In modern society, responsibility is a very important role. Parents need to be carefully cultivated in family life since childhood. Now it's summer vacation. Can parents and friends be inspired by this case, and through some activities, let children feel that "everyone has a lot of responsibilities and do their own thing well", thus enhancing their sense of responsibility?
1 scene playback
Class 4 (5) is a newly established class in the school and students are not familiar with it. Teacher Wang, the head teacher, decided to appoint a new class cadre temporarily and organize students to hold democratic elections at the end of the month. Because of his good grades and lovely appearance, Yang Yang was appointed as the squadron leader by Mr. Wang. I don't know. A few days later, several students came to him to give advice to Yang Yang. Some people say that Yang Yang is irresponsible, others say that Yang Yang has broken his word, and so on. Teacher Wang thought it was because they didn't know much about Yang Yang, and what they said might be a little jealous, so they didn't care much. Who knows that at the election meeting at the end of the month, everyone expressed dissatisfaction with Yang Yang's work. Only seven students voted for him, but Yang Yang lost the election. Teacher Wang was very surprised: Why do people have such a big opinion about Yang Yang? He asked several classmates to hold a forum and wanted to know about the situation.
Lily spoke first: "Yang Yang is irresponsible. He is the squadron leader. He should have arrived at school early and managed the class with other class cadres, but he never did. Last week, it was our group's turn to hand out posters, and everyone stayed after school. He was lucky and slipped away alone. "
"yes! Yang Yang is like this. On Saturday, our holiday team will go to work in a nursing home. We agreed to meet at 8 o'clock, and he arrived at 8: 20. " Dongdong went on to say, "Yang Yang is also very careless in his work. That day, he cleaned the glass the most unclean! "
"Yang Yang is a" little emperor "at home. His parents dote on him and won't let him do anything. In fact, Yang Yang himself doesn't want to be the squadron leader. He often said that it is enough to do well in academic performance. How tired he is as a cadre! "Yao Ming said very discontentedly.
"It is. On Wednesday afternoon, you went to the meeting, not at school. Xiaoqing and Zhang Hong had some minor conflicts. They went to Yang Yang to quarrel. Yang Yang ignored them and said, "What does this have to do with me? I don't care about you, I made Xiaoqing cry! "
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The children talked noisily, which made Mr. Wang lost in thought. It seems that Yang Yang, the squadron leader, didn't do his duty, which caused dissatisfaction among the students. Why is he like this? Teacher Wang decided to visit their home.
Just arrived at Yang Yang's home, before Teacher Wang explained his purpose, Yang Yang's mother began to nag: "Teacher Wang, I heard that our Yang Yang was not the squadron leader? That's great. This child can't be a cadre, he is not busy teaching himself! Being a cadre requires both this and that. Too much trouble! To tell you the truth, our Yang Yang doesn't want him to do anything at home. Even the school homework in the first and second grades was done by me and his father. "
"Being a class cadre is an exercise for children and can improve their ability." Miss Wang wants to explain to Yang Yang's mother.
Who knows, words just export, was interrupted by Yang Yang's mother. "The child is still young, it is good to study hard, and nothing else matters! When they grow up, they will know what to do. Now the requirements can't be too high. "
"Why didn't Yang Yang ask the teacher to resign as the squadron leader at that time?"
"Ah. To tell you the truth, at that time, I was going to let my children tell me, but Yang Yang didn't dare. I think, anyway, there is still a month to be re-elected, so you can paste it first, so don't ask. "
Teacher Wang shook his head helplessly.
2 childlike innocence fax
As soon as I entered the new class, Miss Wang made me the team leader. I am very happy, and my classmates envy me. But who knows that a mid-team leader has so many things to do, such as managing discipline, organizing activities, dealing with students' minor contradictions, and looking for me for everything. I can't handle these things. Before, everything I did, my mother helped me solve it. However, if you don't care, your classmates will say that this is not good for you and should not be. What a nuisance! Fortunately, it's only a month's work, so I'll listen to my mother and post it first. It's best not to ask anything and study hard by myself. Then my classmates will choose other "fools". You call me irresponsible? Mom said that the main task of students is to study hard, and the rest is useless. If you often help your classmates with activities, it will definitely affect your study. Besides, it's none of my business Who asked Mr. Wang to choose me as the unlucky official? Is it wrong for me to study hard? There are many good students in the class. Put them in charge.
3 psychological exploration
A person living in this society often plays multiple roles, and each role gives him different responsibilities. Take Yang Yang's mother as an example. She is Yang Yang's parents and should educate Yang Yang. She is the child of her parents and should honor the elderly; She is a company employee and should work hard. She is a social citizen and should abide by the law and so on. Individuals cannot exist alone without society, and maintaining social progress depends on the sense of responsibility of each member. In modern society, responsibility is a very important character, whether it is shopping mall transactions or general interpersonal relationships. It is no exaggeration to say that people who lack a sense of responsibility can hardly stand in modern society. Therefore, it is important to teach children to be responsible for their words and deeds from an early age.
Unfortunately, what we see in Yang Yang is the image of a irresponsible child. Although Yang Yang studies hard, he is not interested in class activities. He didn't want to be the squadron leader, but he adopted a "confused" attitude, thus losing everyone's trust in him. Why is this happening? Parents' education is hard to blame. Yang Yang's parents are too protective and concerned about him. They are always afraid of his hard work and his embarrassment. They do their duty for the children, wash their clothes and pack their schoolbags ... Almost everything in Yang Yang's life is taken over by their parents. He never uses his head and doesn't need to do anything. He can't handle the small problems in life at all, and he doesn't even have the ability to take care of himself, let alone the ability to fulfill his responsibilities.
