At Shao Wei's request, we went straight to the point after a very routine greeting. My question for help is why I feel deeply tired at the thought of opening a studio or taking responsibility on 20 19! Am I afraid of taking responsibility, or am I more eager to be as free as the wind? Is the fatigue after the trip affecting me now, or is the unresolved contradiction in my heart affecting my pace of moving on?
Qiu's consultation steps are clear: say hello-understand the problem of the helper-guide self-exploration with the sand table-accompany and record-confirm and verify whether it is necessary to adjust after my sand world is over-ask and guide the core questions of the sand table (meaning of the road, self-image, meaning, dialogue with each other, etc.). )-finally allowed me to continue to explore myself in a chaotic and uncertain way. Wait a minute.
Shao Wei reminded the consultation afterwards that there were two key steps missing: naming the sand table (my sand table name is what I want, free and bright)-asking the visitors for permission, and the consultant took photos of the sand table world.
The above is the sand table world I built, and my self-interpretation is the current state of my inner perception and discovery after my trip to Antarctica. That wide and long road looks like water and land, but it's actually a photo of me at the South Pole. The water is full of ice floes. The road is long and wide. Some people are boating, others are racing, and everyone is exploring his own life in his own way.
And those many people, in fact, are people of different ages, occupations, cities and States I have seen in my travels. They are in a state of self-discussion in their lives.
One of the old ladies is my biological mother, because my current confusion and state have a lot to do with her, and I am still considering integration. And a mother with a baby in her arms. I project my former self, because women are weak and mothers are strong. It is precisely because of some children's problems that I embarked on the road of psychological learning and self-growth. Finally, I am sure I look like a beautiful girl, who I am now. I want to drive more beautifully, and I am no longer afraid of being hurt.
Everyone is moving in the direction of the Statue of Liberty, growing up in their own mental process, fast or slow, near or far. Everyone is a lonely person, which also reflects the feeling that my observation and mental journey are only a lonely journey in the world of mortals.
The most controversial thing in the picture is the Statue of Liberty and the sunny land behind it. Who is the ultimate goal? This is beyond everyone's understanding. Why is everyone's goal the Statue of Liberty and your goal the Pure Land? As far as my interpretation is concerned, the goal in my mind is the sunny pure land, and the Statue of Liberty is an important milestone in progress, which is equivalent to a secular goal of wealth freedom and life freedom. It is the goal that the world wants to lead to the pure land. Everyone can see and feel it, but it is not the ultimate goal. Some people may regard it as the ultimate goal, and I think the ultimate goal is the pure land with no distractions, bright sunshine and compassion, which is the meaning of "where the heart is, there is light" in my title. Some people think this is contradictory. You can go directly to the pure land of the soul without running to the Statue of Liberty. And I don't think you can surpass it until you get there. Only by reaching the height of freedom of wealth and life can we transcend our desire and persistence for wealth and fame. Just like some people say that you are low-key, if your life can't be high-profile anytime and anywhere, you can't say that you are low-key because you can't be high-profile; For example, many people say that they have seen through the world of mortals. If they have never had a chance to read countless people and enter the world of mortals, they can't say that you have seen through the world of mortals, or they can only say that you are escaping from the world of mortals. If you can't do it, say I don't want it, so I don't think they are contradictory.
Finally, according to their requirements, I put my self-image in the position of the Statue of Liberty, or put the Statue of Liberty side by side with me. I tried to do it and felt it. I know that's not what I really want, but it's just a milestone on my way to the pure land.
My feelings, steps and ideas during the autumn consultation are still relatively clear. Although I saw her eyes turn to Shao Wei for help from time to time, I also felt that she was busy taking notes during the consultation with me and did not contact me wholeheartedly. Perhaps because I know her ability and experience better, I didn't care too much about this small flaw. I just want to clarify my inner doubts through our chat. Maybe I can find the answer by myself in the sand table creation and consultation chat.
The worst part is 1. In the middle of asking me to find my self-image, talk to the Statue of Liberty, or what the Statue of Liberty will say to me, there is not enough thinking time for me or the dominant language is not open and accurate enough to cause me to think; 2. The goal of her consultation is not my inner doubts, but my sand world, and there are many details in my sand world that she didn't notice or ask, such as why horses started from land and then moved to land and water. For example, what do the last two green leaves inserted on the pure land lace mean? For example, why is there only my mother's projection in the sand world, but not my father's husband and children? For example, why are parents with children closer to the Statue of Liberty? Why does Shaji project that my mother is so far away from the goddess? And so on, although Qiu finally realized that she didn't reach a * * understanding of the interpretation of the sand world and started consulting, she had nothing to say. My language repeatedly mentioned that my trip to the South Pole was related to the sand world now, but let her know that I was eager to share my trip to the South Pole, not the sand world now, and subjectively judged that I was escaping or digressing. In fact, the truth is that the trip to Antarctica is the predecessor of Xiasha world, and they are progressive. My mental journey is step by step. The sand world comes from → the self-awareness of the trip to Antarctica comes from → the conflict of self-dreams in Miss Mishan's class comes from →2065 438+08. The successful experience of my salon made me start planning the operation of the studio on 20 19. (It's a pity that no one saw this (? ))
In our discussion, everyone has their own opinions, which makes me feel that we have been apart for less than a month, and the growth of the members of the sand table group is really obvious. Yan Ling's speech made me sit up and take notice. Zhixia's question is still wisdom, and Lu Han's question is still the most in my mind. Shao Wei's leadership skills are becoming more and more calm and calm. What impressed me most was joy, sharp questions and aggressiveness. Strong, more lethal than others, can trigger my thinking and emotions, but when her questions are more general and subjective, our communication will have different frequency differences. She wants to copy her painful epiphany to me. When she thinks I'm addicted to the benefits of not cooperating, she doesn't want to face it. I feel that she is too subjective to judge and project herself. She is no longer attached to me as a visitor, and she wants me to make changes according to her requirements. The connection between us is broken.
Facing their argument: should we give the tourists a cruel trick or add a ladder? Should the visitor take his time, or should he just cut the wound and force her to suffer extremely? Everyone has his own considerations. Personally, I am disgusted with the psychological counselor's active overtreatment. I still think that everyone has their own psychological growth rhythm, and no one can make decisions for her, and the premise of making a hard hand is that the psychological counselor has the ability to heal and dress, not that the visitor can't face it because she is avoiding problems.
In this sand table consultation, I once again deeply felt the true meaning of "the consultant follows the visitor", "the consultant is neutral and objective", "the mental journey is a heroic journey", "respect the rhythm of the visitor and take your time", "there is often a difference between knowing and doing" and "it is useful to apply what you have learned". & gt？ & lt？ )。
After the sand table counseling, I still continue to integrate my inner world in my mind, such as "the distinction and integration of the true self and the false self", "the adjustment and acceptance of the self-mode of personality separation", "how to find the way to link the true self", "where does my fatigue and powerlessness come from" and so on.