Contemporary women should fully enjoy life and not be bound by some absurd theories of family exploitation. Everyone's life is full of unknowns, so we should make good use of the short time to feel the beauty of the world. The bride's family is a harbor, but it should not be a shackle. Everyone's first priority should be themselves, not family, children or others. If you can't put yourself first, how can others care about your feelings and take care of your real feelings?
Yesterday, grandma and mom were sitting on the sofa in the living room chatting, and suddenly I caught a glimpse of my distant cousin's circle of friends. I jumped up from the sofa in shock, picked up my mobile phone and stuffed it in front of my mother, then told my grandmother that my cousin was divorced. Grandma seems to have guessed it long ago and said, look at your cousin, she is married, so don't put her family first. Everything is given priority to her younger brother. Who can accept such a daughter-in-law? I looked at my mother, who shook her head helplessly.
Xiao fen's family is very ordinary, with four people and a younger brother in his early twenties. Although her parents love her younger brother more, she has never been unhappy as an elder sister. My brother didn't study well since he was a child, but his parents never blamed him for it. He even enrolled him in a remedial class with high tuition, but even so, his grades didn't improve and he entered a five-year university. When Xiao Fan was in college, she often used cost of living allowance as her brother. Nevertheless, my brother, who spends a lot of money, is never satisfied. Later, Xiao fen did odd jobs on weekends to earn money to pay for his brother's living expenses.
Later, after graduation, Xiao fen entered a good company because of his good grades in school, while his younger brother went to work in a factory. My brother resigned and went home less than a week after he went to the factory. The reason for his resignation is that the factory will have three shifts. He felt so tired that he went home to look for a new job. I didn't expect this stay to be a few months. Because there is no financial source at home, his parents become his ATM, and he often goes out to eat and drink with his parents' money.
For the convenience of going to work every day, Xiao fen rented a house near the company. Despite the huge living expenses, she insisted on giving her brother living expenses every month. Later, my brother decided to go out to work, and Xiao fen asked her to buy herself a new Apple phone, saying that all his friends used Apple phones that were not Apple phones, which made him feel embarrassed. After hearing the news, Xiaofen immediately bought an Apple mobile phone for her brother, and then she ate instant noodles for several months without complaining.
Not long after working, Xiao fen met Daxiong, who is in the same company. The two usually have more work contacts, and Daxiong thinks that Xiaofen is attracted to Xiaofen because she works hard. Daxiong's family conditions are good. Although Xiao fen's family conditions are average, Xiao fen works hard and has a gentle personality, which is very good. Daxiong's parents are also more open-minded. Although I was a little worried that Xiao Fen had a younger brother at first, it shouldn't be a bad thing to see Xiao Fen trying so hard to be in-laws, so I agreed.
After getting married, Xiaofen didn't stop subsidizing her family and younger brother. In addition to giving her parents living expenses every month, she will also give her brother a sum of money every month. Daxiong bought a car before, and later bought another one because he got married. My father-in-law also has his own car, so that car has been in the garage. Once, two families were having dinner together, and my brother stumbled upon it. When he got home, he asked Xiao fen to help him drive the car.
Xiao fen thinks they are all family members. Anyway, no one at home drove the car, so he asked Daxiong to drive it for his younger brother. Nobita thought it wouldn't be opened anyway, so he put it there, so he gave the car key to Xiao fen. Although the parents-in-law were unhappy, they didn't say much. Brother has a car, the cost of driving and refueling is definitely higher. My brother always asks himself for money, so Xiao fen directly gives his brother a credit card and helps him pay it back every month.
Daxiong knew that his wife often subsidized his parents' family, but she didn't speak out and scold Xiaofen. Daxiong thinks that if he has younger brothers and sisters, he should always support them, and the family conditions are not bad, and he can afford it for a while, so he never blames Xiao Fan for it.
Later, my brother's blind date was successful, but because of the house problem, the family of the blind date refused to let go. Xiaofen's parents bought a two-bedroom apartment for their younger brother in the county town long ago, but because it took a long time and the community was a bit shabby, the blind date was always dissatisfied with the house and asked for a new one, otherwise she would not get married.
