And maternal love is the instinct of every mother. Create flesh-and-blood children and care for their growth all their lives. The child's smile touched the mother's heart tightly.
However, some mothers simply think that loving their children means giving them the best, and they have been sheltering their children from the wind and rain all their lives. However, they ignore that children will eventually grow up and they will eventually grow old; There will be times when there is nothing you can do. On the long road of life, children need to walk independently. It is the duty of parents to help their children face the storm.
Neighbors Huang Shu and Zhang Yi are both over 60 years old, but they are not old. Aunt Zhang is resolute in her work, and her husband will always follow her and obey her instructions. She is a loving couple. They work hard every day; Do manual labor in the factory and go home from work to continue farming and selling vegetables; Sleep less than 5 hours a day. Aunt Zhang said with satisfaction: We are working so hard now to help our son earn more money and let him live a rich and healthy life in the future.
They have a son and a daughter, and they all have families. My son is Xiao Shu, in his early 30 s, but he hasn't had a long-term job since graduation. 10 jobs, and the longest one only lasted for half a year; It's either a long time or a long distance; Many times, Zhang Yi was distressed by his son and asked him to resign. My son has no opinion of his own, so he will do as his mother says and give birth to a baby boy.
Xiao Shu and I have been playmates since childhood, and he has always been the "rich second generation" among children. He was the first to own the most popular toys at that time, and the snacks he ate were always at the forefront of the trend, which was unheard of by us. Watching Zhang Yi chase him to eat and dress every day. The life of the young tree in memory is only eating and playing. He also said that he couldn't take a bath or wash his hair, and his mother helped him to junior high school.
At that time, when we were young, we envied or envied that the young trees were so happy. We are all of the same age, but we have to help with housework and take care of our brothers and sisters. A little disobedience will be beaten by your parents, which sounds pitiful.
And Zhang Yi's daughter, a few years older than us, met a hard-working young man when she was young, but her family environment was average. Aunt Zhang thinks that her daughter will definitely suffer when she marries in the past, so after many twists and turns, she finally finds a suitable rich second generation and finally forms a husband and wife.
Aunt Zhang likes children very much and hopes that she can always serve them. Even if the child has grown up and has his own family, Zhang Yi still works tirelessly, washing and cooking, and taking the baby to work to make money. After years of hard work, a 60-year-old man has a face in his seventies. Gradually, children get used to their parents' efforts and develop the bad habit of reaching for food with clothes.
Overindulgence brings children's ruthlessness; Too much interference brings children's helplessness; Too many accusations leave children with nothing to do.
The good times didn't last long. Uncle Huang has been tired for a long time and has been coughing intermittently for three years. Then I went to the hospital for examination and finally diagnosed lung cancer! Later! Has spread to the trachea, large and small tumors are blocking the airway more and more, so it is more and more difficult to breathe and start coughing day and night. The doctor thinks that there is no need for surgery and there is nothing to do. Zhang Yi was told to spend more time with her husband because time was running out.
Zhang Yi panicked, because for decades, her husband fought side by side with him, and she was accompanied by her husband every morning. Now that the bad news has happened, Zhang Yi is at a loss and heartbroken. People suddenly lost weight 10 Jin, which made the originally thin body even more overwhelmed and pressed to the brink of collapse.
After Huang Shu came back from the hospital, the whole person aged a lot, and his cough worsened, which led to a splitting headache and oral ulcer. It took 24 hours to put a pill in your mouth to relieve the pain a little. Patients with advanced cancer have no quality of life. Every moment, Uncle Huang wants to die, but he doesn't want to accompany his wife.
Zhang Yi was afraid that Huang Shu couldn't bear the truth, so he didn't tell him the real illness. Uncle Huang can't stand it, so let Zhang Yi take him for an intravenous drip. Aunt Zhang can't drive, so she called her children for a ride, but the line was always busy. Even though their father was on the verge of death, the children refused their mother's request without mercy. I started out as a rich second generation son-in-law because he didn't work after marriage and idled around at home every day. Zhang Yi thought that he must be free, but he found various reasons to evade Zhang Yi's request.
The child has never held his father's hand or hugged his fragile father after his illness; I have never had close contact with my father. Every time I meet him, I look at him from a distance for fear of being infected by my father. Zhang Yi still clearly remembers that after Huang Shu found out the cancer and told them, the daughter-in-law immediately took the children and her husband to the hospital for a physical examination.
Aunt Zhang is desperate to freezing point.
I vaguely remember that when a child was a child, it was also the pride of his father, who took care of and raised adults without sleep; Always give everything selflessly for children, without a father, there is no today. There is an old saying in Guangdong that says, "Father raises children, mother raises children". Parents should not expect to be taken care of by their children, because they are busy taking care of them.
The content is ironic, but it is also an indisputable fact.
Uncle Huang's time is running out. What he needs most is the care of his family. Less and less every day! However, children do not think so. Every time they go on holiday, they say they have no time to go to work. Zhang Yi feels his eyes hurt. My husband and I have worked hard all our lives to build a better life for our children. Now that the husband is seriously ill, the children have no worries, and they still think that everything is taken for granted and everything is their own fault.
Zhang Yi is cruel to children and can't stay at home. So I took Huang Shu to a nearby hospital, where I accompanied Huang Shu through the last journey of his life.
It was only half a year from Huang Shu's diagnosis of lung cancer to his death. Huang Shu was so weak at the last moment that his heart stopped beating without any ups and downs! My eyes are always open and I can't close them.
These days are really too bitter! Zhang Yi said that every cough of Huang Shu is like cutting a knife on Zhang Yi, and the deep blood stains are vivid. She is constantly struggling to die and resurrect. How much courage does it take to watch a loved one go from health to death? Zhang Yi was the only one along the way, silently suffering from the purgatory on earth.
After Uncle Huang left, Aunt Zhang got a severe gastric ulcer and the pain was unbearable. Then she went to the hospital where her husband died. Because of long-term mental torture, low immunity and oral ulcer for several months, Zhang Yi chose to go to that hospital to see a doctor. Zhang Yi's starting point is obvious. Memories of her husband in that hospital and their breath will last for a long time.
After events again and again, Zhang Yi finally understood how to be a mother, but this understanding came too late, and it was not worth risking her husband's life. Zhang Yi and Huang Shu can't blame anyone for their achievements today. Their education methods have always been wrong, which has led to children's dependence, lack of gratitude and contentment, and seeking nothing. Even if the outcome is difficult, it is expected.
As parents, it is very wrong to spoil their children too much.
A child is an individual from birth, and his growth needs to be faced, felt and explored by himself. Parents only need to be on the side, and the dominant force must be on the children themselves. From an early age, we should cultivate children's independence, self-love and self-improvement, all of which are necessary qualities for them to become better people in the future.
Non-interference and non-doting are the proper upbringing of every parent. The so-called doter is unknown, and the greedy never tires. Overindulgence of children will not see their shortcomings, and greedy people will never be satisfied.
It is necessary to establish a correct outlook on life and values for children, and instill them with filial piety, gratitude, self-improvement, diligence and enterprising, and never give up when encountering difficulties and setbacks. Only sunny and upright children are the pillars of the future society.
I just hope that parents in the world will not ruin themselves and their children because of their temporary doting.
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