Men's psychology of not leaving home after divorce is a great blow to a family. Many couples divorce for various reasons. In real life, there are still many men who don't go out after divorce. Let's take a look at the related contents of men's psychology of not leaving home after divorce.
Men's psychology of not leaving home after divorce 1 1, generally speaking, it is very important for children to have a complete home. Some couples will not let their children know that they are divorced. On the surface, they will pretend to be together. Generally speaking, they are economically independent and do not interfere in each other's lives. They also have to play a loving couple in front of their children. This is a divorced couple who never leave home. But, I think, one day children will know and grow up. Why are you doing this? Maybe earlier.
2, men in order to save face, many couples in China, divorce is not just a matter of two people, for both parents, relatives and friends, friends' views and some people's comments, will bring great pressure, and divorce is to give an account to all those who care about themselves, divorce will be easier to hide, but separation is impossible to hide, for such a man, it is also very bad to choose this life in order to save face.
For the benefit, some women will be full-time wives at home after marriage. Every day for the sake of family life, they have long forgotten how to live independently. If you divorce immediately, a woman can't live without financial resources and the support of a man. For men, divorce suddenly leaves no one to take care of their lives, children, etc. , is also a problem, so they will choose to divorce and not leave home. This is exactly what they need.
4. Maybe there is love. Divorce does not mean that two people really have no feelings. It must be because of something, now or when one party touches the bottom line of the other party, it will choose to divorce. Some men will pay more attention to this marriage and will plan to divorce and not leave home. If possible, find a suitable opportunity to remarry.
Harm of cohabitation after divorce
1, affecting the next relationship
If divorced couples no longer intend to find another half or remarry, but just want to live in this familiar environment all the time, it will be a disaster for women. Men are flowers at 40, and women are yellow flowers after 40. Now that you are divorced, you should settle down, find your own life, bid farewell to the past, and meet a bright future.
Step 2 take revenge
People are vindictive and jealous, especially women. They always feel that men betray themselves. If they want to destroy this man by themselves, they will take some extreme measures to make men hate women. People's feelings don't know when to start and when to end. Cherish it when it is good, and turn around when it is over!
Men's psychology of not leaving home after divorce 2 1, the red flag at home does not fall, and the colorful flags are fluttering outside.
Many people think that men are dogs and loyal. In fact, the nature of a man is a cat, and derailment is the normal state. Men want someone at home to take care of the housework for them and be their strong backing. They also want a woman who worships herself and loves coquetry.
2. Do you want to go backwards
Men are very good at thinking from the perspective of interests. Naturally, they won't leave home for their future. Although the family has broken up, at least they have been in business for so many years. Like their relatives, they have a certain emotional foundation. When their children grow up, they can send themselves to old age in this family. After all, what is outside is outside, not facing yourself, but a disaster that flies separately. There is also a wife who has an economic income and can continue to be a mother.
Step 3 own
Men are also very possessive. Although they have divorced their wife, they are nothing at the thought that her will be with another man.
The reason why men don't leave home after divorce
1, have both.
Everyone is selfish and greedy, and everyone is the dark side of selfishness. This means that most men are greedy, both the wife at home and the women outside want it, and fish and bear's paw don't want to give up anything. Have both, this is the truest idea in a man's heart. If a man is willing to marry a woman, he must be sincere at that time. But in love, men and women are different. Once most women fall in love with someone, they will be dead set. Men's inner desire to conquer and bad habits make them unwilling to be loyal to a relationship and like excitement. But in fact, a love turns into affection, after all, it is a lover who has been together for many years, and the role of wife also has a certain position in men's hearts. Maybe there is no love, maybe it will be boring, but there will still be affection and yearning. Plus, if there is a child between two people, it is even more impossible to let go. But men love novelty, and not everyone can live in vain. The women outside are not only young and beautiful, but also dress themselves up. The wife at home is not as beautiful as before, and it is hard for men not to be tempted by the temptation of the world of flowers. Although the era of three wives and four concubines has passed, and the law only allows monogamy, the feudal thought handed down by this ancestor has not been completely eliminated. In men's hearts, they are still eager to conquer women, which is the embodiment of charm. Therefore, for a man, divorce means that he is single again, and he can continue to enjoy the party and pursue the life of a beautiful young woman. Divorce without leaving home will allow him to continue to enjoy his wife's life at home.
2 find a way out.
One of the realistic reasons why men choose to divorce and not leave home is to leave a back road for themselves. Even if married life is no longer happy, the original home is no matter how good, but it is also my home for many years. China people are a traditional people, and they attach great importance to their families and children. Men pay attention to carrying on the family line and hope that someone will provide for the elderly in the future, so if they have children, men will not give up their families easily. No matter how fresh and charming the woman outside is, it is a temporary pleasure and must be accompanied to the end. Many men choose women outside, driven by passion, and the two sides will not form a new family. These divorced men who don't leave home are actually preparing a back road for themselves who have been tempted for a period of time, and keeping in touch with family of origin. If they regret it one day, there is still a way.
