Many friends around me are divorced for various reasons, and every broken family has various reasons. What is the most important thing between husband and wife? Maybe everyone has their own answer.
My friend Xin Li and his wife divorced. Although they hadn't spoken for a long time before the divorce, Xin Li's wife was a little surprised at the moment he filed for divorce. In her mind, even if Xin Li has a hard time with her, she will have a relaxing day.
But what she didn't expect was that Xin Li insisted on divorcing her, and ten cows couldn't come back.
When Xin Li's wife gives her home to Xin Li, don't give her a bride price. Looking at Xin Li's penniless home, she couldn't bear to tell him about the house. However, before having children, she told Xin Li that she could accept naked marriage, but before having children, she had to have a house, otherwise she could not give them a stable life.
Xin Li is a little unhappy. He asked, don't you want children without a house? Looking at unhappy Xin Li, she was a little shaken, but when she was hesitating, she suddenly got pregnant, which is also the reason why she didn't want it. Now that it has become a fact, Xin Li's wife has accepted it.
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Before the children went to kindergarten, Xin Li's wife had a serious talk with Xin Li. She said that no matter what, she would give her children a stable home. Whether he has the ability or not, she has to find a way to prepare a house for her children. Xin Li has kept silent, as if to say that he can't afford a house.
Since getting married, Xin Li has changed jobs frequently. Xin Li's wife always hoped that he could change his profession and do something practical, but Xin Li insisted. He said that apart from this profession, he knew nothing and didn't know what he could do. He doesn't want to put down his face and do those tired and dirty jobs.
Later, Xin Li was bewitched by others and said that he would invest in an electronic product. He said he wanted to take a chance, but Xin Li's wife disagreed very much. Because of Xin Li's pioneering work, they became stiff. Li Xin didn't listen and went his own way, but he made it very clear that there were risks in this matter.
Xin Li's wife means that before starting a business, you must first ensure the survival of your wife and children. If you don't even have basic living expenses, you have to take such a big risk to start a business. The consequences are terrible, but Li Xin's attitude is very firm, and no one can change him. Li Xin's wife lost the match with him. She failed to persuade Xin Li to go with him.
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However, the reality is cruel. Due to lack of contacts and experience, Xin Li's investment soon failed. Not only did I not earn a penny, but I also owed a debt. At this time, he seems to have regretted it, but he still has a tough attitude and refuses to bow in front of his wife, so Li Xin's wife is deadlocked with him. Until the last two people have nothing to say, Xin Li resolutely filed for divorce.
Tortured by Li Xin for half a year, Li Xin's wife finally agreed. Later, she learned that Xin Li met a rich woman who was willing to support him financially, or a divorced woman.
Li Xin's wife thought that she could accept a man's poverty, but in the end, the man couldn't even accept his own poverty. He would rather give up his original marriage for money. The original "but not as those who used to be poor together know" is reasonable.
Daming keeps a woman outside, and this woman gave birth to a child for him. Daming's wife Xiaohui knows all this. Xiaohui told Daming that she would quit his life if he wanted, but Daming refused to divorce anyway.
Xiaohui knows that if Daming's parents hadn't forced him to find a woman to have children, maybe Daming wouldn't have done such a thing. But Daming and Xiaohui have been married for more than ten years, and they have tried their best not to have children. Seeing that his parents are almost 70 years old, Daming will regret it in his life if he can't report his grandson again.
Daming drank too much that day. He asked Xiaohui what to do. Xiaohui said that if Daming felt indebted to his parents, she would agree to whatever decision he made.
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Daming found a woman at random and soon gave birth to a son, but Daming's joy didn't last long. This woman has been threatening her children to divorce Daming. She wanted a formal birthright, but Daming never wanted to divorce Xiaohui.
In Daming's mind, there is only one child between him and Xiaohui, but their marriage is not threatened. Daming said that she would never divorce Xiaohui.
Because of work, Xiao Rui and her husband seldom meet. Xiao Rui is a receptionist in a company. She works from nine to five every day and has been doing it step by step for years. However, her husband has to travel for a long time because of work, so they can only meet several times a year.
The two have been separated for a long time, but Xiao Rui and her husband never thought about divorce. Xiao Rui knows that her husband is working hard to make their lives better, so she is very considerate of him. Xiao Rui will also keep the house in good order and take care of her husband's parents.
There is a distance between two people, but it does not affect the feelings, and the marriage is very stable.
The foundation of marriage must be the existence of feelings, but material is also an indispensable prerequisite. All the factors that can affect marriage are in front of us. Perhaps money is the most influential factor in marriage. After all, material is the most basic need of people. It is unrealistic to talk about feelings without material things. With a certain material foundation, the maintenance of marriage depends on the feelings between two people. If two people have a strong emotional foundation, it will have no influence on sex and children.