Being too strict may cause two kinds of harm: in one case, children are obedient and obedient to Nuo Nuo, psychologically depressed, inactive in thinking, and their intellectual and emotional intelligence development is seriously affected. The best result is to become an ordinary person who lacks innovation and creation; On the other hand, children are rebellious, and the relationship between the two generations is indifferent or even hostile, which may cause the interruption of children's studies and the formation of violent personality, and will also cast a shadow over family happiness.
If you love too much, you will spoil it. Children who grow up under doting will definitely have an unsound personality and lack the spirit of hard work. After "leaving" parents, they are probably "disabled", so excessive love is actually harmful!
Second, control and release. Mind your children's business, and let go of what you shouldn't. You can't arrange everything, plan everything, and you can't always feel insecure and worry that your child will have such problems. Under the necessary care and supervision, fly boldly and dare to fly! Children can spread their wings, fly in the free sky and give full play!
Children may not walk well, or they may fall and fail, but this is a good time for us to carry out frustration education. There are too many examples of children who commit suicide because they can't stand a little failure. We should learn a profound lesson!
However, flying is not a slap in the face, not turning a blind eye, not turning a deaf ear, not letting children do things. Examples of this are not uncommon. The two parents rumored on the internet in the previous paragraph are typical of the contradiction between children's appointments.
Third, to some extent, encourage criticism, education and praise. In the growth of children, we should be good at using these two means. When a child makes a mistake, he should criticize it. Criticism should be appropriate, attitude should be oblique, it rains in Mao Mao. Children are easy to accept, and acceptance is the principle, and the wind and waves may not be lost.
Children who have made progress and performed well must be praised and encouraged in time. While children are happy for success, they are also brewing new and greater hope and strength!
Praise and encouragement should also be moderate, otherwise children will feel boastful, and after a long time, they will have a cold understanding, and the effect of praise and encouragement will be greatly reduced; Motivation should be based on spirit, and blind material rewards are low-level incentives, which may also turn into connivance.
Lead by example: example is an important way to influence and educate children with other people's good thoughts and behaviors. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes, active roles in literary works, and excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. Whether parents' words and deeds are right or wrong will have a far-reaching impact on their children. Therefore, parents should always check their words and deeds in their daily life.
Second, environmental impact: parents should consciously create a good living environment so that their children can be infected and cultivated. Family is the main place where children live. Parents should deal with the relationship between members in arranging their lives, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a United and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate children's good emotions.
Third, criticism and punishment: criticism and punishment are the negation of children's bad thoughts and behaviors. But the latter is an educational method aimed at serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, first, we should fully understand the situation, grasp the specific situation and seriousness of bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from false reality. Criticism means pointing out the harm and ideological roots, rejecting thoughts and actions, making them feel ashamed and miserable, and then generating the motivation to correct their mistakes. Don't be sarcastic, ridicule or insult when criticizing. Punishment is mainly deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, and it is not allowed to insult personality or destroy body and mind.
Fourth, guide the arrangement of life order: a good life order is an effective way to cultivate children's good habits. Guide children to arrange their daily lives, arrange their living environment and teach them how to arrange and use their time in an orderly manner. Parents can guide their children to make their own arrangements.
5. Persuasion education: Specific methods of persuasion education: First of all, parents should reasonably state the facts according to their children's thoughts and actual speeches, so that children can know some truth. Negotiations should be targeted, flexible and friendly. They should not condemn and ridicule from top to bottom without expression. The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together. In the discussion, we should respect children and listen to their opinions patiently. If there are mistakes, parents should patiently guide reasoning and let their children distinguish right from wrong. Parents should have the courage to admit that their views are wrong.
6. Practice: The content of practice is very extensive, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, self-care, housework, independent work, social etiquette and so on. In order to practice children, we must first clarify the purpose and significance (why), put forward specific requirements (methods), and encourage children to overcome difficulties and persevere. The content of the exercise should be suitable for children's age characteristics and personality characteristics. The tasks and requirements assigned from their actual abilities must be appropriate. In practice, children should be allowed to make mistakes and not be too harsh. Parents should not stop exercising halfway, and don't be afraid that their children will suffer.
Seventh, praise and reward: praise and reward are affirmation and praise for children's thoughts and behaviors. Through recognition and praise, enhance children's initiative and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and reward should be practical, timely and reasonable. Moreover, spiritual rewards should be given priority to, supplemented by material rewards.
Eighth, guide extracurricular reading: guide children to read books, newspapers and magazines and learn useful spiritual nutrition. Parents should master their children's reading materials and discuss with your children to guide them to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons and cultivate their spirit.
Ninth, the use of home TV: When TV enters the home, children can learn a lot from watching TV, increase their knowledge and make use of it. But it should be noted that there is no choice, but the time cannot be too long. After watching TV, you'd better talk to your children and discuss the TV content.
Tenth, lead children to contact with society: lead children to contact with society, go to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories, rural places, or visit classmates, relatives and friends, have social exchanges, broaden their horizons, get in touch with society and understand society.