From Yang Yan's point of view, marriage has little chance of winning. The specific reasons are as follows. I hope to remind all women who are eager for a happy marriage:
People who are not short of money are more likely to borrow money, and people who are not short of money are more likely to find true love.
Yang Yan, female, goal-oriented. Looking for a marriage partner seems to be looking for prey. Once she is optimistic, she will seize it. As for whether the means are moral or not, she doesn't have much consideration. For her own benefit, she will do whatever it takes.
However, Yang Yan ignored an attraction rule. Some netizens summed it up in one sentence: people who are not short of money are more likely to borrow money, and those who are not short of money are more likely to find true love. Zhang Yi's behavior clearly conforms to this sentence. When she discovered Zhang Xin's cheating, she still pulled herself together and dressed herself up so that no one could see her failure. Who you are and who you can attract.
Yang Yan herself has a huge gap, and she is eager to find a substitute or remedy to make herself complete. Looking for love with hunger and thirst for love. Either you are hungry and looking for food, just looking for a man who is willing to play with you, or a hunter who is also hunting outside, taking advantage of you in the name of love.
Zhang Xin's mother asked her son, "When you cheated, didn't you think it would be today?"? Zhang Xin felt very lost, and responded: I didn't think about it, and I didn't dare to think about it.
It is not difficult to find that Yang Yan wants a stable and long-term marriage, but Zhang Xin obviously just treats her as a dessert. For Zhang Xin, Yang Yan was just tired and didn't want to go home, so she set up a temporary bed outside her family.
Japanese director Hirokazu Koreeda's film Nobody Know tells a sad story. A mother abandoned several children and let them die in pursuit of personal happiness.
The tragedy of mother Keiko is that she is not clear-headed and always wants to find a rich man to be her long-term meal ticket. The way to keep men is to get pregnant with each other's children. It's a pity that she is unlucky every time, and there is no man to rely on. Instead of relying on men to turn over, she added one burden after another to herself.
Keiko, as a single mother, has four children. If she wants to get married, no stupid man wants to be a girl-picker. Therefore, Keiko concealed the real situation of his family. She is eager to find a man, hoping to save herself. It's too hard to raise four children by one person. She goes out early and comes back late, and often smells of alcohol in the middle of the night.
Will Keiko be happy in the end? I don't know. Maybe lucky enough, a man will accept her as long as she hides her past, including having four children. Perhaps, she continues to be abandoned and hurt.
It is best to win a man's proposal by personal charm.
Qian Zhongshu joked in Fortress Besieged that the highest praise a man can give a woman is to propose to her. From a woman's point of view, Zhang Yi's attitude towards work and marriage is this: I don't insist, I won't do anything I'm not sure about, even if I want to fight for it, I will win your favor with my ability.
As an architect, Zhang Yi grabbed orders from rival companies, relying on the design level. As a wife, in the face of her husband's infidelity, she did not humble herself to save it. She just wants to win beauty and throw away this distressing marriage.
However, Yang Yan is much uglier than Zhang Yi. She saw the prey and just wanted it. As for what Zhang Xin really wants, she doesn't care. Single mothers who hate marriage and are eager to enter a new relationship, the most taboo is to seize a man as a lifeline to fill the hole in their hearts.
Zhang Xin doesn't want a divorce, just wants to be a lover with Yang Yan. Perhaps it satisfies vanity, perhaps it satisfies physical desires, but after all, men are more keen on fame and social status. He didn't put Yang Yan in the design blueprint of his future life at all.
Yang Yan's mistake is that she chose the wrong search range from the beginning. If she really wants a healthy marriage, no matter how good a married man is, don't touch him. Because you can only rob things, not the heart. Since you can take it away, others can take it away by more clever or despicable means. Without core attraction or competitiveness, any relationship is fragile.
Marriage is not robbing the rich to help the poor, but the essence of marriage is a cooperative relationship with considerable strength.
Suppose Yang Yan is not an ordinary single mother, but a woman with a successful career and a net worth of tens of millions. Will Zhang Xin choose to go with her? Maybe there wouldn't be so much helplessness. Reality is so eye-catching. During the ten months that Zhang Xin and Yang Yan were together, there was a transfer record every month. He gave Yang Yan some money only out of a man's guilt and compensation, not true love.
Zhang Xin doesn't want a divorce. Besides not wanting to hurt his daughter, he valued Zhang Yi's ability to absorb gold. As a talented architect, she brought home the bacon by herself, and it was as easy as blowing off dust to change houses. There are not many strong women in this business. What is Yang Yan's talent? She is just an ordinary working-class mother. Under the reminder of her son's coach, she realized that studying in Wang Lu is not a small expense, and she must be struggling, but if she can find a good financial father, her son's money path will be more secure.
Perhaps this is the real intention of Yang Yan's eagerness to find a man: to find a rich father for her son, and the education of her children is what Yang Yan values more. Finding a man to marry is no longer a question of finding a place of affection, but a question of survival. For the sake of his son, Yan Yang tried to separate Zhang Xin from his original family. Perhaps Zhang Xin also vaguely felt that he had fallen into the trap of love and regretted it.
Finding a long-term meal ticket is a naive idea of many women. As the saying goes, eating salted fish is thirsty. Since we have chosen this road, we must consider the price. Is it really happy to marry a rich man? You can't see how many glamorous actresses escape after entering the giants, or fade away in the life of the giants. A woman who has suffered from domestic violence, how to live confidently in a new marriage, may be what Yang Yan should consider most.