I was born in a rural family since I was a child. As the only boy in my family, I feel superior at home. At the same time, because of a little cleverness, I get good grades in math, and I can often work out some Olympic math problems. I often get the first place in school, so I am also taken care of by my teachers. I can always say that I am very proud of my study.
Because the village is small and the teaching level is not high, in those days when I had to take exams to get into junior high school, my grades in junior high school were the lowest in my class. So I encouraged myself to take the first place in the exam, and the first place in senior one took the thirteenth place in the class. For this reason, I am very happy. Since then, my grades have been improving in my class, and I have entered the top three in my class when I was a junior high school student. At this time, I also realized that in the new environment, I will not always be the first. But in junior high school, I got full marks in math, and I was secretly proud of my IQ, because people often say that people with good math scores have high IQ. Later, I was admitted to Jiangsu Canal Normal School. At that time, it would be nice to have an iron rice bowl job. If I am allowed to go to school at home, I will go by myself. Although I thought that I would definitely be admitted to the university when I went to high school, I didn't regret it too much. This is not bad.
In fact, what moved me most was my parents. I remember when I was in the third grade of primary school, I just learned to ride a bike, which is a high beam car. I accidentally broke my left arm and watched my mother cry in tears. I said in my heart, I must honor my mother when I grow up. At that time, I always felt that my father was a little strict and didn't care much about himself. Later, I went to junior high school and it rained heavily. In the evening, I go home by bike with my classmates. It was dark and the road was muddy. The car was blocked with mud. My classmate said to go home and tell my family to pick me up. At that time, I was very scared and wronged, and I felt that I was the most pitiful person. My father didn't come to pick me up when he saw the rain. Who knows that my classmates just left, and my father braved the rain to pick me up. He said nothing, picked up his bike and left. At that time, I knew from my heart that my father loved me very much, but his love was expressed by actions. Later, although I sometimes made my parents angry, I soon regretted it. I feel sorry for my parents from the bottom of my heart and secretly tell myself that I must honor my parents. Since then, I have always kept filial piety in my heart.
In the workplace, face the society independently. At first, I always had the true spirit of a student. I always sought the truth from what I did and tried to stand out among my colleagues. This ten-year teaching career has passed like running water. I came from an ignorant teenager with the joy of being a teacher for the first time. In order to teach my disciples better, I set myself one goal after another and keep my feet on the ground.
From the first year of teaching, I knew that I lacked knowledge, so I took upgrading my academic qualifications as the first topic in my educational career. I took an examination of a junior college and an undergraduate, and soon graduated from Xu Normal University. My heart is full of heavy joy, and I am more practical in front of students. While paying attention to the quality of teaching, tutoring students' grades is once again put on the agenda. In the two years of 20 1X and 20 1X, the students I tutored have published more than ten exercises, and more exercises have won awards at all levels. The enlightened self rushed to the third goal and wrote his own article. Many things happen. So far, more than a dozen articles have been published, and more articles have won prizes. It is my duty to participate in this project. With the care and support of the leaders, the provincial and municipal projects I am responsible for are first identified and recognized by my peers. What will be the next target? Just when I was at a loss, a new fulcrum of life came quietly-running a website, which is a new and stressful term. It doesn't matter if you drive ducks to the shelves. How many times can you fight in life? Go! After many twists and turns, I sought advice from many parties and finally took shape. Although I started my website from scratch and many leading colleagues praised me, I was deeply afraid. I know how much water I have in my bowl.
In addition to constantly knowing myself at work, I always take the outstanding talents around me as my role models to see how they behave and learn from them and others. In the process of continuous learning, I realize that it is essential to be friendly, honest, respectful of my predecessors and obedient to my leaders. I will try my best to make myself mature from these aspects. However, in the next few years, while I am willing to help others, I also found a problem, that is, you are kind enough to help others, but they are ungrateful and even take it for granted. When you are in trouble, some people pretend to be invisible and never lend a helping hand. This makes me sad, and I am also thinking about where I am wrong. In the future work and life, it is not that I help others, but that I am not helping others, but whether this person asks me to help him, whether he is worthy of help, and whether he is a caring person. I told myself that I would never be a "good person" again. What's the use of helping those who are human and worthy of help, and helping those "baiwenhang"?
I seldom analyze myself, because I am myself, and there is no need to understand it so clearly. Someone once said that people live to live. Although I don't agree, everyone's purpose and meaning in life are different, so their pursuit is different. We don't need to say that XXX's ideal is great, so he is also a great person. I think, as long as he lives happily, and his happiness is not established by depriving others of happiness, then he will come to this world without regrets, at least worthy of himself.
The journey of life can only be truly understood if you have experienced it. Maybe others can't understand it, but it's good to understand it yourself. The journey of life is like a book. I read while walking, slowly savoring the joys and sorrows inside.
I am 4 1 year-old and come from a factory. He worked as a belt worker, a furnace worker and a maintenance worker. After doing business, setting up factories, investing and stock trading. At the age of 30, his legs were amputated at a high position due to an explosion accident, and his right hand was disabled; Last year, together with Mao and Su Jianfei, Loudi Disabled People's Association was established, and since last year's "5. 12", it has been engaged in psychological assistance in Sichuan. It has been my good wish for many years to become a qualified psychological counselor. The formation of this wish is deeply influenced by my life experience, family background and working environment.
