In study, work and even life, everyone has dealt with emotions. Here are eight skills I have compiled to solve the emotional situation in the workplace. Welcome to share.
1, fill your emotions first.
Often feel tired and unhappy? Are you always like the sun, trying to convey warmth to everyone, and finally thinking of yourself? This seemingly huge sacrifice is sometimes a "double-edged sword". Not only will it consume your energy, but it will also hurt people around you in the end. Please be a little selfish. Only by taking care of yourself and filling your "battery" with positive energy can your happy magnetic field spread out continuously.
Step 2 keep a diary
Enthusiasm, have you unconsciously taken away a lot of things that don't belong to you, making you very tired and depressed? I suggest you write a summary every night, "Who did you help today?" "Why help him?" "What is the content?" "Are those things happy? What's good for you? " . Diary can help you know your "energy destination" in time.
3. learn to say no.
Ask yourself two questions before you lend a helping hand. "Do I have the ability to help him?" "Does he really need this kind of help?" . Many times people ask you for help, not because they can't do it, but because they are lazy.
4. What are you afraid of?
There are countless things that make women afraid, such as fear of competition, fear of rejection, fear of imperfection, fear of exposing their true feelings ... Too much burden makes you lose your perception and action on life, and a word or action from others may make you deny yourself and think you are the smallest poor thing. Stop authorizing them to be your masters! As long as you obey your heart and are willing to take responsibility regardless of the outcome, you will become a brave and free-spirited confident woman.
5. What you say counts.
No matter how others evaluate and compare, please believe in your choice. There is no good or bad choice, only the best decision that your intelligence and experience can make at this moment.
Prepare for the worst. He didn't appreciate saying "I love you" loudly. What can he do? What if I want to put forward a new plan at the meeting, even if it is rejected? When you encounter a problem that worries you, imagine your bottom line first. If everyone can accept it, there is no reason to be timid.
6. Break down the problems one by one
Men say that a woman's temper is like "June Day", mysterious and changeable. This is because women's minds are more delicate and their methods of dealing with problems are more subtle, so that many times they can't completely solve the problem. So the rest of the anger, sadness and other emotions are accumulated, transferred to the immediate problem at the moment, and take this opportunity to release. Despair and sulking are actually just trying to convey "I am not satisfied with what I have done in the past."
7, cut the gordian knot
If you really can't figure it out, it's better to untie the knot at the beginning and ask yourself "yes or no" every time. As long as an answer is determined, tell yourself that you don't regret it. Put the question down, empty your mind, and the sun will shine naturally!
8. Practical.
Try to concentrate, only pay attention to the immediate problems, and avoid thinking or digging up old scores. Say what you want, do what you want, don't hold it in your heart, and don't give negative emotions any chance.
Don't ruin your career prospects by being emotional.
In the workplace, one thing is fatal, well controlled, our work efficiency is better, our performance is better, and our control is not good. It will unconsciously devour our future.
This kind of thing is emotion.
Fidgety, anxious, tired, rebellious, in the workplace, for the sake of ideals, or for survival, we are filled with various "emotions" and gradually become an "emotional person" in the workplace. But emotionalization is a taboo in the workplace and will ruin your career at any time.
Where did your bad mood come from?
Bad company, bad corporate culture, bad management, too little money, stingy boss, red-eyed colleagues, disobedient subordinates ... office workers complain about their bosses and colleagues. In the workplace, we can easily find that our bad emotions come from too many sources.
Irritability-overtime, when is the head?
At five o'clock in the afternoon, "Liang Xiao, I want these materials tomorrow. Please tidy them up. By the way, get off work early! " The boss smiled and put a pile of information on Liang Xiao's desk, and then hurried off work.
Liang Xiao suddenly got angry! Swearing words have been scolded n times in my heart. "The company gets off work at 5: 30, and now I know very well that I have to work overtime. What did you do in the early days? Why do you always send the work first and then the work? This is the third time this week. There is no overtime pay for overtime work, and this day can't be passed! " Liang Xiao really patted the table and shouted, "I quit!" " But thinking about the mortgage to be repaid, I had to sit down and start working with a sullen face.
