I can tell you for sure that a boy will think of you in his midnight dream no matter whether he has a new lover or not after breaking up, but if you stand still, he will only miss the good memories of the past and never think about getting back together. Girls, do you understand:
After breaking up, boys tend to become extremely rational.
This means that when he considers "whether to get back together", it doesn't depend on how much you love him, but on whether this relationship is worth going back. From a man's point of view, a man who really loved you seems bold and resolute at the moment of breaking up, but it is actually his long-planned decision. Before that, he proved whether it was a correct decision to break up with you through the details he got along with you. During the inspection, he saved up enough disappointment and decided to part ways.
Don't boys know that "you still like him" is because of your entanglement? He is too clear, but in his mind, "What's the use?" He doesn't want to be wronged by a momentary impulse, and he doesn't want to make the same mistake as a constant you.
I don't agree with your request, not that he doesn't love you, but that he wants to love himself now. In short, the general situation of your breakup is three points:
1. Long-distance love. It's been more than half a year since we broke up. My predecessor made it clear that "I don't like myself anymore".
In this seemingly unsolvable situation, do you really have to accept your fate? No, if you really want to get back together, you can also show determination and action. So what we need to do now is not to "stay by force". It is to rebuild personal value and create a second attraction. His attitude is "even friends don't want to do it with you", so your repair is bound to be a difficult road. I'll tell you the general idea, and it's up to you to decide whether he is worth it or not.
You know, your biggest problem now is not that you are in a different place, not to mention that your predecessor deleted all your contact information, but that you just want to "how to keep him" now, but never thought about "why did he leave?" There is no love for no reason, and there is no separation for no reason.
Why did your predecessor refuse you again and again? Because you have a "personality defect that he can't stand." After breaking up, you didn't correct it in time. Instead, you magnified your shortcomings in a tangled way, so naturally your predecessor had no reason and no courage to convince himself to turn back.
If you want your ex to soften her attitude towards you, you should first make a comprehensive recovery of past feelings, find out why the other party broke up and what "warning signals" were released to you before the separation.
How much hope you have of getting back together actually does not depend on your ex's attitude towards you, but how many shortcomings you can realize and how many effective corrections you can make.
To tell the truth, if you have been in a constant state and just want to pester your predecessor to prove your love, your predecessor will not be moved by it, but will be resistant and bored from the heart.
Remember: effective correction must occur before it reappears in his life, and then we have to consider "how to re-enter his predecessor's life?"
You have to understand: your predecessor doesn't have so much love and patience for you now. If you add your ex back under the banner of "getting back together", you are likely to be rejected by the other party, and then he has deleted your WeChat. You might as well accept the demotion and rejoin his life as a friend. You might as well send a short message like this.
I know that I used to be a self-centered person, and I was very cold to you and ignored you. I've been thinking for a long time recently, putting myself in my shoes. I really feel sorry for you. During this time, I also tasted the feeling of being left out. I respect all the decisions you make. I won't pester you anymore. You deserve to be loved by better people. What we want to see most is the happiness and freedom between us.
The starting point of saying so much is actually to make friends with you, lie quietly on the list, not disturb, and witness each other's happiness silently.
When will your ex let go of her bad feelings towards you? But when you stop pestering, you are relieved, and you are not aggressive, then she will naturally soften your defense mechanism and let her see your sincerity, which is to eliminate your original negative prejudgment of self-character.
Finally, how to regain the attention of your predecessor? In short: to restart your life, what you have to do is not to touch him, but to live yourself as an "elusive" existence in his eyes.
To understand the complexity of the high difficulty coefficient, the best way must not be how much energy and financial resources you spend on your predecessor, but to love yourself and know how to invest in yourself, which will become the upper limit of your predecessor's cognitive level.
Under what circumstances can an ex pay more attention to you? But he found that after breaking up, there was no better person to replace you, and you were always in a state of appreciation. He began to realize that "what he missed seems to be the best", so when he couldn't find someone to replace you,
Naturally, I will re-examine my relationship with you. Fitness, clothing improvement and exquisite attitude towards life will constantly improve my ideological level and better social circle. These will be your new highlights, and I will constantly hint at my changes to my predecessor through my circle of friends or social channels.
Don't worry. Your ex can't tell. Everyone subconsciously pays attention to whether their predecessors "live better than themselves".
Therefore, every change in your personality defect and the emergence of new attractions can actually add a point to your ex's heart. Are you clear?
What should you keep most? Not an ex, not a feeling of regret, but a better self. Only from the outside or from the inside can you attract your ex again, let him see your change and realize that "no one is better than you" Reason will tell him that getting back together with you is worth a try. The more I want to stay, the more I can't stay.
When you can seriously love yourself until you can crush all potential competitors, then his heart will naturally be more willing to return. Girl, remember a piece of advice: If you want to be worthy of being loved, please learn to love yourself first.