The so-called "IQ is not enough to make up for EQ", in today's human society, the decisive factor of success is seldom IQ, but more EQ to observe, analyze and then deal with. That's why we always hear people say "nerd" instead of "EQ nerd". Therefore, people with high emotional intelligence often have strong viability.
Especially for women, if there is a girl with high emotional intelligence around you, you must be close to her and don't stand on her opposite side, otherwise it will be terrible.
1, the so-called marriage-powerful sister-in-law
My brother is strong-willed and has many social activities. He experienced an unhappy marriage before, and later he found his sister-in-law. For a while, I saw my brother at home often being directed by my sister-in-law, who always took her with him. At that time, I was curious about how this sister-in-law "won" her brother, and I admired this woman from the bottom of my heart until I contacted her for a long time.
Once I had dinner with my brother's sister-in-law and friends. Everyone drank well. That day, my brother didn't feel well and didn't drink much. During the dinner, a friend smiled and said, "It's almost boring." Sister-in-law immediately raised her glass and pretended to be angry. "Who dares to say my husband! I think my man is the best, no one can say anything! We did it! " After drinking the wine in the cup, he turned to his brother with a big smile and said, "Husband, your wife doesn't talk much. Don't give your brother face. Will you punish me if you go home and give your wife face outside? "
The whole audience laughed, and my brother's eyes were full of spoil.
On another occasion, they took their children to the hospital. When they lined up to register, a strong man came to the back and tried to cut in line. They met the child as they advanced. My brother glared at him and wanted to get angry. Family and brothers have always been his brother's bottom line. If he gets angry, it's probably a big deal. I don't want this stall owner to rush out of another queue window in three steps and two steps, and say to the strong man while picking up the child. The strong man was indefensible, looked at his brother standing behind him again, apologized and left.
But whenever you go out, no matter whether this group of people are familiar or not, you will always hear my brother say, "It's no problem to leave your house to your sister-in-law."
The more social you are, the more I will be with you in your circle of friends. You are proud, and I will give you enough face outside; If you value your family and friends, I will value them more than you do. If you are uncomfortable, I will take good care of you; If you have a bad temper, I will be your stabilizer.
A friend who is also married once said to me, "I don't need my wife to think about how to buy me clothes and how to take care of me every day." At this stage, as long as she can take good care of my family, make the old lady happy and let me go home and kneel, I am willing. "
My sister-in-law didn't know much about her family when she first entered the door. One day, my brother wanted to go out to play, but he was afraid of awkward atmosphere at home. Seeing this, the eldest sister-in-law went directly to her brother and mother, took her arm and said to her brother, "You have something to do. I'll stay with my mom. Come on. Don't delay our conversation. "
Sister-in-law has no shortcomings and doesn't like to play, but after seeing her helping him constantly, let my brother do some work in a small family of two, spend some money on his wife and take her out to play, even if her shortcomings are nothing.
There are no inappropriate partners, no people who can't communicate, only inappropriate business methods and self who don't know how to pay. Respect is mutual. Only by taking care of each other's "pain points" can they care about and tolerate your "pain points".
In front of the eldest sister-in-law, you will always have the impulse to run to her and cry when you are wronged. That's the feeling of home.
2. Sister Liu, who has a successful career.
In Old A's company, there was a sister Liu, who was originally a department head, giving the impression that she was only practical until something happened that made Old A sit up and take notice.
A foreign affairs office received two clients from outside the province, and Lao A took special care of them, so that Sister Liu must make arrangements. Based on the comprehensive consideration of customers' preferences and other factors, Sister Liu finally decided to arrange for the other party to spend their holidays in the hot spring villa. So I booked a presidential suite for my clients and a standard room under the presidential suite for my own people.
After receiving the customer and chatting on the way to the villa, Sister Liu said with a smile, "I specially set a presidential set and played cards together at night." The customer readily agreed.
Originally, everything was going well. As a result, when leading the customer to check in, because Sister Liu helped with the formalities at the front desk, the staff was asked to help her. But she didn't expect that the staff played a little trick and wanted the customer to put the inexpensive luggage in the standard room, so she said to the customer "put the luggage first" and then took the customer to the standard room. Just then, a phone call came. When the staff came back from the phone call, they found that the customer had unloaded his luggage and moved into the standard room.
In a word, there is a big difference between "put the luggage first" and "put the inexpensive luggage here first and let us keep it for you two".
Sister Liu was shocked when she found out.
When entering the door, the front desk carefully arranged to ask, "Is the presidential suit and the standard room handled together?" The guest has heard this sentence clearly.
Sister Liu suddenly felt that it was a big joke to say on the way here that she was playing cards in the presidential set at night.
She hurried to the standard room to explain to the customer, but by this time the customer had settled down and said with a smile, "It's okay to live here." He also said that the game at night is still the same, and the place does not need to be changed.
Sister Liu struggled to get to the point. Old A couldn't make a phone call. Finally, she gritted her teeth and made up her mind.
That night, the game set by the president was really the same. Finally, after the retention was invalid, Sister Liu personally sent the guest back to the room, and then ordered the person who screwed up to go back to the presidential suite to rest.
Sister Liu didn't scold him, but told him to cheer up and come on tomorrow.
Because she knows that too much criticism at the first time of the accident will only make everyone have negative energy and continue to have an impact on things. However, if such a big incident happens, as a supervisor, the parties will worry about the punishment they will face after the incident.
So let him sleep in the presidential suite, which means.
Then, Sister Liu went downstairs by herself and slept on the sofa in the lobby on the first floor.
The customer has the habit of doing morning exercises, which was investigated before.
So, the next morning, when the customer came downstairs, she was surprised to see her lying in a chair, but she didn't say much.
Sister Liu accompanied the morning exercise to chat and led the other party to a particularly elegant little-known pool to watch The Rising Sun and the Sinking Moon.
Looking at the unique scenery in front of me, until then, seeing that Sister Liu really did her homework to entertain them, the customer finally nodded and said "intentionally".
Sister Liu lowered her eyebrows and said nothing.
Later, when she came back for breakfast, Sister Liu mentioned last night again and solemnly apologized.
Customers wave their hands and put down chopsticks, just like their elders, saying that people will inevitably make mistakes and focus on coping and growing up. "You did a good job."
Later, Liu Jie became the second-in-command of the company and asked Lao A why she was so important. Old a said that flaws don't hide Yu. Then I found that she was not only practical, but also steady, too steady.
I remember once going to another company with Sister Liu, and then the other half-jokingly tried to poach her. Sister Liu ha ha a smile. "Whoever digs my boss in front of me will be fined in the future."
In today's society, emotional intelligence can better represent "wisdom" to some extent. But high emotional intelligence is tempered. As Ma Yun said, people with high IQ may not have never suffered, but people with high EQ must have suffered.
There is no such thing as a pie made for nothing, and everyone's efforts behind it deserve a flash.
In addition to being close to the girls with high emotional intelligence, you should also know how to respect them, because if they had not experienced the storm, they would not be here today.