"Murphy's Law" warns people that in the face of human defects, we'd better think more carefully and comprehensively and take various insurance measures to prevent disasters and losses caused by unexpected human errors. In the final analysis, "mistakes" are as much a part of the world as we are. Arrogance will only make us ask for it. We must learn how to accept mistakes and learn from them.
20 19.9.23, Monday, sunny. After the adjustment and repair over the weekend, I came to work in high spirits. At the end of the big break in the morning, I chatted with the people of the Commission for Discipline Inspection on the playground. In another corner of the playground (diagonal direction), three boys had friction and conflict. The monitor pulled them away and ran over to brief me on the situation. The teacher of the Political Affairs Office was next to them, so I rushed forward to stop it, and was stopped by the teacher of the Political Affairs Office. Due to the timely stop and no serious consequences, the Political and Educational Affairs Office decided to solve it by the class teacher.
At this time, I thought of the fundamental content of Murphy's law: if things are likely to go bad, no matter how unlikely it is, it will always happen. The parties to the conflict went out to play a game last weekend. Last week, they were still in a state of excitement and prepared to "stabilize the military" this week. As a result, what I was worried about happened on Monday morning, no matter when or how likely it was.
Li Yu said: "When is the spring flower and the autumn moon, how much is known about the past", but for these three young teenagers, "when is the emotional impulse, how much is known about the past". These three people usually have a good relationship, love sports and play basketball, but what happened today must have a specific source.
The first step is the investigation stage. First, understand the reason and process. Invite three hot-blooded teenagers to the office to communicate individually. The purpose is not only to let children calm down and calm down, but also to investigate and understand the real reason and process. After the parties wrote down their own reasons and process, and communicated with each other, the reason of the matter became clear: after the big break, the Sports Commission reminded a student Xiao Geng to run well, and added: "Don't think that you can play ball, your team will think you are arrogant, so you can not obey the school and class discipline ..." So Xiao Geng was unhappy, and then another player, Gao Xiao, was unhappy and joined in.
Secondly, analyze the trigger point, fuse and the reasons behind it. How can three students who were originally good be unhappy? Trigger point: The Sports Commission reminds Xiao Geng to run well. Fuse: The Sports Commission said, "Don't think that your team is arrogant because it can play, so you don't have to abide by discipline." . Reasons behind it: Last week, the team went to a foreign game, excited before the game, lost the game, and felt uncomfortable after the game. I thought the victory was in the bag. Because I underestimated my enemy, the final result was not ideal and the players were unhappy. When I heard the Sports Commission say "your team", players Xiao Geng and Gao Xiao vented their dissatisfaction and anger.
The third step is the stage of self-awareness. The parties should write about the consequences of their actions, emotional management, how to express and deal with problems reasonably, and how their actions will change in the future.
? People's Sports Committee:
Behavioral consequences: The original intention is to remind Xiao Geng to run seriously, and at the same time say, "Are the players awesome?" . I don't mean to talk about things, but I meant to run, but I mentioned that the team usually doesn't abide by school discipline, expands its scope and angers the team. At the same time of responsibility reminder, intensify contradictions and become enemies with the team.
Emotional management: improper language and impulsiveness.
Reasonable expression and handling of problems: no harm to individuals and groups, convincing language is not provocative or angry.
Future behavior: expression needs wisdom and way.
Character 2 Xiao Geng:
Behavioral consequences: if you don't run seriously, you will fight first, which is against the law.
Emotional management: impulsive, irritable and reckless.
Reasonable expression and handling: the bottom line principle is not touched, and the fist can't solve the problem. Brain wisdom has methods.
Future behavior: realize your own shortcomings, keep your head in front of your fist, and be rational and calm.
Characters are three small heights:
Behavioral consequences: teammates' "loyalty" and "small group" hurt themselves because of improper handling.
Emotional management: lose the game, add emotions after the game, and transfer to vent.
Reasonable handling and expression: give full play to the positive role of small group of enthusiastic players and avoid the negative role of "Jianghu loyalty".
Future behavior: help players grow and progress and play an active role.
Third, the value leading stage.
Guide three students to write down and tell their own cognition about this matter, and then carry out intensive education and value guidance.
1. Be a civilized student on a civilized campus.
2. Class committees and team members, first of all, class committees should enhance their sense of collective identity, belonging, honor and responsibility.
3. Carry forward the fighting spirit of the stadium, give full play to the positive role of small groups in the team, and do not engage in small groups.
4. Be the master of emotions and be a wise, responsible, law-abiding and friendly middle school student.
Some ideas:
1. Explore the reasons behind students' behavior. In the face of student conflicts, if we simply and arbitrarily solve them, it is difficult to find the deep-seated reasons and even lead to secondary contradictions among students.
2. Acceptance, permission and engagement.
In the high-speed period of students' personality growth (reversal period), if students make mistakes, they will be furious and furious, and the effect will not be too great. The first thing is to accept them. Secondly, it is allowed. Because this is a compulsory course for growth. Third, it is jointing. Learn from mistakes and improve personality development. Enhance the ability to manage emotions and solve problems, guide children to realize that the brain is more powerful than fists, and solve problems in a rational and legal way. Enhance empathy, pay attention to the art of language, learn to get along with others, improve interpersonal skills and so on. These are the changes and growth at jointing and booting stage.
3. Only by listening can you understand, and only by understanding can you understand * * *. Class teachers and students share the same fate, joys and sorrows, or the same fate, and need to become a United front.
Solving problems in class is to give children opportunities, narrow the distance with students, enhance the sense of collective belonging and achieve long-term harmony.