"Before I went to work, I always told myself that' silence is golden', but my nature is so rough. When I see those rough things, I will be excited, worthless for others, and even rush to stand up for others, even if I offend others ... I am far from so happy after work." Xiao Min, a newcomer who has worked for two months, wrote in her QQ diary.
According to the data of Taylor Career Research Center, a management consulting company, more than 70% of the newcomers in the workplace feel unhappy after work, and one of the main problems is that they have not handled interpersonal relationships well.
Taylor's team of professional experts summed up five typical misunderstandings in dealing with interpersonal relationships after newcomers joined the company. Their performance is somewhat similar to that of five kinds of flowers in nature.
1. Afraid of the boss's mimosa
The flower language of mimosa: shyness
Scene replay: Xiao Fang, who doesn't like to talk, has finally been admitted to the civil service after graduation, and has no heavy expectations. She thought she should be comfortable with paperwork, but only two months later, she said she was afraid to go to work. She said she was afraid to meet some leaders. Although the leader is both dedicated and talented, she doesn't know why she lacks self-confidence at the sight of him and hides when she can communicate. Once, because I didn't understand the meaning of the leader clearly, the work assigned to her was delayed. Afterwards, the leader asked her why she didn't come and ask again. She whispered, I'm afraid you are too busy to waste time. As a result, the leader was very angry and scolded her. Over time, Xiao Fang blushed with nervousness when she saw the leader, and she couldn't speak neatly. "I don't know why, every time I see a leader, I panic, just like a mouse sees a cat. I am too nervous to speak. " Xiaofang said.
Taylor's career review:
Communicating with your boss is an important duty in your work. You need to know the boss's intention, get support, grasp your future work direction, make unified planning and achieve good work results. Only by handling the relationship with the boss can we work normally. Communicating with the boss is a skill that newcomers in the workplace need to constantly learn and improve. Newcomers should adopt communication frequency, language style, attitude and emotion that the boss can easily accept, so that their views are clear, well-founded and easy to understand. For Xiao Fang, we might as well try to look at the leadership with the mentality of * * * Qi Xin working together to finish the work. At the same time, we should realize that communication with the boss is the most important part of our work, so as to gradually eliminate the fear of the boss.
2. prickly cactus
The flower language of cactus: hard and prickly appearance
Scene replay: Xiao Chun is high flyers, majoring in journalism in a famous university. After graduation, she became a reporter for a national publication. She is proud of her school, but she is not satisfied at work. In addition to her, there are other experienced young people in the media to report together. Everyone thinks that they have strong ability, different working methods and ideas, and it is difficult to integrate. Once, the editor-in-chief sent another colleague * * * to cooperate on a hot topic, but she felt that the value of this topic was not as good as the other one she reported, so she secretly started to do her own topic while perfunctory colleagues. As a result, colleagues could not hand in the manuscript on time, and her own manuscript was photographed by the editor. Xiao Chun even ran away.
I talked to the editor-in-chief and asked for two days' sick leave afterwards. Colleagues all think her ability is good, but she is always domineering. Now that she has offended the leader, people won't buy her account.
"I have my own ideas, and I don't like being directed every day. Is it wrong for me to make the manuscript more readable? Why can't the editor-in-chief listen to my advice more? Colleagues don't understand me, I am so depressed! " Xiao Chun complained.
Taylor's career review:
Stabbed employees often have a skill, superior ability and high energy, and don't like others or even bosses to tell them what to do. However, as a newcomer in the workplace, you should learn to moderately control your "thorns" at the beginning of your employment. Too sharp is not a good thing. Remember, only being a "useful person" in the workplace can win the favor of the boss. Even if the boss's judgment is not necessarily correct, it is necessary to change the work goal under the premise of effective communication and recognition, otherwise it will not only drag down colleagues to complete the task, but also harm the boss to stop trusting himself.
