Different family rules form the unique style of different families, that is, the family style that interprets the characteristics of a family. Whether family precepts belong to the family or family style is a kind of culture has a subtle and far-reaching influence on a family.
The influence of family precepts on a family is subtle. The word implicit comes from Yan Zhitui's Yan Jiaxun Mu Xian: "Implicit nature."
It can be seen that the subtle meaning at the beginning is that the influence of family rules on family members is gradual and subtle. From the initial learning and imitation, it gradually becomes natural, internalized in the heart, externalized in the line, and becomes a part of itself.
Writer Mo Yan's grandfather is a carpenter. He doesn't like to talk and can't read, but he knows the truth of honesty and takes it as a criterion. For example, we are very careful about the materials used in furniture, and even trivial flaws will tell the owner of the furniture. When paying public grain, some people are smart enough to mix sand into the grain. Mo Yan's grandfather never cheats and always gives the screened grain to the country.
Mo Yan's grandfather explained what honesty is with practical actions. Under this influence, Mo Yan's father also applied honesty to practice and treated his works meticulously. As an accountant, he remembers every account clearly and never misses a penny.
Honesty is the family style of Mo Yan's family, which was subtly given to Mo Yan's father by his grandfather. This is the inheritance of family style.
Although Mo Yan's father is a brigade accountant, he doesn't put on airs with this title. He feels superior and treats people kindly.
20 12 mo Yan won the Nobel Prize in Literature. When the aura was shrouded, my father warned: "Before winning the prize, you were as tall as others; After winning the prize, you will be half a head shorter than others. "
"Half a head shorter than others" is modesty. Mo Yan's father is not only that, but also his exhortation and expectation to Mo Yan through words and deeds. A wise man is humble and knows that he stands tall because he stands on the shoulders of giants. Mo Yan won this honor because of his modesty and eagerness to learn, which benefited from his father's subtle influence in daily life.
The influence of family discipline and rules on a family is far-reaching and lasting. The influence of family discipline on a family is not only subtle, but also far-reaching and lasting. Just like the relay race, it is passed down from generation to generation, accumulated into an indestructible character, and updated with time.
In Fuxian County, Yan 'an City, Shaanxi Province, there are three Ren Shi brothers who have an indissoluble bond with "forest", namely, establishing forest, cultivating forest and becoming forest. The names of the three brothers are entrusted with their father Ren Taixiang's feelings of loving and protecting the forest.
Ren Taixiang has been doing forest protection all his life. In the ravine, he visited the forest or planted trees. His work notes, many medals and certificates are proof of his forest protection, bearing too many unforgettable memories.
This job is very hard. In order to prevent firecrackers and other fires on holidays, I patrol more times, so I have to live far away from my family and spend a short time together. Even so, in order to improve the environment, Ren Taixiang still wants his three sons to do forestry work and protect the mountains.
Under the influence of his father, Ren's three brothers lived up to expectations and were all engaged in forest protection. Forestry books and notes left by their father became their "family heirlooms". In addition, inspired by the belief of protecting mountain forests, Ren Chenglin's son is now a forest ranger, inheriting the tradition of protecting mountains at home.
Love forest protection is the family style of Ren Jia, and three generations of forest rangers of Ren Jia embody the family style's inheritance from generation to generation and its far-reaching and lasting influence.
When Liu Chuanzhi started his business, the company failed several times, but no matter how unhappy his career was, he never brought his troubles home, always smiling at his children and caring for his wife. Among the four children, Liu Chuanzhi is the eldest. Brothers and sisters get together at his house every month and get along well.
Love each other is the tradition and family style of the Liu family. It has been handed down from ancestors to this day. In his son's wedding message, Liu Chuanzhi hoped that his son, daughter-in-law and grandson would continue this tradition, which is actually a profound and lasting embodiment of family style.
To treat family rules and regulations, we should take their essence and discard their dross. We should treat family rules and regulations dialectically, take them reasonable and abandon them unreasonable. As mentioned above, the environmental protection concept of honesty, modesty, caring for the forest and loving each other should be passed down from generation to generation, and the family style that is unfavorable to others should be abandoned in time to avoid the erosion of its adverse effects.
In an article, there is such a thing: there is a little boy in grade one of junior high school. He gets good grades and plays basketball well, but he doesn't talk much. He is indifferent and stubborn to his teachers and classmates, so his popularity is very poor. None of the teachers and classmates like him. The head teacher found out the reason of the little boy's behavior in a home visit. When the head teacher gently suggested that the boy be more friendly and gentle, the boy's father instantly put away his smile, pulled the boy out of the study, scolded him, and then quarreled with his wife, accusing each other of not educating the child well. Maybe he was used to the quarrel between his parents. The little boy just stood there with no expression and empty eyes.
The little boy's indifference and vitriol have a lot to do with bad family atmosphere and should be banned. The head teacher has no right to interfere in other people's family affairs, so he has to try his best to arrange the boy and girl with the highest emotional intelligence in the class to sit at the same table to see if he can be influenced subtly.
In another article, the author wrote, "It's not so much a family style as a spell, which makes people naturally suffer, take pleasure in suffering, and firmly believe that bitterness comes first and then sweetness." Some sufferings are actually purely asking for it and can be avoided, but they are immersed in it like masochism. Just like the author's plastic toothbrush cup, it has been worn from graduation until now. The author at this time is very much like his father who preached that "eating is bitter". After the author realized that "pain is not worth infatuation unless there is no other choice", he replaced the toothbrush cup, indicating that more will be replaced next.
It can be seen that some family rules are not desirable and should be changed or abandoned according to their own conditions. The times are changing, so are the family rules as a traditional culture.
To sum up, the influence of family precepts on a family is subtle, far-reaching and lasting. At the same time, we should treat family discipline dialectically, take its essence and discard its dross.