He is one of the few literate people in the play. He is exquisitely dressed, can recite poems and write poems, and has a high taste in life.
Beneath his glamorous appearance, there is a cold heart. His smug and exclusive manner is really unpleasant.
His life is also the most ups and downs, originally a life of infinite scenery, because he was labeled as a rightist, thus falling to the bottom. In the 10 years on the island, he can only keep company with sour boats.
I also dragged my wife and children into trouble and lived a hard life.
After his recovery, he went to the other extreme, unruly and unrestrained. Such a man is destined to have ups and downs in his life, and his fate has long been written in his character.
superiority complex
Ouyang Yi's sense of superiority is quite condescending.
He was full of pride as soon as he appeared. At first, he looked down upon Jiang Defu very much, thinking that he was a lout and an old illiterate. His eyes and tone were full of disdain, and he even felt that he was not worthy of Angie.
Jiang Defu was invited to dinner and specially chose a western restaurant.
Jiang Defu has never eaten steak, can't use a knife and fork, and doesn't know table manners. He has been embarrassing himself. Yi Ouyang sat there, watching Jiang Defu's embarrassment. His face was covered with the words winner.
Yes, when we first met, he had an argument with Jiang Defu.
As a settled son-in-law, he acquiesced that he was better than Jiang Defu. But the eldest brother Antai didn't take Ouyang Yi's bait. In his view, Jiang Defu is the most important person to settle down.
With his help, there is no need to settle down. Facing the flattery of Antai, Ouyang Yi was filled with indignation. Besides, Jiang Defu is not weak, calling him "old Europe" will bring him another army.
When a person is better than ordinary people, it is normal to have a sense of superiority inside. A moderate sense of superiority can enhance a person's self-confidence, while an excessive sense of superiority will only ruin his future.
Because the other side of the sense of superiority is that you can't recognize your position and make a big mistake.
When Antai and Anjie went to the railway station to see Ouyang Yi and his wife off, Antai asked Anjie to be careful. Obviously, Ouyang Yi must have put his foot in his mouth and offended others.
This point was once again confirmed by Ouyang Yi in his later years. That year, after retiring, Ouyang Yi went to Jiang Defu's house to be a guest, and the whole people were in high spirits, as if seeing Ouyang Yi when he was young again.
Jiang Defu has complicated feelings for Ouyang Yi. Because he witnessed the ups and downs of his life, he also cherished this friend.
He took out Moutai to entertain Ouyang Yi, which was the highest courtesy to Jiang Defu.
Unexpectedly, OuYangYi ungrateful, just disdain ground to say:
"Moutai is nothing now, and ordinary people can drink it! In the old society, Wang Xietang flew into the homes of ordinary people ... "
This sentence obviously offended Jiang Defu, whose face was ugly. An Xin realized that she wanted to stop Ouyang Yi, but Ouyang Yi spoke harder.
Ouyang Yi: "I will talk about the actual situation."
An Xin: "You still have to talk about the actual situation!"
Ouyang Yi: "I won't say who said it!" "
An Xin: "Do you want to wear another hat? Isn't the Rightists enough? "
Ouyang Yi: "What happened to the Rightists? Not everyone is qualified to be a rightist! "
Obviously, Ouyang Yi is very arrogant. Even though he knew these words were not pleasant to hear, he had no scruples because of his superiority in his heart.
This kind of personality, outspoken, regardless of others, no wonder it will plummet. Sadly, he never learned to be modest until he was old, but he became more and more arrogant.
In fact, this self-righteous sense of superiority often kills a person.
People who are truly capable don't have so much nihilistic superiority, and only people who are half as good as themselves are complacent when they have some skills. Such people can't fly high and can't walk far.
Depression at the bottom of the valley
Ouyang Yi is full of smiles when he is proud, and no one cares. When she hit the bottom, she was completely different. The 10 year in Xiaoheishan Island is like going to jail for Ouyang Yi.
In such a difficult environment, An Xin can still have a taste, while Ouyang Yi is only frustrated. Put on a blue suit, not a suit with a leather collar. Ouyang Yi has no previous style.
At that time, Ouyang Yi felt inferior, depressed and desperate. Therefore, people who can talk in Kan Kan have few words.
I used to write love letters with peace of mind, and those romantic feelings were polished by life. Ouyang Yi frowned and was cold to his friends and wife.
A plot that impressed me deeply was that Angie went to visit them on Xiaoheishan Island. An Xin called Ouyang Yi back, but Ouyang Yi never went back. An Xin stood on the shore, her eyes blurred, leaving only loneliness and helplessness.