Seeing that his parents complained in front of him all day and his younger brother was incompetent, Xiao fen offered to sell the old house and realize it, and then bought a bigger one in a good location. Hearing this, the younger brother immediately turned against him and said, that's easy for you to say. You have no idea how much money I earn. If you are not busy being a sister, forget about your brother. What a terrible idea!
Hearing this, the parents said that the younger son had to pay the mortgage every month when he changed his new house, which would definitely affect the quality of life of his son's family, so he quickly expressed his firm determination not to let his son pay the mortgage and let her do something for his sister. Pink doesn't know what to do. She has to give her family living expenses every month, so she must be unable to make ends meet. So the parents played the idea of Xiao Fenjia.
There are five suites under my father-in-law's name, including a villa downtown. My parents once heard about it at the dinner table, so they came up with the idea of the villa. Xiaofen's parents urged her daughter to talk to her husband's family, fearing that her daughter would not talk. Think about it, your parents-in-law will not be your husband's in the future, and you will give them a son in the future. These are all our little grandchildren's. My nephew should help my uncle. Just tell your parents-in-law that you must help their family have a grandson in the future. Your brother is counting on you!
That night, Xiao fen came home with daxiong and sat on the sofa. He asked if Daxiong Villa was unoccupied now. Daxiong unknown so thought that Xiao Fen wanted to have a party at the villa or something, so he said no one lived there. Xiao fen immediately added: my brother is getting married, but the blind date always thinks that the house my parents bought is too small. Changing the small for the big is not that I don't know how to raise my wife and children after I can't support myself. I thought, my parents-in-law have five suites, and that villa happens to be unoccupied. Why don't I give it to my brother to get married? Anyway, we are married, my brother and we are a family, and it's nothing to give our own house. Daxiong, you come from your parents tomorrow, and I'll send it to my brother.
When Daxiong heard this, he kept interrupting me: That's the house that my parents bought so hard. Your brother wanted my house and didn't pay a penny. Your family dares to think too much. I won't say anything until you secretly subsidize your mother's family. Now you want the villa directly. Is your appetite too big? I married you, not your family!
Xiao fen didn't expect daxiong to have such a big reaction. He only thinks that Daxiong is stingy and doesn't give the villa. He said, "That's my brother, not an outsider. What happened to your brother-in-law's help? " I can't help it My parents begged me, and I couldn't help it. There is only one boy in our family, and I can't watch my family die! Besides, my in-laws won't give me the first set of five suites, miser, and I'll get divorced if I don't give it to us today. "
Daxiong really didn't expect Xiaofen to do this for his younger brother, because his younger brother chose to threaten him with divorce. He firmly said in his heart that there is no nostalgia for this marriage: you are invincible no matter how thick you are. Aren't you going to support your brother for life and then divorce me? I'll give you what you want. Since we got married, I haven't even told you to eat our food and use our food. Give me my car back and we'll get a divorce.
Their marriage was ruined by this farce. After the divorce, Xiao fen returned home. Instead of comforting him, his parents blamed him for nothing, so that his son not only didn't get a house, but also lost the car he had already got, and drove Xiao Fen out of the house in a rage. Pink looked at the credit card bill on her mobile phone for a long time.
Although the society is progressing, this phenomenon cannot be completely eliminated. Although it is not as good as family education, we should learn to grasp our own happiness and not ruin our life's happiness because of our parents' mistakes.
Both men and women should strive to make progress, live a good life and help their younger brothers and sisters within their power, but they should not empty themselves without a bottom line. This self-righteous dedication actually hurts not only yourself, but also those who love you.
The center of life should be around yourself, rather than unconditionally obeying parents and sacrificing yourself to fulfill others. Seemingly great, but actually selfish to the bone, they are also their own children, but they should be treated differently, endlessly demanding and squeezing, and finally let the children go further and further on the unfortunate road. And those women who never consider themselves, only their parents and families, finally lose happiness. A person's ability is limited, and so is his life time, so we must take good care of our happiness!