercise, cognitive questioning table, emotional management skill table, behavior activation exercise table, behavior change plan table, emergency self-care plan, etc. This will sweep away your anxiety.
If you are prone to anxiety, confusion and lack of self-confidence in your work and life, then this book will certainly benefit you a lot.
Reading Club @ Maguo Reading Club 65438+ February Bibliography
Self-encouragement is to teach us not to look outward, but to look inward, so that everyone can have a better landing in the process of self-encouragement.
Therefore, the designated books of our offline reading club @ Ma Guo Reading Club are Courage to be Disliked and My Job is Mother.
"My job is mother" gives you a self-awareness, let us know who I am, whether I can recognize this role in me, whether I can accept my present situation calmly, and whether I can really recognize myself.
The courage to be hated actually gives you strength and self-encouragement. It is a very important book in Adler's individual psychology.
We read these two books in Malaysia and discussed them in detail.
20 17 June theme: Adler's individual psychology
Theme: Women: Career and Family
Therefore, the offline reading club is to take everyone to have a deeper discussion, enter everyone's heart, and really bring you the power to change from the inside out.
If you want to attend our offline reading club, you can leave a message or send a private message.
author
Ma Guo Li Xuan: founder of Ma Guo Reading & CEO, a well-known storyteller on parenting, a graduate student of developmental and educational psychology in Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences, a certified lecturer on active parenting, an intermediate teacher certified by the European Union in Montessori, a certified lecturer on the course "Peaceful Parenting", a certified lecturer on the course "How Children Say Before Listening" and a lecturer on the course of parents' efficient reading training camp. He was also invited to give lectures in China Taiping, China Ping An, Sony Electronics, universities, kindergartens, enterprises and institutions, and held more than 200 lectures in more than 50 cities. Sina Weibo @ 京京京京京京京京.