Step 3 own
Many men are macho and possessive at heart. Even if they don't like what they like, they don't allow others to touch it, let alone women. In a man's mind, once a woman marks herself, it is his property. He can find other women, but she is not allowed to find other men. Although a man's marriage with his wife has broken down, he still hopes that his wife is still waiting for him and is the father of the child. If divorce and leaving home are equivalent to making room for others, then the wife will have the opportunity to find a new man to start a new life, and the children will have a new father. This is a naked blow to the man, a mental injury and a challenge to the man's dignity, so he will not allow or give others a chance.
The psychology of men not leaving home after divorce 3. A man doesn't leave home after divorce: he doesn't love you and uses you.
Men who don't leave home after divorce are like hooligans falling in love, without initiative, commitment and responsibility.
He just doesn't love you and wants to use you. He won't fall in love with you after using you. Even if he did go home in the end, he just hitchhiked outside. Nobody really wanted him, that's all.
Pan Xiao, a consultant, flew into a rage when she found out that her husband had betrayed her family.
She has done too much for her family and her husband, and this ending is hard to end. Under my strong opposition, she still insisted on divorce.
The house that has not paid off the loan belongs to Pan Xiao, and the 9-year-old son follows Pan Xiao. Pan Xiao's husband didn't ask to share half of the house with Pan Xiao, but he left the car and didn't give child support.
After the divorce, Pan Xiao sent her 78-year-old mother-in-law away in tears.
Since getting married, her mother-in-law in poor health has been taking care of Pan Xiao, and Pan Xiao has no complaints about it.
Because of this, Pan Xiao felt that he had made a great contribution to this family, so he was a little strong at home, and her husband had to submit to humiliation because his mother was in someone else's hands, until he met a gentle and young third party.
After the divorce, Pan Xiao's mother-in-law got sick again and again. Every time she is ill, her ex-husband will come to Pan Xiao for help.
Pan Xiao felt important, and he found the feeling of being in control. In addition, his former mother-in-law advised him to make peace. Pan Xiao's mind was a little drifting, and her ex-husband took the opportunity to pay attention and swear. After her mother-in-law recovered, Pan Xiao took her mother-in-law home, and her ex-husband naturally moved back.
But, but ...
Pan Xiao's ex-husband didn't break up with another woman, nor did he remarry Pan Xiao.
Mother-in-law advised Pan Xiao not to worry. Everyone is back, what are you afraid of?
Pan thinks so, too. Life goes on as usual.
After the divorce, Pan Xiao still plays the role of wife and daughter-in-law.
She did exactly the same thing before and after marriage.
As virtuous, as diligent, as diligent.
Her behavior seems to imply to her ex-husband: you can hurt me as much as you like, it doesn't matter, I will be good to you as before.
But life in Pan Xiao is different. Although she is still the man, her husband has become her ex-husband and her marriage has become cohabitation.
The next year, my mother-in-law got sick and left.
Pan Xiao held funerals for the elderly, did his duty, and donated money and materials.
Unexpectedly, as soon as the funeral was over, her ex-husband moved away, saying that she couldn't stand Pan Xiao's temper and decided to separate.
Pan Xiao was angry with her ex-husband's company and went to a third party for a theory, but she was humiliated by her ex-husband and the third party.
My ex-husband said I had divorced you a long time ago, but you insisted on me, and I didn't move out because I was afraid you would commit suicide.
The third party said: Are you still relying on me if you are stupid? I tell you, I don't want such a bad man either. Don't come to me for someone. Only you regard him as a treasure.
Pan Xiao came to me later. After more than half a year of psychological counseling, she gradually got out of the shadows. Some time ago, she heard that her ex-husband remarried and married a beautiful young nurse, and almost collapsed again.
In fact, it is not difficult to get out of the pain of divorce and betrayal. The worst thing about falling into the abyss is being used, being treated as a fool and not being loved.
Just like when Ni Ping and Chen Kaige were together for eight years, Ni Ping died and became a daughter-in-law for Chen Kaige's father, but Chen Kaige married Chen Hong, who was 16 years younger than him.
Also being used, not being loved.
After that love, Ni Ping was deeply hurt, and the whole person's appearance began to change.
When I saw her today, I always felt that if she met a man who loved and cherished her, it would definitely not be like this.
It is undeniable that a woman who resolutely chooses to divorce after being betrayed is brave. But have you ever reflected that they are also impulsive and reckless?
Do you really want to give up stability? Have you decided to stop loving this man?
If you don't think it over, even if you divorce and the man comes to make peace, they will easily relent and agree.
They want to make it back and make men change their minds, but if this is a marriage, then everything is natural, but after the divorce, they still have this idea, which is to bring shame to themselves.
After the buffer period, the man next to you is likely to be as reckless as Pan's ex-husband and refuse to leave. ...
Divorced, it's going to be clean.
Even if it is possible to get back together, please re-enter the state of love instead of cohabitation; Wait until the relationship is stable, instead of staying at home after divorce.
Not being used, not being loved.