Why doesn't Ouyang Yi see Angie? Because he didn't want others to see him down and out, his self-esteem couldn't stand it.
People like Ouyang Yi have to rely on their sense of superiority to survive. If they hit rock bottom, the first person to sentence him to death is not others, but himself.
In his mind, there is a curse: only if I am glamorous enough, I deserve to be respected.
This kind of psychology is essentially a manifestation of self-distrust.
In fact, a truly powerful person can accept the best and bear the worst, and will never underestimate himself at any time.
I admire An Xin for this.
Living an inhuman life in Xiaoheishan Island and Ouyang Yi, they never put out the fire in their hearts. When she misunderstood that Angie was a servant, she didn't acquiesce in this identity, but quarreled with Angie. She wants equality and respect.
A person has inner strength, and under any circumstances, he can turn life into a poem.
Obviously, Ouyang Yi lacks this kind of power in his heart, and that's all. When the hardships of life came, he couldn't stand it at all.
From this dimension, Ouyang Yi is lucky, because An Xin shines on him like a beam of light. Without the careful care of An Xin, Ouyang Yi may not live for 10 years.
Unfortunately, Ouyang Yi may not be able to see the peace of mind's love and dedication to himself. From beginning to end, his sense of superiority was above Anxin.
Peace of mind is just standing behind him, caring for his self-esteem and protecting his sensitive and fragile mind. Ouyang Yi will bless his family with his sufferings. When his life is unhappy, he will give A Xin a cold shoulder.
In those 10 years, I can't imagine how much injustice An Xin suffered. She just learned to be patient and compromise. I wonder, if Jiang Defu has suffered so much, how will he live?
Jiang Defu is a man based on reality. No matter in high position or low position, he will not show any sense of superiority, but keep goodwill and the bottom line.
Even if he falls to the bottom, he will wait for the spring to bloom step by step. This is where Ouyang Yi can't compare with Jiang Defu.
Never learn to be modest.
Speaking of humility, Ouyang Yi also had a period of time. Just then, he took off his hat and went to Jiang Defu's house.
He has completely lost his previous pride, his eyes are full of sincerity and gratitude, and he is also respectful to Jiang Defu.
That night, on the wine table, Ouyang Yi cried and whispered: "I am Ouyang Yi, I am not Lao Ou."
This sentence is enough to explain his suffering in 10. Yes, he wants to be the glamorous Ouyang Yi, not the old Europe that everyone can bully.
After 10 years of tempering, his arrogance and stubbornness were finally worn away. At that time, Jiang Defu and Anjie were particularly distressed to see him like this, so Jiang Defu took the initiative to arrange two daughters to serve as soldiers.
I thought that Ouyang Yi should understand the truth of life and learn to be a humble person. Unexpectedly, as the days get better, Ouyang Yi can still forget the pain.
When we met again, Ouyang Yi in his later years had more problems. He looks very fashionable. He plays golf through online stock trading, but his heart is still very fragile.
He constantly demonstrates his ability and wants to prove that he is better than Jiang Defu.
This posturing is really annoying. Another plot is that Jiang Defu and his party decided to return to the island and stop at Xiaoheishan Island.
The residents on the island were very enthusiastic and held up banners to welcome Ouyang Yi and An Xin. But Jiang Defu several people didn't.
At this time, Ouyang Yike was so proud that he repeatedly stressed that his treatment was good, and even deliberately asked Jiang Defu to go down.
I have to say that Ouyang Yi is also very fierce. The painful place in those years, after many years, nothing happened.
Ouyang Yi pursued superiority all his life, which helped him find his self-worth and made him stumble.
Someone asked, where did Ouyang Yi and Jiang lose?
Obviously, Ouyang Yi is a person floating in mid-air. He needs flattery and appreciation from others too much. It can be said that he is a person who lives for the eyes of others.
Such people, no matter how decent they live, find it difficult to gain real self-identity and happiness in their hearts. I prefer Jiang Defu. He is a man who can keep his original heart.
No matter what others think, he just closes the door and lives his own life.
He understands that the principles of dealing with people are sincerity, humility and kindness.
Comparing Jiang Defu and Ouyang Yi, we can also get a glimpse of the true meaning of life: in this life, we should all live for ourselves, instead of pursuing those unwarranted superiority. The higher a person floats, the worse he falls. Only by keeping an initial heart can he go further.