After long-term care, Yang Yang has become very self-centered, focusing on reducing his troubles and doing his own study well. On the other hand, Yang Yang was indifferent to the people and things around him, and became the squadron leader, but ignored the demands of his classmates. He doesn't know that he is a member of the group, he should take part in group activities, gain the trust of the teacher, do his duty, he doesn't want to be the team leader, he should explain to the teacher in time, and so on, lacking the basic sense of responsibility.
Yang Yang's mother said that children just need to study hard. As a student, it is really your responsibility to study hard. But a person has multiple responsibilities, and children are no exception. Yang Yang is a member of the class collective and should make contributions to the development of the class collective. Unfortunately, his parents didn't want him to do it, and even taught him to "paste". When a child's irresponsible behavior is recognized, what kind of growth experience will he accumulate? If a child only cares about reading and ignores other responsibilities, how can he become a useful person to society in the future?
Maybe some parents, like Mingming's mother, think that children are still young and will know what to do when they grow up. In fact, children's sense of responsibility should start from childhood and family education. A person's sense of responsibility is cultivated bit by bit in life and gradually formed. Parents who spoil their children at ordinary times and arrange everything for them, or even parents who have lost their sense of responsibility in their own education intentionally or unintentionally, hope that their children will suddenly become responsible one day, which is tantamount to daydreaming.
4 Counseling countermeasures
For children, responsibility is an abstract concept that is difficult to understand, and simple preaching is not easy to effectively cultivate their sense of responsibility. Parents should always demonstrate various responsible behaviors to them in family life, so that children can feel the benefits of being responsible; We should start with small things in daily life, let children try to deal with problems by themselves, and let them feel that they are very capable; It is necessary to gradually clarify the different responsibilities of children, so that children can understand the specific performance of responsibilities in practice; We should reduce our excessive concern for children and encourage them to perform their duties seriously.
First, let the children know that "everyone has a lot of responsibilities." Children often don't understand their parents' work. When they were young, they longed to be with their parents all day. When I grow up, I still hope that my parents can put their feelings first. In consultation, we often hear children complain that their parents work too hard and ignore their own voices. In fact, everyone has many responsibilities. Parents are not only parents of children, but also employees, children and citizens. We should let the children know that everyone should take full responsibility for themselves and can't ignore anyone. Besides being good parents, we still have a lot to do. For example, when his mother received a phone call and needed to go to the company to get information, Xiao Qiang suddenly wanted to go out to play with his mother. While sorting things out, my mother said, "But my mother is going to the company!" " ""You can call them and tell them there is something at home. "Xiao Qiang even came up with a way. Mother thought, not that she can't take her children out to play, but that she should take the opportunity to teach them the concept of "responsibility", so she said, "Mom is your parents and should play with you; But my mother is also an employee of the company. It is my duty to work hard. Now I need to go to the company, I promised, and I can't change it casually. If you want to go out to play, you can, but only after mom comes back. " Xiao Qiang accepted this suggestion, and at the same time, he also had the idea that "everyone has a lot of responsibilities".
Second, let the children know, "do your own thing." Many parents in China take good care of their children and often don't let them do anything. These children have problems taking care of themselves, not to mention their sense of responsibility to others and society? Psychological research shows that letting children do their own things from an early age can not only accumulate their ability to handle things, but also effectively cultivate their sense of being responsible for themselves. In foreign countries, people think that children as young as three can already help with housework. Of course, at this age, you can at most pack up small toys or put the finished videos back in the box. As children grow older, parents can assign them some fixed housework. For example, children above grade three can help take out the garbage and get newspapers. Older children can help clean the floor and water the potted plants. There is no need for parents to feel sorry for their children. They should let their children see the rewards of responsible behavior through their own efforts. If you see clean rooms, clean red scarves, blooming flowers and so on. At this time, you will find that children gradually have a sense of responsibility.
Third, let the children know, "Don't promise others casually". Many children often promise things that others can't do themselves. Parents should teach their children to think clearly before making promises to others, so as not to be considered untrustworthy when they fail to do so. For example, Xiaogang promised his classmates to play basketball together on the weekend afternoon, but forgot that he had promised to accompany his cousin to the bookstore to buy books. "Mom, can I accompany my cousin to buy books next week? I made an agreement with my classmates. " "You would have agreed with my cousin! I think you should call your classmates as soon as possible and cancel the game, which means you forgot to make an appointment again, so people won't think you have no credit. " "But I think playing ball is more interesting." Xiaogang is a little unwilling. "But you promised your cousin first! Maybe he had his own plan, but he canceled it in order to reach an agreement with you. Our compliance with the agreement is a responsible performance. " I believe Xiao Gang will have a deep understanding of responsibility through his mother's education.
Fourth, let children know that "responsibility can be respected." Nowadays, children have more and more ways to understand the world. In a complex society, perhaps children will see that some people who evade responsibility have benefited, while some people who are responsible have suffered misfortune, which makes them easily doubt whether they need to be responsible. Therefore, parents should help their children analyze the meaning of responsibility and tell them to be responsible in order to be respected. At the same time, parents should praise their children's sense of responsibility in time. When a child has a responsible performance, no matter how small, praise him in time and let him know that you often pay attention to his behavior, which will have a supervisory role. For example, the light in the bathroom is on at night, and Xiaohong turns off the light casually. When dad saw it, he immediately boasted, "Xiaohong is really the little master of the family. It's great to save energy!" With our sincere encouragement, children will pay more and more attention to their responsibilities.