"Why even the computer crashed at this time! Why hasn't the IT department of this stupid computer been changed? Is the air conditioner broken? Why is it so hot suddenly? This is life. Liang Xiao, who made an appointment with his best friend to relax in the evening, worked overtime "suddenly" again, feeling extremely agitated, and his work efficiency can be imagined. Liang Xiao had to go home after a night 10.
The reporter's testimony: people are in the rivers and lakes, and they can't help themselves. Since opposing overtime is ineffective, settle down and go home early!
Depressed-the contradiction between colleagues, the "hurdle" that the workplace can't bypass?
Mr. Wang has been a personnel manager in a private enterprise in Nanning for more than two years. Three months ago, the company was going to set up branches in Guangzhou and Shenzhen, so the task of recruiting people naturally fell on Mr. Wang, who also hoped to take this opportunity to recruit a deputy for himself.
Just as Mr. Wang was about to publish a job advertisement, the boss told him that he had found a deputy for him. This deputy is a friend of the boss, a lady in her thirties. 1 month cooperation, Mr. Wang found that this lady knew nothing about the company. By virtue of her relationship with her boss, she is overbearing in the company, and the boss is partial to her everywhere and targets Mr. Wang everywhere. Mr. Wang is very angry. "I wonder how I recruited such a poor person." It is out of the question. Mr. Wang is in a bad mood. He looks for trouble with this lady everywhere, but he makes himself a slut, which makes the boss hate him even more.
Mr. Wang had enough and resigned.
Reporter's testimony: Why bother? Since I can't afford to offend this celebrity, I will adjust my mentality and choose to ignore it, although my heart is inevitably blocked!
Anxiety-Why the boss is a "workaholic"
Every time she mentions her boss, Hu Yue always complains because her boss is a "workaholic".
Once, the boss took her to Guangzhou and got off the plane at noon 1. People were already in the factory at 2 o'clock, and then arrived at the Dongguan factory at 6 o'clock in the evening. Dinner was eaten casually on the way to Dongguan. Back to the hotel, it's already 2 am, and I have to check the market at 8 am. At the end of the two-day busy schedule, Hu Yue wanted to relax, but when he was leaving Guangzhou in three hours, the boss had a whim and wanted to visit the factory in Fuzhou again. At this moment, Hu Yue's nervous mood for a long time suddenly collapsed. She shouted to her boss, "Go by yourself! I'm not you, I can't run, I'm exhausted, I quit! " Turn around and leave, leaving a stunned boss.
When I woke up after a sleep, my mind was filled with the idea of "looking for a job again" soon. Hu Yue began to regret being too impulsive. What I lost was my high salary. I lost a good job because I didn't control my emotions well.
Reporter's testimony: Impulse is the devil! If Hu Yue can communicate well with his boss, the result should not be like this.
Graduates should have a long-term perspective and make career plans. Learn to comprehensively analyze your "job hunting environment". Job hunting is not a short-term behavior, but a career development action based on personal development planning. If you want to "find a job" easily, you must make a long-term plan and learn to comprehensively analyze your "small environment for job hunting".
First, analyze the development trend of economic environment.
Changes in the economic environment will soon directly affect the small environment for personal development. For example, in the process of industrial restructuring, some industries are gradually declining or even eliminated, while emerging industries are pregnant with more opportunities; Labor-intensive enterprises are gradually replaced by enterprises with high added value and brand line; The industry is changing at any time, and so on. Therefore, we should be able to perceive the changes in the economic environment in time, especially analyze the development trend of our own industry or related industries, so as to adjust our own development, look for opportunities in the changes, and seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.
Second: Know and analyze your own value.
Combining professional background, qualifications, experience, age and workplace competition, analyzing one's current values is the basis for establishing one's long-term development direction and goals. After objectively understanding and analyzing your own value, you should deeply consider the degree of matching between your job and yourself, and whether the job you want to apply for can reflect and develop your core value.
Third: understand the professional knowledge of relevant positions.
The division of labor in the workplace is getting finer and finer. Everyone is a screw, and the completed work is often just a small link in the workflow. At work, it is more necessary to communicate and cooperate with other team members and colleagues. Therefore, we should pay more attention to the professional knowledge of related positions in our daily work, especially those positions that have cooperative relations with work.
Fourth, analyze opportunities in combination with regional development orientation.
