The initial grade of primary school is often one of the periods when parents are most concerned about their children. Most parents have the idea that from the first grade, children will formally study (receive school education), depending on their real level. Due to fierce social competition, parents have been telling their children to study hard, get into college and have a good future. The child has just entered the first grade. At this time, on the one hand, parents are looking at the teacher, on the other hand, they are very enthusiastic and anxious to get help from the teacher. Parents can understand this psychology as long as they are parents. After this stage, in primary school, parents will not have so much enthusiasm to participate in school education unless there are any major changes. As a class teacher, we must seize the opportunity. Opportunity knocks but once.
First of all, there must be an atmosphere of communication and cooperation. Suppose you are the parent of a student. When you step into your child's school, can you feel the potential atmosphere of the school? Are you welcome to participate or keep you away? Every school has a different atmosphere, which is formed under the influence of school administrators and reflects the cooperative attitude of each faculty member and parents. Obviously, the atmosphere of the school largely determines whether parents are willing to take the initiative to pay attention to the school. As a class teacher, he is the main person to create an atmosphere.
Secondly, the teacher should leave your loving and kind face in the child's heart. Only when children accept you psychologically and have a certain sense of security can they carry out effective education. When parents look at it, their children will accept the teacher so quickly, and they will definitely put a hanging heart down, accept you from the heart and admire you. You know, children come from a unique family. They are not a blank sheet of paper. Experienced teachers can often see the family situation and the shadow of parents from a student. When you enter a family, you can understand why there are such children. Teachers need to educate students, and teachers also need to guide parents to a certain extent and make contributions to improving the quality of the whole people.
Communication methods are everywhere.
. Parents urgently need effective guidance. Because young parents, although busy, are eager for their children's success, but because of their busyness and their own conditions, they only have a desire for love for their children, but they lack the ability to love. Therefore, talking about the communication between teachers and parents is actually a kind of communication that is teacher-led and has a certain guiding role for parents.
1. Holding regular parent-teacher conferences is one of the important ways for teachers and parents to discuss children's education and guide parents. At the parent-teacher conference, teachers can announce their educational goals and ideas, convey their educational methods, and parents can communicate with each other. Parent-teacher conferences should avoid being a mere formality and lacking practical results.
2. Home visit is a traditional and effective way of communication. Teachers' home visits are sincere and conducive to communication. Make necessary preparations before home visit: First, have the purpose of home visit. It is necessary to imagine: what purpose teachers should achieve through home visits; What impact it is expected to have on the student union; What methods are different students going to use for different purposes? It is expected that parents will have what kind of attitude towards the situation reflected by the teacher. And will formulate targeted strategies. Secondly, we should understand the basic situation of the families interviewed: family status, parents' knowledge level, and their concern for students. Then, according to the differences of parents' educational level, work nature and personality characteristics, choose what kind of conversation form and way to adopt, or direct statement, or patient explanation and guidance. Finally, according to the different situations of students, we choose to adopt a three-way dialogue among students, parents and teachers, or a two-way dialogue between parents and teachers. Home visits should avoid randomness and complaining to parents. There are also some communication methods in practical work that are often used by class teachers:
3, the way of letters. Communicate with parents in writing regularly, and clearly and methodically write down the tasks to be assigned, the aspects that parents should pay attention to, and their own ideas on paper, so that children can take them home and parents can write back after reading them. The advantage of parents' letter is that it is simple and convenient, and teachers can make certain preparations without manual labor. Some words that are difficult to say at ordinary times can be written in letters to gain support or understanding. Teacher Bi Ruiping (net name: Wang Yun) communicated with parents through a series of letters from parents and achieved very good results. She guides children to read with high taste, and lets parents follow her on the road of reading through sincere and well-founded letters to parents. For the sake of children, they study and study together and constantly improve themselves.
4. Face-to-face communication when picking up and dropping off. Parents in lower grades send their children to and from school, which is a good opportunity for the class teacher to communicate with parents. Teachers can communicate with parents about their children's situation on the same day or in recent days, or they can learn about their children's situation at home, and get in close contact with parents directly, so that teachers can know about their children and their families, which is the soil for their growth. This communication is very targeted. Although it is not as in-depth as home visits, it is short, flat and fast, and it is very effective. However, face-to-face contact almost every day requires teachers to maintain a good attitude and a clear mind. A day's work is undoubtedly trivial and tiring. If you don't pay attention to it and communicate with your parents with emotions, the effect is often counterproductive and the consequences are often difficult to remedy.
5. Modern communication. Communication is good when picking up and dropping off, but when it comes to families who can't pick up and drop off because their parents are at work, they can rely on modern communication tools, such as telephone, mobile phone and SMS, which are adopted by many teachers and parents, which are convenient, timely and effective. When students do well in exams and send text messages to report good news, parents will feel that their children are concerned by teachers; If students are not feeling well, call their parents in time, and parents will feel that the teacher is meticulous and the children can rest assured in the hands of the teacher; Telephone communication is a flexible communication method, which can handle emergencies anytime and anywhere.
Thirdly, the improvement of parents' own quality has a great influence on children. As a class teacher, I think I should also use my own quality to influence and guide my parents. Some parents want their children to succeed, but they never read books or newspapers. It is conceivable that children are required to study hard, but they are not making progress every day. The head teacher should make parents realize that the child is the shadow of the parents through appropriate means. What kind of family, what kind of children. If you don't improve your own quality, it is difficult to cultivate excellent children. Of course, teachers can't lecture parents with a condescending attitude. After all, parents are not students. Parents' literacy does not mean that they can be improved through improvement. A domineering attitude will only arouse the resentment of parents. We advocate that teachers use their own strength to infect and influence parents.
Communication skills, pay attention to practical results.
In the process of communicating with parents, we must grasp some situations well, otherwise the relationship with parents may break down and affect the healthy growth of students.
1, different types of parents are treated differently. Every family has its own personality. Because the composition of parents is very complicated, their knowledge structure, occupation category, personality temperament and self-cultivation level are uneven, and no family education method is omnipotent. One method works in one family and it doesn't work in another. The head teacher should investigate and analyze the students' families, and understand the parents' educational level, professional status, age, family education concept and family relationship. Parents at different levels should be treated in different ways of communication, not across the board, which will dampen the enthusiasm of parents.
2. Keep a proper distance from your parents. We encourage teachers and parents to get close and get to know each other, so as to get support and communication, but not necessarily the closer the better. If you get too close, teachers often go beyond their authority, or participate in conflicts between students' families, or make students think they are privileged and complacent.
3. rely on your own personality charm, not your professional status. In the vast rural areas, teachers have the right to actively communicate with their parents. Parents in rural areas generally respect their teachers. However, if faced with this situation, the teacher has high expectations of identity, that is, to enhance my personal value by some external glory, then parents will not sell your account, or dare not say anything to the teacher in person, but they are thinking in their hearts: this teacher is nothing. As a teacher, you should constantly improve your quality, and rely on your own personality charm, not the profession of teacher, to make parents feel that you are really a teacher and a noble person.
In a word, the job of parents is the job of our teachers. If it is done well, it will achieve unexpected results.