Confidante: 75-year-old Aunt Qin, we are colleagues in the same unit. We have a good relationship with each other at work. Later, Xiao Li divorced. After the children grow up and get married, Xiao Li doesn't want to find another wife. She found me first and asked me to support the elderly together.
We didn't know the word at first, but we felt that we had a good relationship, were single, had no children around us, and didn't want to find another wife. It is also good to live together and take care of each other. Later, my elder sister's wife left, and we were sad to see her. In order to alleviate her sadness, we invited her to live with us.
In this way, we three old ladies live together. I'm from the south, and I like light taste. Xiao Li is a Beijinger with a generous personality. She thinks it doesn't matter what she eats. My elder sister is from the northeast and likes to eat stew. We try to get used to each other. We were together for 10 years, playing Tai Ji Chuan in the square park and studying vocal music in the university for the aged. More importantly, we are happy together and lonely together.
Our respective pensions are ok, and our children support us. Our cautious sister is responsible for the financial management of all our expenses, and everyone gives her a sum of money every month. Usually, whoever buys some small things occasionally does not keep accounts. When children come to see us, they will also buy three gifts. At that time, we felt that life was too happy. ? Don't worry about all kinds of trivial matters at home, and don't worry about the trivial matters of your husband's family.
During this period, we three sisters who are uncomfortable, we help each other through. My elder sister has been hospitalized several times, and we all accompany her and comfort her.
Our first few years were very good. As I grew older, I found that maybe it was all kinds of changes in our family. My sister's temper has changed a little. If Xiao Li and I don't behave well there, she can nag us all day, and, like parents, we are not allowed to do this or that.
At first, we thought that our sister was old and her temper had become an old child, so we tried to accommodate her. Later, slowly, she was always angry with us, calculating the usual living expenses and who worked how much.
In fact, we can also understand my sister's mind. The three of us are old, and there are some things that really need help? . Xiao Li and I discussed with my sister whether we could invite an hourly worker to come back to cook and clean.
Sister doesn't want to She thinks it's a waste to give money to the hourly worker. Three people each did more, and then they passed. But Xiao Li and I feel that our conditions are not bad, so why should we spend our old age so hard?
We didn't know about it from others until my sister moved away. My elder sister bought a big house for her son with the pension money, and part of the pension was used to supplement her son, so my elder sister didn't want to hire hourly workers.
In fact, my elder sister said that Xiao Li and I wouldn't let her pay this part of the money, but when she was old, she cared more about her face and dignity, and she didn't want others to sympathize with her. Her self-esteem was heavier than when she was young.
Later, I discussed with Xiao Li to find a good nursing home with a combination of medical care and nursing, where everything is available and suitable for the elderly to live in their later years. After discussing with the children, we went to the nursing home hand in hand and could be companions together.
How can I put it? ? Holding a group to support the elderly is really beautiful at first, and it is also an ideal way to support the elderly. But it is suitable for people who have a certain economic foundation, the same consumption and outlook on life, can resonate and get along well.
When the other person is in good health, it is happy to support the elderly. If someone is in poor health or can't take care of themselves, they still have to find their own children to support the elderly or go to nursing homes. After all, the people who hold the group are also old people, and their energy and physical strength can't keep up.
It's good to plan for your old age in advance, so that even if you really reach old age, you can choose the right way to support your old age. While you still have the ability, try to save more pension for yourself, because it is not enough to expect old-age care. Only when you have it in your hand will you feel safe, especially when you are facing illness, and you will not think about where to find money to see a doctor.
Secondly, we should get along well with our children and let "mother's kindness and filial piety" enjoy the warmth of family affection in their later years. If we can't do this, in her later years, the family will care about a chicken feather and talk about happiness for the elderly.
Especially for families with many children, try to make a bowl of water flat and let the children respect you. If you are not sad, even if you are filial, you will have resentment, which will make everyone unhappy and disappoint your parents and children.
Finally, we must understand from the heart that the old-age care ultimately depends on ourselves, and the three treasures of old-age care must be well guarded. It's a pity to have a nest, capital and wife, especially with a nest and capital. Because couples fall in love again, one of them will go first, and eventually they will all taste loneliness and die. Hold on to your nest and capital, so that even if your wife leaves, you still have a place to live and money to spend, so that you can support your old age.