Generally speaking, competitive people-strive for perfection in everything and strive for the first place in everything-are prone to nervousness and anxiety. A hundred flowers blossom, and life is different. Everyone has his own strengths and advantages. It is neither possible nor necessary to pursue everything superior and everything ahead. You are inferior to others in some places, but you are superior to others in some respects. Therefore, you should realize the limitations of your ability and energy, lower your demands on yourself, consider everything from a long-term and overall perspective, and don't care too much about the gains and losses of one place at a time, and don't care too much about other people's opinions and evaluations of yourself, and your mood will naturally relax.
shift the focus (onto sb)
If the tension and anxiety come from what you are facing and there is no way to solve it, then don't get caught up in the entanglement and confrontation of this situation, which will only make your mood worse. Temporarily diverting attention is an effective way to relieve the current mood. You can turn your eyes out of the window at an appropriate time to relax your eyes and other parts of your body. Or take a deep breath eight or ten times, and then let your body move; You can also recall a thing that makes you relaxed and happy; Moreover, watching some humorous movies can effectively release our anxiety. If you are a humorous person, try to show it when communicating with others. You can choose the right way according to the situation at that time.
Stop mark
Labeling can lead to self-exaggeration and reinforce symptoms. Teacher Li Hongfu, a domestic psychologist, pointed out that there are more and more kinds of knowledge and information about anxiety disorder, but few of them are really helpful or valuable to patients with anxiety disorder. Because anxiety patients do not have a good internal defense mechanism, they often compare their own situation with them, causing greater pressure and burden in their hearts. What's more, at first, it was just anxiety and tension, and finally it was strengthened into a more complicated anxiety disorder by itself. So, don't label yourself easily.
Be humorous.
Humor has a magical effect on eliminating tension and anxiety. Studies have found that people who are nervous are more likely to laugh. In fact, laughter has become a way to vent tension and anxiety. So when you are nervous, it is helpful to listen to Degang Guo's cross talk. If you are a person with a sense of humor, you can show that you can relieve tension and anxiety.