First, self-growth analysis
(a) childhood experience-my parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on me.
When I was a child, I grew up in the countryside. My father is a steel worker and my mother is a farmer in my hometown. At that time, my father's salary was not high, not only to support our family of seven, but also to provide for our five sisters to go to school. The family is very poor, and my father seldom goes home once a year. All the burdens of life and the responsibility of educating children fall on my mother's shoulders. Faced with the double pressures of heavy work and life, my mother has always maintained an optimistic attitude, influenced our five brothers and sisters with her high sense of responsibility and fortitude, diligence, tolerance and openness, and put forward very strict requirements for us: consistent words and deeds, excellent study. The influence of such family education and family environment has cultivated my optimistic and resolute quality and the pursuit of perfection. My honest and conscientious attitude towards life inherited from my parents still affects me today. Childhood experience is a great wealth of my life, which has laid my outlook on life, world outlook, values and bitter optimism. Generally speaking, I spent my childhood in poverty but happiness.
(2) The experience of teenagers-happy study and the hardships of making money, enriched my adolescence.
"The children of poor families have long been in charge." As far as I can remember, when I was young, I spent a large part of my wonderful time on the back of cattle, chopping wood and picking dung, transplanting rice seedlings and weeding, pulling barnyard grass and cutting rice, scraping turf and burning dung, and so on. I can do all kinds of farm work. Because our family is poor, we seldom wear new clothes. One wears small clothes, the other wears them, and the torn ones are patched up. All these have cultivated my character of diligence, thrift and hard work. My brothers and sisters helped my mother with all kinds of farm work since childhood, and tried their best to earn money to help the family solve practical difficulties. In hot summer, we sell popsicles, fish and shrimp in the river, collect Chinese herbal medicines in the mountains and even dig coal. We have driven a coal mine ourselves, hoping to earn more money for our family. My dream was to be an entrepreneur. During this time, I made money while studying, and I didn't delay my study while making money. My grades have always been excellent and I get along well with my teachers and classmates. This kind of life experience has made me realize the joy of learning and the sense of accomplishment of making money, and also enhanced my self-esteem and self-confidence (I always felt inferior when I was a child, and I still peed in my teens). Today, this self-confidence has always inspired me to face the challenges of life with an optimistic attitude towards life.
(3) The Valley of Life-the death of his father and his disability.
In 1986, I was eighteen; My father died unexpectedly, and I was completely unprepared. At that time, I felt that the sky was falling. I pretend to be strong on the surface, but in fact I feel extremely painful inside. I haven't said a word for several days, and I feel abandoned by my father (this idea has followed me for many years). From then on, I became the biggest man in my family. My eldest brother's mission as a father has made me grow up a lot at once, and I have to shoulder the burden of my family. After more than ten years of hard work, family, love and career have all improved to a certain extent. However, fate sometimes plays tricks on people, saying that I am thirty. However, in the heyday of my life, I fell to the bottom again because of an unexpected explosion. In this accident, my legs were amputated, my right hand was disabled, my right ear eardrum was perforated, and I was injured in many places all over my body. Two of my colleagues were blown to pieces right in front of me. That time was the darkest period in my life. I tried to end my life several times. It was love that kept me, especially the pain caused by my father's departure. I have to live for my daughter and my family. It was also during this period that I read many books on medicine, philosophy, history, aesthetics, art, economy and psychology, and thought about some philosophical issues such as "Who am I". "What do I want?" Or "What do I want to do?" Wait a minute. I also keep pace with the times through the internet and pay attention to the latest news. And started a new business, opened a children's clothing store, run an environmental protection brick factory, welfare factory, prosthetic company. I also learned to trade stocks online and have been investing in coal mines for several years. Since 2000, I have been committed to providing spiritual comfort, self-care and employment and entrepreneurship guidance for the disabled; And actively participate in and organize various charitable activities. My motto: "Live a good life and do meaningful things".
(d) Experience psychological assistance after the 5. 12 earthquake.
After the May12 earthquake last year, Mao, Su Jianfei and I set up the first psychological assistance team for the disabled in China on May 25th, with the help of Lao Ren and doctors, and carried out psychological assistance work in Sichuan disaster area for more than one year. On June 7th, he led 20 disabled volunteers from Loudi to Sichuan. For the first time, 48 days of psychological assistance was provided in West China Hospital of Sichuan Province, People's Hospital of Sichuan Province and Prosthetic Rehabilitation Center of Sichuan Province, with a total of 392 earthquake-disabled compatriots 1500 person-times. Our exhibition received unexpected good results and was welcomed by doctors of patients' families. And constantly improve our system of "spiritual comfort, self-care, education and training, employment and entrepreneurship guidance" in the process of helping. On June 55438+ 10, 2008, the exchange was held in Mianyang, Sichuan, and the response was enthusiastic. Subsequently, we went to Lixian County, the hardest hit area aided by Hunan counterparts, for a 12 day investigation and study, and put forward the project proposal of "Rebuilding Spiritual Home and Building Harmonious Lixian County", which was adopted by Hunan counterpart aid construction team and Lixian people. The psychological assistance of disabled volunteers has been incorporated into the work system of * * *, and the first spiritual reconstruction project "Xiangchuan Social Work Service Team" led by * * * was born in the whole disaster area.
