Compared with noisy children, well-behaved children are more worry-free than their parents, but the more worry-free, it may not be helpful to their future. In the final analysis, under the endless suppression of each child, the well-behaved child finally formed is just a character defect.
Ningning is a single mother. When my son was 2 years old, because her husband cheated, Ningning couldn't stand it and finally divorced her husband. Ningning and her son live together. This life is very difficult, but at least she is happy with her son.
Ningning has been really busy at work recently, neglecting her children. After all, her children are already in high school, and all expenses are relatively large. She will go to college in the future. Ningning will be wronged by her son if she doesn't work hard to earn money. But I didn't expect that children's grades would drop so quickly if they didn't pay attention to them for such a long time.
Ningning came home at night and saw that her son had not done his homework. He was actually talking to his mobile phone, thinking that his son was in love. Later, he took a closer look and found that his son was broadcasting live and there were many fans. Ningning is very angry. After all, children's business now is going to school, not playing with these useless things. Ningning directly took her son's mobile phone and warned him not to neglect his studies so much, otherwise he would be completely embarrassed in the future.
My son didn't listen and told Ningning that he could make money as long as he persisted. Finally, she felt that her son was possessed, and finally threatened her son, "If you do this again, I will go. What do you want to do alone! " In Ningning's heart, I have always been more concerned about not having a father. It is even more painful to hear my mother say this.
Since then, my son has listened to Ningning, studied hard and finally got into a good university. After graduation, he followed his mother's wishes, worked in a state-owned enterprise and lived a stable life. But so far, my son has said a lot and is unwilling to get married. Others don't like his son because he is too old-fashioned. But she thinks her son is a college student. How can he be old-fashioned The son smiled and said, maybe fate has not arrived yet.
My son, who has been living according to his mother's will for so many years, is actually not happy. He has been suppressing his thoughts, living a life that his mother thinks is excellent, and living has become the last thing he wants. ...
The better the child, the less promising he will be when he grows up.
Children will definitely have different ideas from their parents when they grow up. At this time, most parents will try their best to suppress their children and make them more and more obedient on the road of growth. The more obedient these children are, the less promising they are when they grow up.
1, ignoring yourself
Because children are constantly suppressing their own thoughts and living in their parents' thoughts, they are not really themselves, but living under their parents' will. The future life is a life that parents expect, not a life that children want, and their self-awareness begins to blur, losing the meaning of life.
2. I dare not express my true feelings.
Under the pressure of parents again and again, children dare not express their true feelings, so they suppress their own ideas. After entering the society in the future, this will become a normal state. Others suppress children, and children dare not resist. A person who can't even express his true feelings will not achieve much even if he enters the society.
3, poor independence.
Children who have lived under their parents' thoughts for a long time are led by their parents. They will do as their parents say, and their independence will be even worse. Being separated from your parents is like being separated from your back, and you don't know which direction to go.
Step 4 be behind the times
When children become excellent, they actually lose the consciousness of self-exploration and live entirely by their parents' ideas. When they enter the society in the future, they don't know how to keep up with the pace of society and explore new things, which will inevitably be eliminated by the new era.
Therefore, parents should stop asking their children to be good. Children are not parents' accessories. Children are independent people and should have independent thoughts and personalities.