Such a difficult situation always appears, and we should never deal with it. After a long time, who is not afraid? It may be much better for everyone to see how to deal with this embarrassing situation.
The first step: see that some of your ideas are correct and not wrong, and accept them frankly. It's normal to share it only with people you trust. Everyone has different feelings about interpersonal distance and affinity. Some people are careless, don't hide things in their hearts, and like to communicate with others; Some people have a strong sense of self-space and are unwilling to mention their own things and ideas to others easily.
Step 2: Explore the relationship between your guilt and fear and your own inner thoughts. Those friends who sent me messages have a good relationship, but I haven't done that yet. Do you have some "should" and "must" ideas? 1. If others give me trust and friendship, I must return it. If others share it with me, I will share it. Even if you don't share it, listen to her and show the same interest, or others will get hurt? When we were young, adults taught us: "When people greet you, you must respond when you speak" and "It is impolite to ignore others". When we grow up, the rigid rules of "should" and "must" will bind us. We always feel that it is impolite and disrespectful to ignore and reject others. This makes us unable to live freely according to our own wishes, and we are in a dilemma. 3. In fact, people who are worthy of communication know how to respect the boundaries and rights of others and respect their likes and dislikes. When we share with others, others don't like it and don't want to hear it. We will respect others' choices and understand that others just don't like this behavior, not people who don't like us, and vice versa.
If it is the latter-casual, casual, true friends.
Making true friends doesn't mean telling others everything, but also expressing your wishes, preferences and so on. You might as well relax. When a friend comes to you, he has already shown his love and recognition for you. You don't need to return anything, just get along naturally, or get along naturally according to your own wishes. If friends stay away from you because of your real reaction, it only means that they are not suitable for being friends. After all, true friends get along with each other in their true colors. The help I can give you is limited. If you feel that these problems have brought great troubles to your interpersonal relationship and real life, you can also talk to the audience on the platform, or seek the help of professional psychological counselors, and maybe you will get more gains. Understand your own personality characteristics and accept them gladly, realize some unreasonable rigid requirements of "should" and change your beliefs. Will your predicament be alleviated?