Everyone's development is inseparable from the regional environment. If we can combine personal development with the development orientation of regional economy, we can find more opportunities. For example, professionals who want to engage in the financial industry can find more opportunities in Shanghai, and an oil exploration expert may have an advantage in developing in the central and western regions.
Fifth, pay attention to the peripheral knowledge related to work.
The HR of a real estate company should not only know the professional knowledge of HR work, but also know the development and business field of its own enterprise. If you go to a real estate sales company, you have to know the business knowledge of marketing. These are not enough, but also to understand the development trend of the real estate industry, from the national macro-control policies to the bank loan process. If one day you apply for HR of a real estate company, then these seemingly irrelevant real estate expertise and marketing expertise will come in handy. Peripheral knowledge is accumulated bit by bit in ordinary work, which is also the preparation for successful job hunting.
Career design needs to be improved. How can we improve it? In fact, it is very simple and more perfect to grasp the "three decisions" professional design mentioned below.
One is "positioning"
Career design should first be "oriented", which is "certain". If you set the wrong direction, you will run in the opposite direction, you will get farther and farther away from your goal, and you will go back and pay a higher price. Therefore, when making career decisions, we must not make "directional mistakes."
Usually the career direction is determined by my major. But the reality is that many people can't choose their jobs completely according to their majors after graduation, and some even have nothing to do with their original majors. It is not surprising that there are many cases of "learning is useless", "learning is useless" and "majors are not right". In this case, you need to seriously consider and choose a career orientation that suits you. Sometimes, in order to get a job, we even have to force ourselves to "fit" into a position we don't like, as long as the profession is in short supply, urgent need or promising. Some students have double degrees at school and obtained several professional grade certificates, so they have more employment opportunities than others and appear superior.
The second is "fixed point"
The so-called "fixed point" is to set a place for career development. For example, some people choose to go to the south after graduation, some people choose to go to Shanghai and Shanghai-Nanjing line for development, some people choose to go to the frontier and northwest, and choose to go where the motherland needs it most. This is understandable. As the saying goes, "everyone has his own interests." But all kinds of factors should be considered comprehensively, and we should not be impulsive, impulsive or emotional. For example, some graduates go to the south, thinking that it is the frontier of reform and opening up, with developed economy and high salary. However, it ignored the fierce competition, different concepts, psychological endurance, and even climate, water and soil, and left in a short time. Of course it doesn't matter. But if you choose the right direction from the beginning and develop steadily around a career in one place for a long time, it will help and improve your qualifications and experience. With time and hard work, it is expected to become a veteran in a certain field, isn't it more advantageous? Changing places frequently, here today and there tomorrow, will definitely do more harm than good to career growth.
The third is "positioning"
Before choosing a job, you should make a comprehensive analysis of your level, ability, salary expectation and psychological endurance to make a more accurate positioning. Don't be pessimistic, set yourself too low. Don't overestimate yourself and lead to high expectations. Once you don't get what you want, the greater the disappointment. It is your luck to be selected by a well-known big company right after graduation, with high salary and welfare. If you don't meet this good opportunity, don't be discouraged. Don't care too much about the company's reputation and salary. As long as this company and this professional position are suitable for me and what I yearn for and pursue, I should give it a try and try to be hired. Establish the idea of starting from the grass roots, starting from the foundation, gradually accumulating experience and developing step by step. It may be good for your whole life.
In addition to these "three determinations", there is actually a very important "determination", which is "centering". How can you accurately "orient, fix and locate" when you are distracted and willful! But whatever you do, you need to be "centered". Otherwise, how can ordinary people say "the heart is uncertain and the money is dead"?
From a philosophical point of view, "three decisions" is actually to solve the three most basic problems of "what to do", "where to do it" and "how to do it" in career design. If these three problems are solved, the career development will be smoother and the ambition will be firm. Ambition is the basic premise of career success. Without ambition, career success is impossible. As the saying goes, "Nothing can be done without will." Determination is the starting point of life, which reflects a person's ideals, mind, interests and values, and affects a person's goals and achievements. Therefore, when making a career plan, we must first establish our own aspirations, which is the key and the most important point in making a career plan.
The above knowledge is very practical. You might as well try to use it to improve your career design, which is beneficial and harmless to you. Don't wait any longer, act quickly! Career planning and design are very important to everyone. Want to know more about career planning.
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