Many people can't help but have the habit of comparing themselves. However, when this habit is subtly brought to children and exposed from all aspects of life, it will form an incorrect value orientation for children.
Nowadays, many kindergarten teachers attach great importance to cultivating children's practical ability and self-reliance ability. Xiao Fang is a kindergarten teacher. In order to cultivate children's independence, she assigned homework. She hopes that children will take videos or photos of themselves dressing independently and helping their parents with housework at home and send them to their parents to share with their classmates.
I thought it was an assignment with positive value and significance, but I didn't expect the original pure intention to be distorted by my parents with the development of time.
At first, parents actively cooperated with the teacher's work, but as time went on, the photos and videos shared in the group slowly changed their taste.
Many parents are unhappy in their daily life. Instead, children's clothing brands, shoes brands, expensive toys, and some even began to slowly dry valuable furniture at home.
Parents vividly turned into a scene of comparison, which made Xiaofang very helpless. She had to say that if this continues, she will hack her parents and have to cancel the homework.
Netizens saw Xiao Fang's sharing and said it was true. In real life, many parents will compare with their parents more or less, which may not only bring trouble to teachers, but also bring trouble to other parents.
Why do parents like to show off in groups?
It is related to personal experience and personality development.
Some parents may be treated unfairly by others because of external material conditions in real life or growing up. I have developed a character that I like to compare with others, so I can't help but make comparison a part of my life.
In order to improve the status of children
Some parents worry that teachers will treat their children differently because of their different family environments. Therefore, showing off the superior conditions and good resources of your family can improve your child's position in the eyes of teachers.
Comparison will have a negative impact on children.
Distortion of values
Parents keep up with the joneses in reality or show a tendency to keep up with the joneses and pay attention to material conditions in front of their children, then children will pay special attention to material conditions and external conditions, and even, like parents, develop distorted values that put material first and measure others by material. It is not conducive to children to cultivate a person with a correct outlook on life and good quality.
Recruit children to be black
The comparison behavior between parents has caused great pressure to some parents with relatively weak material and material conditions, and also revealed their values of paying attention to external conditions. Therefore, parents and children may not improve their personal status, but will leave a bad impression on others.
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The family environment is good or bad, and the economic foundation of each family is different. How a person's economic conditions can not judge a person's quality, let alone his talent.
Therefore, good external material conditions can't make people admire you from the heart. A truly knowledgeable person never cares about showing off, but lives, works and studies more humbly.
How should parents set a good example for their children? What do you think of comparison? Welcome to share!