Jun said that she was abandoned and adopted because her parents could not have children. Her parents have very different attitudes towards her. Her father loves her very much and regards her as his own daughter. Her mother treated her badly, even worse than her niece. She either fights or scolds. Therefore, A Jun's childhood was unfortunate. Father works outside the home all the year round to earn money, and her fate is in the hands of her mother.
Maybe it's not her own child. My mother often calls her a "loser" and says that she only spends money, so when she gets angry, she takes it out on Ajun. When Ajun 12 years old, she didn't cook on time because she went home to catch up with her homework, so her mother got angry when she finished her farm work. She grabbed her ear and slapped her. The blood in her ear was knocked out that time, but she dared not say it because she was afraid of her mother. Because her mother never pays for her medical treatment, she is completely deaf in her left ear.
Although A Jun hates her mother because she is deaf in her left ear, she doesn't hate her mother, because she knows that she is just a picked-up child, and her parents gave her a gift to support her. So she kept it from everyone and didn't tell her father because she was afraid of her mother's revenge.
Xiaojun said that she was very sorry for her father all her life, because in her opinion, the father who loved her died because of her. That year, she was admitted to the university. The J family is very poor. In order to pay for her tuition, her father worked hard for her on the construction site. She was so tired that she fell from the construction site and became a cerebral hemorrhage. After lying in bed for three months, she died.
She still remembers what her father said to her before he died. That day, my father took her hand by himself and said, "Daughter, my father is incompetent. He never gave you a good life, nor did he find you a good family. Your mother treated you badly, so he wronged you. Dad, let me ask you something. Mom is old, you don't need to be particularly kind to her. Just give her a bite to eat and find her a shelter from the wind and rain. Your mother's life is not easy. Dad is sorry for her, so dad hopes you can agree to my request.
After listening to his father's words, Ah Jun agreed with tears in his eyes. After my father left, my mother's character became more violent. She thought that her father's departure was all caused by her own hand, so she beat and cursed, and even called her "missing a star" in front of everyone.
After his father left, Ah Jun felt very guilty and painful. She worked hard to make money after dropping out of school because she wanted to satisfy her father's wishes and let her mother live. Even after marriage, she still ignored the opposition of her husband's family and did her duty to support her mother.
At that time, friends who knew Ah Jun's family affairs called her stupid and said that her mother was not worthy of her care and filial piety. But Ah Jun said: It is better to cultivate kindness than to have kindness. Although her mother is not good to her, her father is good to her. She owes her father too much. Besides, her mother eats nothing. She grew up without any honor. So now that she is old, she will still support her mother. A Jun said that at that time, she was still trying to support her mother. Later, after her mother fell ill, she ran home and made a scene, which completely chilled her and cut off her relationship with her mother.
A Jun said that her mother-in-law and family were particularly dissatisfied with her, because she had been giving her mother pension money, so her marriage was unhappy. Her family is under great pressure. There are two children at home. The whole family leads a very hard life. Her husband and wife earn only enough money to support themselves. So her mother's serious illness almost directly destroyed her family.
That day, my mother came to Ah Jun and said, "Daughter, my mother is dying. You can sell me the house for treatment. " ! After listening to her mother's words, Ah Jun didn't refuse immediately. Instead, she told her husband about it. The husband listened to her words and refused without thinking. Her husband said to her again, "If she helps her mother again, he will get a divorce." .
That day, A Jun told her mother what her husband said. At that time, Mr. A thought that his mother would understand her and would not force her any more. However, after the mother knew it, she scolded Ah Jun and asked her for a divorce. Then she gave the house to someone else and treated her. It was precisely because of her mother's words that she was completely chilling, so she told her mother directly, "Don't call me daughter. From today on, we will completely sever the relationship." .
It's also because you said that, and his mother slammed the door angrily and left. Then my mother smeared Ah Jun's reputation everywhere, saying that she was a baiwenhang and that she was ungrateful. She said she picked her up and fed her so much, but she didn't know how to be grateful. Because of this, many people scold her and speak ill of her. So she asked me, "Is she really wrong?" ?
In my opinion, although compassion is not as important as compassion, it is actually only the father, not the mother, who only hurts her, so she has no obligation to support her.
Besides, she is married, so the most important people to her must be her husband and children, not hurting her mother everywhere. Therefore, A Jun's refusal is reasonable, because she must consider her family first before she can help her mother treat the disease. The psychologist said, "Putting the relationship between husband and wife first is the foundation of a happy marriage." So jun is not wrong. Everything she did was to protect her family.
In my opinion, in the face of injury, we have no obligation to return good for evil. Even if the person who hurts you is your relative, we can't forgive you easily because the person who hurts you is yourself. Injury is injury. The easier you forgive each other, the more you will make them unscrupulous and worse.
In my opinion, whether a mother is worthy of filial piety depends on whether a mother is worthy of filial piety and whether she has fulfilled her responsibilities and obligations as a mother. If a mother does nothing but hurt her child, it is understandable that even if the child does not support her, because she has no choice to retaliate against the injured child, which is the greatest tolerance of the mother.