I think my five best qualities are: sincerity, kindness, tolerance, positivity and strength. However, the sense of humor, flexibility, adaptability and social skills all need to be improved and enhanced.
My basic outlook on life is: honesty, integrity, justice and inner selflessness.
When I look at others, I usually appreciate their advantages and accept their shortcomings. In my relationship with others, I usually respect others and can communicate with each other well under normal circumstances.
I don't believe in religion, but I like to read the explanations of philosophy of life in religion. I advocate China's Buddhist philosophy, and everything is empty. I think everything should be taken lightly. Fame and fortune are things outside of me. In fact, if a person wants to be truly happy, it is not to gain more wealth, but to reduce his desire.
I feel that I belong to a mixed personality, with both introverted and extroverted personality characteristics, quick thinking, strong adaptability, and can accurately express my feelings in language. My friends' comments on me are: smart, generous, warm-hearted, rigorous and rational, and mentally healthy. My heroes are those who succeed in adversity, such as Zhang Haidi, who is physically disabled but determined, and Hawking, a physicist who dares to challenge his fate. I admire them not because of their achievements, but because of their indomitable spirit in the face of tragic fate, which has always inspired me to become a strong person in life.
Generally speaking, others' criticism of me is mainly that I am straightforward and inappropriate. If you describe yourself in three words, that is: self-confidence, health and persistence.
Second, the analysis of professional behavior
(1) Being a psychological counselor is my life ideal and professional requirement.
Through the analysis of my life course, I personally feel that a healthy psychology is the premise of success in life. The career of psychological counselor is a lofty career that can make me mentally mature, mentally healthy and perfect my personality. It is my inner desire to become a qualified and noble psychological counselor.
Especially since I have been engaged in psychological assistance for the disabled, I have personally felt how a person's psychological problems cruelly destroy their lives, kill their will and reduce their ability to feel the joy of life. I hope everyone around me can feel the beauty of life from the heart and have the ability to create the life they want and become a complete person, which further germinates my strong desire to be a psychological counselor, so I choose to study psychological counseling and help others from the psychological level.
(2) Advantages and disadvantages of becoming a psychological counselor.
Career advantages:
I have a relatively perfect personality, strong insight into the world and observation of people's hearts, optimistic attitude towards life, sincere emotional ability, enthusiastic value orientation of helping others, high learning enthusiasm and ability, certain experience in psychological education and teaching and research, and more importantly, great love in my heart. These enable me to establish a good counseling relationship with the clients and make myself an excellent psychological counselor.
Occupational weakness:
With the in-depth development of psychological assistance in Sichuan, I realized my own shortcomings, and there are still some defects in theoretical knowledge and professional technology of psychological counseling; For some help-seekers, it is easy to appear anti-empathy, such as consciously satisfying the appreciation, recognition and emotional expression of the help-seekers, which is not conducive to the in-depth development of the consulting relationship.
(3) the direction of efforts
My career goals are: firstly, to become a qualified psychological counselor; secondly, to integrate the counseling skills of various theoretical schools and explore a more localized counseling method in my own counseling practice. I hope my existence is a kind of treatment! In the future psychological counseling practice, I will work hard in the following aspects:
First of all, we should improve the professional quality of psychological counseling. Constantly enrich theoretical knowledge, improve consulting skills, be strict with yourself with a professional and rational attitude, so that you can always maintain a neutral attitude in your work, accept help-seekers unconditionally, and treat setbacks in the consulting process reasonably. When problems arise and need help, you can actively seek the supervision of higher-level psychological counselors and the support of colleagues, and treat the helpers with a positive and rigorous attitude.
Secondly, we should adjust our mentality. As a psychological counselor, most of the information I receive every day is negative. At the same time, the counselor himself is an ordinary person, with his own emotions, and there will be contradictions and conflicts in his life. When such a thing happens, I will adjust myself with the knowledge I have learned in psychological counseling and take certain measures to release myself. You can't bring your own psychological contradictions and conflicts to work, which will affect psychological counseling.
Because of my professional characteristics and personal ability, I am good at emotional communication, psychological crisis intervention, life problem consultation, physical and mental illness consultation, especially psychological consultation for the disabled. In my future career, I want to explore deeply in this field and make myself unique in this field, so as to contribute to society and add color to my life.
Psychological counseling is not only a science, but also an art. If you want to do a good job in counseling, especially if you want to master the skills of psychological counseling, work creatively and help visitors solve problems effectively, there is no shortcut. You can only learn and understand in practice, and gradually improve and improve. Therefore, it is my future life direction to study and practice hard and be a qualified psychological counselor with sense of responsibility and self-confidence.