Step 3: Swing grass with two heads
Flower language of swing: no principle
Scene replay: Ayu is very gentle, and people in the office get along best in peace. After coming to the company for half a year, she never sticks to her own opinions and does not easily refute others' opinions. In the eyes of colleagues, she is a nice person, but because she is too easy to talk, her words have never attracted enough attention from others. Sometimes, knowing that the work is not finished, I have to help my colleagues copy materials and work overtime. On duty on weekends, other colleagues will always be too busy to get away from such things. Only Ayu will always be the person on duty for others. After half a year, Ayu only took three weekends off.
"I don't want to offend my colleagues. I help if I can, but over time, they think I should do it. Last week, I was unable to work. I didn't expect Jason, who was supposed to be on duty, to have a big opinion of me, saying that I helped others but not her. I am really wronged. " She said.
Taylor's career review:
Being a good person in the office doesn't necessarily mean that everyone likes you; In fact, in the highly competitive workplace, you can only become a real strong person if your working ability is recognized by everyone. Remind yourself what you really want. When you know what the right choice is, but you can't do it because you don't want to offend others, compromise hurts yourself first. In fact, people who know how to refuse often have good communication and coordination skills, so that the rejected people will not become their own enemies. When you are always in a dominant position, you might as well spend some time communicating and coordinating with those who always dominate you and give priority to your work, so as to optimize your behavior pattern.
4.narcissistic daffodils
Narcissus language: narcissism
Scene replay: Juck Zhang's company is very big, and he works hard, hoping to be recognized and promoted as soon as possible. But after more than a year, Juck Zhang has never been promoted. As for the reasons for not being promoted, Zhang Lihong thinks that his boss likes to take all the credit, while his colleagues are jealous of talents. For example, at every company planning meeting, Juck Zhang thinks his proposal is the most perfect, but colleagues often disagree. Not being promoted made Juck Zhang feel "wasted". Finally, he decided to leave the company, and the boss didn't specifically keep him. However, Juck Zhang felt that his boss would definitely regret his departure, because many things could not be done without him.
Taylor's career review:
Some people work hard every day and think they are doing well. At the same time, they are not satisfied every day: why can't their boss see the pearl and find himself? In fact, many people think that leaders with "good performance" may not admit it. Everything starts from the actual work and respects practical experience. Admit your own shortcomings, dare to reflect on your mistakes, be flexible and not stubborn. For newcomers, they have stronger abilities, a more peaceful mentality, lower expectations, and may get more opportunities with a learning attitude.
Step 5 flatter the dog's tail flower
The flower language of dog tail flower: blind obedience
Scene replay: Wang Li is a college student who graduated last year. Not long after working as a secretary in a trading company, interpersonal problems appeared. Wang Li is outgoing and smart. Before long, she became the boss's sidekick. When eating, help the boss bring tea and water; The boss's adult education thesis, which she wrote in the early morning; On weekends, I even help my boss pick up the children. Some colleagues in the company couldn't stand it and said behind her back that she was an out-and-out flatterer: "Just a servant of the leader." Over time, colleagues ignored her, but they didn't want to help Wang Li.
Taylor's career review:
Just observe workplace etiquette, and don't have to cater to your boss everywhere. Usually, the boss is concerned about whether the newcomers are willing to study and whether they can meet the recruitment expectations. If you can quickly integrate into the workplace and create business value for the company, newcomers can get the boss's approval without flattering them. Otherwise, it is easy to cause tension among colleagues and limit yourself to encouragement, which is not conducive to long-term development.
Newcomers in the workplace will always encounter some discomfort, which is why every newcomer needs to go through an "adaptation period" when entering the workplace. Only by adjusting yourself quickly in the environment, fully running in with the workplace, and improving your comprehensive ability as soon as possible according to your career orientation and goals can you quickly change from a student to a workplace person. Taylor's team of professional experts reminds newcomers in the workplace not to neglect the handling and balance of interpersonal relationships while working hard, and never be a nasty cactus and dog tail flower in the office.
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