In the evening, I went to the YMCA to attend fellowship worship. My daughter asked me to bring back hamburger candy. The first thing to do when you go downstairs is to buy it and put it in your bag. I came home humming with the wind, and my daughter was so happy to see me take out the hamburger candy.
It's time for bed. After watching the last cartoon, I asked my daughter to turn off the TV. While I was washing, she played a clever trick and watched another episode. After I found out, she still wouldn't turn off the TV.
"Mom promised to buy you hamburger candy. Did you do it?" I said.
"Yes," she whispered.
"Then what's your mood?"
"Very happy"
"This kind of behavior is called keeping promises, so keeping promises will be very pleasant."
The daughter's face lit up.
"How would you feel if your mother promised to buy it for you, but returned empty-handed?" I asked.
"I'm sorry," she muttered.
"Yes, breaking a promise is always frustrating. You promised your mother, but you didn't. My mother is a little unhappy and a little disappointed. "
I coaxed her into turning off the TV.
In our life, many people don't do what they say. In particular, adults like to play tricks on children, saying that it is for children and to meet the needs of adults. I don't know that I have invisibly set up a sense of deception for my children, and the children will follow suit and lose trust in them.
A few days ago, my daughter's grandmother promised to have a good meal in order to let her eat more, and brought a puppy to play with her. As a result, it's time not to do it. The daughter reminded her grandmother many times that she was unmoved. Thinking of this, I used this to guide my daughter, "Do you think grandma's behavior is right?" "No, I don't trust grandma anymore." She answered angrily. "Not everyone will be like a mother. If you say it, your mother will forget it, but if you remind her, she will remember it. So what matters is what kind of person you want to be. Like grandpa? My daughter shook her head and looked at me doubtfully, pointing to the TV that had been turned off.
Many times, a seemingly small promise will also set off ripples in the child's heart, or expectation or disappointment, which will subtly affect her future behavior.
Mencius' mother has always been very educated and moved three times for Mencius' learning environment. One day, little Mencius was having fun with his friends. When he saw his neighbor killing pigs, he asked his mother curiously, and her mother said that killing pigs was to give him meat to eat. Little Mencius said happily, there is meat to eat! There is meat to eat!
Meng Mu felt guilty after saying this, thinking: When I was pregnant, the mat was not put right, so I wouldn't sit; I don't eat uncut meat because I hope my child can be an upright person. If I cheat him now, am I not teaching him not to keep his word?
Therefore, Meng Mu, who has always been thrifty, did not hesitate to go to his neighbor's house to buy meat for Mencius.
Ryder said: Honesty is the lifeblood of life and the foundation of all values. If you want to teach honesty, you must be sincere. Mencius' knowledge benefited from his mother's teaching.
Since ancient times, how many people have become trustworthy and have not broken their promises? Faith and heart are interlinked. As the saying goes, you should protect your heart above all else, because the fruit of life comes from your heart. Whether it is "keeping" or "losing", it is from the heart, and the heart determines the action, and the action determines the quality.
"Life cannot blossom brilliantly from lies." Take borrowing money as an example. Almost everyone has experienced it. There are always a few people around us who break their promises. It will be fine in three months after the appointment. If it is delayed for another three years, what's more, it will never come back. The quality of this kind of person is obvious. Will he have real friends? Should he be given a chance to turn over a new leaf or be blacklisted directly?
See what smart people do. Say three days. No matter how difficult it is, it should be returned to the other party at the appointed time. It's not difficult to borrow it again. Increased credibility, won each other's goodwill, things will be easier to contact, and there will only be more and more friends. "Sincerity touches people, and people should respond with sincerity." After all, we all like to work with honest and trustworthy people.
Making other people's secrets public is also an act of dishonesty. People trusted you and told you the secret, but you didn't keep your mouth shut, which brought an embarrassing situation, lost a friend and lost credibility. Credit is like a mirror, as long as there are cracks, it is impossible to restore its original appearance.
There is also a kind of person with a sweet mouth and a sword. Sweet words are beautiful, but in fact they are all bad. It is not easy for such a person to dike. If they don't care, they will fall into a preset trap. As Tagore said: False sincerity is more terrible than the devil.
No matter what the environment and people around you are, always keep mindfulness, leave a pure land for your heart, keep your word and be honest with others. Be positive and become the little sun of people around you!