My mother graduated from TOP 10, and my son didn't even get into two. There is an aunt named Sun in my hometown, who has the highest education in the surrounding areas for decades. The university graduated from a top 10 college in China. Until today, there are still many adults who will educate their children to look like Aunt Sun and get into a good university in the future. Ironically, Aunt Sun's only son didn't even get into two books last year, which was far worse than her at that time.
If the IQ is low, that's all, but in the eyes of familiar people, the child is not stupid at all, but also very smart and full of tricks. But I just don't study hard, I am naughty at school and often miss classes. It is strange that my grades can be good. People who are not familiar with this family think that their parents didn't teach them well, while those who really know their family lament that their children were all destroyed by their fathers.
It turns out that Aunt Sun's husband is a person who has no sense of family responsibility. Although he earns a lot of money, he doesn't go home all day, and his son doesn't see his father several times a year. Aunt Sun's own work is also very busy, but she still takes time out of her busy schedule to take care of her children, but her personal energy is really limited, so the children still live with their grandparents since childhood. The two old people are rural people, and they can't read. The consequences of children following them can be imagined. Only two books were tested this time, and someone said, "It's a good thing that mom still takes care of the children. If not, I'm afraid I can't even get two books. "
Although it can't be said that the father has done his duty, the child will be admitted to any good school, but at least it is far better than being educated by grandparents with low educational level. You know, today's times are changing with each passing day, and the knowledge and ideas of the older generation have long been left behind by society. Therefore, it is better for children or parents to educate themselves. It is a pity, however, that mothers can also fulfill their responsibilities as mothers at ordinary times. Many dads really just care about life without raising them.
No matter how good a mother is, it's useless. With these three fathers who do nothing, most of the children are ruined. "Father loves mountain" type
Some fathers talk about how much they love their children, but once the children need his company, they stand there like a mountain. It's really called "Father loves mountains". Such a father may not be as good as some relatives. He just hung his father's name for nothing, and even said, "something is better than nothing." If you are hit by a child, you can only go to seek fortune for oneself. Even if the mother is excellent, the child is likely to be destroyed.
2.？ Types of daily complaints
It's not easy to earn money now. My father shoulders the main responsibility of earning money to support his family, which sometimes makes them miserable. No matter how bitter it is, negative energy should not be released at home. But some fathers just say to their wives and children all day: "Qian Qian knows money!" It seems that all his sins are because of them. As we all know, mothers are also working hard for their families, but it is difficult for them to have direct economic returns, so they are often ignored. A father who only complains at home can hardly teach his children well.
3.？ Male chauvinism type
There is also a kind of father who will also be unfavorable to the growth of children, that is, special "male chauvinism." Now it is a society where men and women are equal. If you still uphold the old male chauvinism, it will only make children more and more divorced from the social trend and will be affected in the future.
Parenting is the responsibility of both parents, but these three types of fathers are not good at everything. Once the misfortune is spread, they can only pray that their children are lucky enough, but the reality is likely to turn into a bad result.
In order to educate children, fathers should take actions to become role models for their sons and benchmarks for their daughters to find partners.
What should a qualified father be like? It's very simple. If you can set a good example for your son and become a benchmark for your daughter to find a partner, you are qualified enough. For many fathers now, this standard is quite high, and only by being strict with themselves can we achieve it.
Provide high-quality parent-child companionship
Children need companionship, and the companionship of parents is particularly important. Father can't just make money. You know, money is inexhaustible, but children's childhood is gone forever. Therefore, it is more important to give the child some high-quality companionship when he is young, so that he can fully appreciate the feelings of his father's love, which is more important than no amount of capital investment.
Every child is God's best gift to his parents. I hope my parents, especially my father, can treat this gift well and care for him with their love, so that he can grow up healthily.